13th Birthday Blunder

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Apologize and just be as pleasant as possible. Don't try and suck up. Us moms know a suck up as quick as it starts and I hate it if I feel my kid was sucking up just to get their way. They could soften me up by being nice and pleasant but sincere at the same time. And if she still won't let you have your party, think about the fight and after she's not mad anymore, ask her if ya'll can talk. Ask her what it was you did or said that made her the maddest. You'll then find out what not to do in the future.

Post By CindyM56 (Guest Post)

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I would tell her that you are so sorry and ask her what you can do to make it up for her even if you don't like what she tells you to do. So just do it, give her a hug, and mean it because she will now if you don't and tell her that you love her.

Post By amanda (Guest Post)

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I thought at first this was MY haley writing this and I thought..what? I wouldn't cancel a party out of anger, then read the date and thought ok...she isn't the same Haley. I just came on to wonder how it worked out after all this time.

Post By mom2aHaley2 (Guest Post)

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Hey I'm 13 too and I would hate 4 my mom 2 cancel my bday! So just be really sweet around the house help clean up and calmly apologize 2 her saying that u r sorry and u were being immature or something (not saying u actually were). Be a real sweet heart and do all you can to help!

Post By Kelly (Guest Post)

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One of the girls that replied, told you to lie to your mom by saying you were sick. Don't ever lie. It's wrong and it says to your mom that you don't respect her and you think she is stupid enough to believe your lies.

Although I disagree with your mom, this is the wrong punishment to give you; to take away a birthday party that's already been planned and invitations sent. But, you have to obey your parents. And, hopefully you've learned a valuable lesson and will not be rude to your mom ever again.

Post By Enter your name. (Guest Post)

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When your mom next goes out you stay in the house pretend you don't feel well and you're going to bed. As soon as shes out of sight then make a nice surprise. I made a chocolate cake with cream. I also write a note saying I'm sorry I shouldn't of done what I did. I promise I will never do it again and when shes back get in bed and pretend you have been there the whole time until she notices. She will be so thankful that she will let you have your party.
I hope this works for you. Jordan x

p.s. Good luck

Post By jordan (Guest Post)

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I am not sure how your mom is but you could do something nice to show that you appreciate everything that she has done for you. Don't say sorry constantly just say once or twice also be the best you can be with her try not to get in fights no matter how hard it is so she can see that you are really trying. I hope everything goes well. Write back.

Post By morgan614 (Guest Post)

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Hi Haley. Try doing things around the house for your mom. Let her know that your sorry about talking back. This usually works with my mom. Good Luck.

Post By Hayley (Guest Post)

dudes..plzzz help me.

hi im jackie and im turning 13 in like 3 days my friends are expecting a cool party...but i have no clue what to do. help me

Post By jackie (Guest Post)

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Hi, I have just agreed with my mum what to do for my thirteenth. We are going out for dinner at this brill restaurant. The great thing is my mum thinks it is a safe enough to let us stay there by ourselves for the evening. I know my friends will enjoy it because it is a great atmosphere and even has a DJ! If you want to do something memorable, fun yet relativley cheap, go to a restaurant - i can guarantee that it won't be boring!!

As for the original post - if you get in a row and your party gets banned - just be on your bestest behaviour and repeatedly say you are sorry. Do as many chores as possible, keep your head down and don't mention the party.
Anyway, if you have already sent out the invites, chances are your mum is just saying that because she got angry, and she won't make you tell your friends it's off. Then again, I don't know everyone's mums and I haven't tested out this theory!

Hope this helped,
Mani
x

Post By Mani (Guest Post)

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My best friend's mother has asked me to plan her 13th birthday party. Her birthday is Jan. 3. We don't have a big budget and I'm running out of time. I know this is really important to her so if you could plz help me with some great ideas for our small budget.

Post By maggie (Guest Post)

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It is my birthday on christmas so i am having a party on the 22nd December... I am turning 13 but don't have a clue what to do at my party which will be in my house. Any ideas?

Post By Jessica (Guest Post)

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Tell your mom you're really sorry and ask her if there is anything u can help with even if it means missing something fun that u could do another time. Not having a 13th birthday party would stink, so be your mom's little angel for a little bit

Post By Caroline (Guest Post)

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Write her a lettter saying your really sorry and wish you hadn't said it. Don't mention your party and buy her some chocolates and do lots of chores for her. Make her breakfast in bed and just be really nice. Hopefully she will realise your sorry and let you have your party back=]
Happy 13th birthday
xx

Post By Lounarr (Guest Post)

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My birthday is on Sunday but I'm celebrating it on Saturday. The question is what do I do on that day. Do you have any ideas?

Post By Demetria (Guest Post)

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I have no idea what I'm doing for my party. I wanna go somewhere so we're all excited and hyped up then go back to the house and go in the basement and play truth or dare watch scary movies and its with boys and girls and I'm really nervous so please help! I need somewhere to go.

Post By hey (Guest Post)

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My name is Maryssa and my 13th party is in 2 weeks and i don't know what to do and I don't want it to be lame! And I don't want my friends to get bored! I looked all over google for like what to so and noting helps you AND I NEED HELP!
Maryssa

Hopefully every thing turns out okay!

Post By Maryssa (Guest Post)

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hi guys!

My 13th Birthday is in December and I have a bunch of ideas but my mom says they are all to expensive! Now I don't know what to do and I haven't got much time!

Post By Corinne (Guest Post)

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jeez, dat sucks! shame i feel 4 u tell yr mom that yr really sorry, and not just because u want your party back, u have to really mean it! buy her flowers (dono wy but it really makes them tick!) good luck hope u get yr party back!

Post By holly (Guest Post)

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IT IS MY 13TH BIRTHDAY IN A FORTNIGHT AND I AM THE LAST OUT OF MY FRIENDS ALL MY FRIENDS WER WORRYING BUT I SED JUST DO ANYTHING U WANT AND IHAV BEEN TO SOME AMAZING PARTIESTHIS YEAR BUT NONE OF MY FRIENDS HAVE DONE ANYTHING SIMPLE SO I HAV AND WER ALL LOOKING FORWARD TO IT ANYWAY FOR U MORE ADVENTUROUS TEENS-TO-BE GOOD LOOK AND I HOPE YOU PARTIES A BLAST

Post By CASEY (Guest Post)

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hiya i think the whole idea of a 13th birthday is brilliant, im havin tee out to save money and hassel, hope everythin works out for your all! Matty england

Post By matty (Guest Post)

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Maybe you could apologize and clean the house and make it spotless!! Or you could earn money and tell her you'll pay 4 your own party?! I dunno it's just a suggestion.

Post By anonymous (Guest Post)

HELP WANTED!

OKI I AM 12 AND TURNIN 13 AND HAVE NO IDEA WHAT 2 DO FOR MY BURFDAE I WOULD REALLY LIKE A BEUTICIAN AT MY BIRTHDAY 2 DO A FACIAL AND OUR NAILS BUT I DONT HAVE A CLUE WERE 2 GET 1 ANY1 NO ANY1 THAT DOES THAT KIND OF STUFF ? BUT IT HAS 2 BE QUITE CHEEP! LOL

Post By LAUREN (Guest Post)

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i really need help with my party in december its guy and girls and theres going to be about 60 people there and about 15 sleeping the night. i have no idea what to do or what theme i should. my mum is protective about these kinda parties n shes askin her frends to be here helping coz theres going to be so many of us. we r going to play spin the bottle and seven minutes in heaven and thats all i can think of. Any ideas?

Post By danie. (Guest Post)

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hah. i get into a lot of trouble with my parents. what i would suggest would be:

first dont talk to her for a while and go into your room and think about what you've done. then go up to you mom and say how sorry you are, and what this party means to you. you have to actually have PROOF you are sorry.. im Indian, and do you know HOW STRICT indian parents are... sigh. so i think this will work out for you!

good luck. and i hope you have a great party...

Post By jeanz (Guest Post)

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hey
i talk back a lot and get into a lot of trouble
what usually works is if you just tell your mom how much it means to you after all it IS your 13th birthday!!!!
That's a HUGE day!!!!
hope it works out!!

Post By mattie (Guest Post)

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Hey,
I will be turning 13 in December so yes its a long time from now but me and my sister/BFF is wanting to have a party together. Well heres the thing this will be the first time we have really hot boys at our B-day party (besides our close relatives and friends) and we don't want to mess things up. We have some ideas of having it at my sisters house and it is two storys. Her parents just had it built so it will be nice. Her momma was thinking that like we could have a dress up party with a lot of stuff like dress up. Me and my sister was thinking about there being a christmas/13th b-day party. It would be cool. We would have snow and christmas trees and all sorts of things. We just need help should we go all fancy and get all pretty fany dresses? Please Help!!!!!

Post By Brookyln (Guest Post)

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i really really need help for my thirteen birhtday i have absolutely no ideas on what to do
plz plz plz help

Post By becks (Guest Post)

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ok, so i'm really rich & i'm turning 13 and obviously i'm gonna have a party..but my mom said it shouldnt be too extravagant because well that would make me look 'bad' and so i need some help because idk how to act like a 'moderate' person

Editor's Note: Hi Emily, First set a budget for your party in dollars. Most people need to live within a certain budget, the amount that's left after paying for their house, food, etc. Then start looking for things that you can do for that amount of money. It's a good thing to learn no matter how much money you have (because you may not always be rich) and it's good for all of us to know how to live on less. Make a game of it and see how little you can spend to have a nice party. There are lots of money saving ideas on this site. If you don't spend much on your party, maybe your mom will let you use any extra money you would have spent to give to a good cause, Katrina Relief, pet shelters, the food bank, or someone else.
Susan from ThriftyFun

Post By emily (Guest Post)

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Hey. Im having a thirteenth birthday party. i am planning to have it at my house. unless you guys can help me think of something better. ok and im having boys there. they are really hott too. so i dont want it to be dorky or lame. and the best part about it is my parents wont be at the party. i dont know what to do at the party so thats what im asking from all of ya'll. all we have so far is spin the bottle and seven minutes in heaven. so i would appreciate it if u would email me at my email address instead of here. please email me at jltryles@hotmail.com

Post By Jessica (Guest Post)

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Hey i need ideas for my thirteenth birthday party. i am in a bunch. i want to invite boys so i dont want it to be dorky and lame. cause all the guys that i want to invite are really hott. all we have so far is spin the bottle and seven minutes in heaven. i dont no what else to do. i need a mature theme. so if u have any ideas i would appreciate it if u emailed me instead. email me at jltryles @ hotmail.com

Post By Jessica (Guest Post)

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hey!!
well u know im actually think about my 13th party...i dont know exactly what to do though... any ideas?

Post By Christine ...s2 (Guest Post)

RE: 13th Birthday Blunder/ I NEED HELP!!!

my birthday party is in less than 6 months! i am having a scating, dancing, and sleepover party but i don't have a theme! i really want my birthday party to be mature, cool, and exciting! for the scating and dancing part of the party it will have boys and girls! but the sleep over will be all girls! please help me!

Post By Brandy michelle johnson (Guest Post)

don't want no boring birthday !

Hey , i have no clue what to do for my birthday party in november , it is ment to be an all girls party but i want boys too but i cant so what am i ment do that is fun and better than everyone elses and not babyish and that will leave me short of things to do ?

Post By pixie (Guest Post)

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I need ideas for my 13th b-day party girls only!!
NEED HELP!
Katie

Post By Katie (Guest Post)

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I am trying to find a way for my mom to let me have a boy and girl party but she wont let me. I am turning 13 I think I have a right to that. She just thinks we will play all these bad games. She trust me in all but I dont know since I like the boys that are comming

please help

melmolover23@aim.com

Post By Amanda (Guest Post)

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my birthday is on Oct. 28 and i know what i'm doing for my party but i need some ideas for what me and a couple friends can do at a slumber party that they will enjoy besides twister moves and i dont even know if they will want to do that?? i need help!!

Post By Lauren (Guest Post)

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Sam, I'm a mom. Try to have someone let you use an empty room or building for free. Make it a small building. It wont cost as much to decorate it. Use lots of clear christmas lights. Lights are fun.

Post By tam (Guest Post)

My 13th birthday

Hi i'm Sparky i need help with my party i want to have a really really really really raelly BIG PARTY but it has to be CHEAP!!!! help me ?????

Post By Sparky (Guest Post)

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my bithday is nov-15 -05 and i wanna have the best partie eva like sweet 16 and im broke can anyone help me out please

Post By sheniqua (Guest Post)

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Hi I am turning 13 in 5 days and need some ideas.can some1 please help me!!!thank you!<3<3
-aLYsSa

Post By Alyssa (Guest Post)

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ok...heres the thing...i am turning 13 on october 2nd, therefore i cant have an outdoor party! we live in kind of a rich area, but e have no money at all! i need ideas for a great party (no dance party, my moms weird, she sed thats sweet sixteen) i am so upset, i live in pa, theres no where to go. so...im stuck. Pleasssseeee helppp! :'(.

Post By Ashley (Guest Post)

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Heyy i am planning my 13th birthday party but i have nothin and i turn 13 before any or my friend so i want my party to be the best so they can not top it but i need help please please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Post By Becca (Guest Post)

I NEED MAJOR HELP!

Hey im ariel, i really need party ideas .... im 12 and turning 13 in november(long time to plan) but i cant think of anything ! i dont want it to be too kiddy and i dont want to have just another sleep over where we just hang out and talk because im turning 13! I DONT KNOW ABOUT YOU BUT I THINK THIS SHOULD BE PRETTY BIG.! anyway i cant think of anything ... so anyone who has any sort of suggestion PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP!
Ariel

Post By Ariel (Guest Post)

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I need help planning my partie which is on july 18

Post By Chelsea (GUEST) (Guest Post)

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What you do is you tell your mom she is the best and tell her you love her and ask her what you can do to earn your party back.
when i am in trouble and get something taken away it always works for me!!

Post By Nicole (Guest Post)

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Hey,
I'm 13 and having a party .... my party is gonna be a vip/beach/luau ..... me and my friend are going to put sand on my drive way and are gonna make it look like its a rich person party .... there is gonna be a red carpet made out of fabric and we are gonna have flowers leis ..... we r also gonna have lots more ...

Post By Sam (Guest Post)

i need help

i need to now what to do for my party!my 13th birthday party it is 5day and i have to give out invatations today or tommarow.

please help me.

miranda

Post By miranda jackson (Guest Post)

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i need help 2

Post By Enter your name. (Guest Post)

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hey , i'm only 12 turning 13 in 9 days and i am thinking of something big my parents said to give them some major part ideas i have NO CLUE!!! please help me with some ideas please please please im in danger from getting embarressed by all my friends if i have a totaly wrecked part

help wanted
JeSsIcA

Post By jessi-poo (Guest Post)

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hey.. i agree with most of the others too
you should just go and appologize to her.. but don't bribe and give her THINGS
you could ask her what you could do to get it back basicly..
be a daughter.. :D
well hope you get it back
bye
Jaz

Post By Jazmin (Guest Post)

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okay first things fist- apologize... then compromise... like- "I'll clean my room for a week and do laundry- is that worthy enough to have my party back?" or "What can I do to earn my party back- I'll do anything."

Hope this helps

Post By Enter your name. (Guest Post)

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hey haley my mom just did the same thing to me and i told her i was sorry about it and if i could have a party and she said okie well id do the same ttyl emallie

Post By emallie (Guest Post)

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I agree with the others. Go to her, sincerely apologize, and ask her what you can do to be able to have your party. Even offer to be grounded for 3 weeks afterward if you can just have your party. I hope your Mom changes her mind. Memories are so imortant. Take lots of pictures and get double made so you can give your friends copies.

Post By suzi homemaker (Guest Post)

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hi hayley
i suggest you ask your mom for forgivness. explain that how you felt came rolling like thunder out of your mouth. try and talk with her. i am a 43 yrs old daughter that remembers well how this often happened to me. we always got it ironed out tho.

Post By sandy (Guest Post)

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Hi Haley;
This sounds like an Ann Landers sort of problem. I agree with the advice you`ve received so far.
Communication is a great solver of problems so talk to your mother!

Post by mairmie

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Hi Haley! Happy Birthday! Your mom is just being like any other mom--she is angry that you showed her disrespect, and she wants you to learn a lesson. To get on her good side again, you should write a nice letter to her telling her you know you were very wrong, and that was no way for an almost teenager to act. Tell her how much you love her and how much she means to you, then ask her if there is any other options for you to be punished for talking back. Make sure she knows that you understand what you did was wrong, and you should be punished for it. A thirteenth birthday is very special and can provide a lot of good memories in the future, it would be a shame to not have those memories. My daughter and I had a big fight on her 13th birthday, and we still cry over it--15 years later. Approach your mom as the young adult you are becoming, and have a nice mature discussion about the situation. Good luck honey--I hope you and your mom can work things out.

Post by nanalori

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You are going to need to muster a sincere apology... Something like: "I am very sorry I talked back, I promise to try hard to not to talk back in the future, please let me have my birthday party." Be sincere and if she lets you have the party, reward her good deed by being nice to her even when it's easier to argue.

Post By Joe (Guest Post)

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I don't know if your Mom is a great lady or a mean one, and I don't know if she is the type who always means what she says, or if she tends to blow off a little steam (which would not make her a mean lady, of course), but I think your only hope is in going to your Mom, apologizing (and being prepared to say why you're sorry), and asking her what you need to do for her to let you have the party. Unfortunately, it's really up to her. If she won't let you have the party, true friends will be sympathetic, and perhaps you can all go out for pizza or get together at a friend's house when your Mom decides to let you out of the house.

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