This happens to me as well. Every now and then my oldest son will "treat" me. But i'm always surprised that when we come into their town, I pay. When they drive up, I still pay! Whats the deal? So I have started saying "We need seperate checks" and that works for me. Once they get used to it after several times then they will have created a new habit of taking care of their own expenses. I got so tired of my adult children ordering too much food, they wouldn't take any of it home and they would even request a appetizer! Now its much easier and I enjoy meeting my kids out. :) ... View related article.