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Sibling POA Is Blocking Communication with Mother?

While my elder sister has never been a real sister to me since I was very young, she has not stopped short of being really mean spirited to me for years in any capacity that she could.

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She holds POA for my mom; both live in Florida. My mom divorced my father and moved to Florida about 18 years ago when she retired at the age of 70. I live in Connecticut. Since my mom moved to an assisted living facility 4 years ago, my sister has done everything possible to interfere with my ability to communicate with my mom.

Examples: 1) when my mother changed rooms within the facility and was assigned a new phone number at the facility, my sister not only refused to share that information with me, but actually blocked me from getting it from the assisted living facility. I called the police and they said I have to hire an attorney. 2) When my mother fell and broke her hip bone and the artificial hip she had, the day after my mom's surgery, she went off on a cruise, leaving my mother alone. After 2 to 3 weeks of recovery Mom was transported to a therapy center to recover, my sister refused to tell me where she was sent after repeated requests and my mother telling her to communicate that to me. I had to call all the facilities in the area for 3 days to find my own mother. 3) I now have learned from my younger sister that my elder sister (POA) has not started taking my mail that I send to my mother and has not given it to her. I do not know if she will. The mail is letters to my mom from her mom over 60 years ago, which my mother has been waiting for now for 2 weeks. She has nothing like that from her mom.
While I understand she (POA) does not need to communicate things about my mother, she has successfully blocked my ability to get any information about my mom's health, send her mail, and get information if she moves to a hospital or even if her phone number changes. I can only imagine that she will now change my mom's telephone number so I cannot have access to speak with her anymore. When I visited my mom a few months ago, we tried to add my name to the assisted living facility roster so I can get even updated contact information about my mom, and even my mom has been blocked from changing this because a few years ago she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease.

Please help if there are any other options without going through a very costly court battle which I cannot afford. My mom is 89 this year and is not well. She may not have another year left.
Thank you so much!

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July 15, 20160 found this helpful

You need to consult a lawyer in the state where your mother and sister live to resolve this matter. Laws concerning elder care and POA's vary from state to state.

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I may be wrong, but I don't think a POA can be used to prevent you from communicating with your mother.

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July 15, 20160 found this helpful

A POA usually addresses only medical and financial issues unless there is specific language for other issues-rarely!. Your sister's POA most probably has nothing to do with all the problems you detail. Unfortunately, your sister's POA does not legally require her to contact you for any reason regarding your mother. You face a serious sibling issue that you both will eventually need to address yourselves or contact an attorney to assist a in a meeting to address your concerns.

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I would also be concerned about your mother's finances and what your sister may have done regarding your mother's bank account monies and other financial accounts. As POA, she is required to be able to support every penny she has ever removed or spent from all of your mother's accounts.

Unfortunately, unless you both can meet and come to an agreement about the communication issues, you will probably need to seek legal assistance to address the problems. You can find an attorney specializing in POA and elder care issues in Florida from the Florida Bar Association site:

www.barassociationdirectory.com/.../florida-bar.php

Good Luck!!!

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March 15, 20230 found this helpful

My sister has blocked me from contacting my Mom on her cell phone now because my sister has been paying for her phone. Can she do this to her? My Mom is 82 & dose not think my sister would do this to her. My Mom has told my sister to get out of her house after she assaulted her a month ago.

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My sister Brandi Benefield has also stold all her money coming in to my Mom last month would not give it to her. Please help me my Sister is out of control. I'm scared she is going to hurt my Mom again.

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