I'm planning a surprise party for my Mom's 50th birthday. She's a good person, but a little more reserved than some. Any ideas for a theme? I have roughly about 70 people invited so far. Which is better, a barbeque with hamburgers and hot dogs, or a sit-down-knife-and-fork mostaccioli dinner?
Also, my parents are divorced, but my Dad would be hurt if I didn't invite him. However, my Mom's side of the family aren't exactly on good terms with him. What should I do?
Jackie from MI
Jackie, It's great that you are honoring your mother. Since you say she is reserved perhaps the casual barbeque would be more comfortable for her. I personally would not invite your father. If you feel that her side of the family doesn't like him they probably have what they feel are good reasons to dislike him. It is her day. Don't make it about him. There may be hurt feelings all around, but the bottom line is it's her birthday. (08/14/2005)
What if your father came by before or after her birthday with a gift or a well wishes. He may be uncomfortable knowing he is on her relatives' bad side. It would only cause tensions that no one really wants to walk into.
If you like, sit your parents down separately, your mother first, and say you'd like to take them both out to dinner, or have them over for dinner, just them. That way, if she declines, you've not brought up the subject to your father and his feelings won't be hurt if she does not want to spend much time with him.
Just a gentle thought: They are your parents, and I am sure they both love you, but they are divorced, and forcing them together on her day just may ignite old hurt feelings. (08/15/2005)
You should have a barbeque with hamburgers and hot dogs because everyone can mingle around.
You should try to keep your dad and your mom's side not to close to each other. (02/27/2008)
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