By mc4lifes from Sydney, NSW
I was wearing lip gloss and eyeshadow at 13, though I had to pester my mom for weeks to wear it lol! I think it's pretty normal for girls that age to start getting interested in makeup. Maybe you could compromise and let her wear some sheer lip gloss or something like that? They have fruity-flavored ones that are marketed towards teens. Just something that lets her feel a little more grown-up but doesn't go against your principles.
Instead of fighting with your daughter, teach her the proper way to wear makeup. My mother did that for me and I did that for my daughter and we are doing the same for my granddaughter.
Given proper instruction to wearing makeup; she won't look like a painted sacrificial lamb.
My 90 plus year old mother is proud of me. I am proud of my daughter and granddaughter.
As long as she's not slathering on the makeup, a touch of lip gloss and eye shadow are appropriate for a girl in her early teens.
I went to a private school clear back in the 1970's, and I wore a little bit of eye shadow when I was 12. Nobody even noticed, and it didn't violate the dress code. I wasn't dating or anything. I didn't wear it to attract boys. I just wanted to borrow my mom's eye shadow, LOL.
And that was nearly 35 years ago. Nowadays, a little eye shadow and lip gloss are perfectly appropriate for young teens. That's why makeup manufacturers target advertising to them, in teen magazines, etc.
Hope this info helps!
Being treated like a teen is about fitting in. Basically it is the same thing. When my oldest daughter was 12-13 we weren't allowing her to wear make-up and now that she is approaching 50, if her Dad had his way she wouldn't be wearing make-up yet. Then one day when she came home form school I noticed she had eye make-up on and asked her where she had got it and she told me she had used another girls. This was in the day when the only make-up that girls wore was eye make-up.
Anyway I went and bought her a couple colors of eye shadow and when her Dad came home from work I told him about it and that it was better for her to have her own, than be using somebody elses. I would let your daughter wear the lip gloss and maybe a little eye shadow, she is awfully young to be wearing glitter. Actually I think the only people that should be wearing glitter are people in show business or for a formal event.
A lot of girls tend to cake on makeup when they first start to wear it, and it can look very bad and over- done when they are in the process of learning. So I know where you are coming from. I think a small amount of makeup should be allowed. Perhaps you could take her for a special treat to the mall to any cosmetic counter in the department stores (Belks, JC penny etc.) And get one of the makeup artists to do a demonstration on your daughter for a light teen makeup look. I know Clique does your make-up for free if you make any purchase from them (big or small- doesn't matter). They do a wonderful job, and they are very nice and they can show your daughter how to do it very simply.
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