Bringing Up Young Boys To Become Responsible Husbands And Fathers

I once heard it said that you will never really know how effective you were as a parent until your child grows up and has a family of their own. Teaching a young boy responsibility and good values make life not only easier for the parent, but for his wife and family later in life.

Excusing bad behavior by explaining,"OH, HE'S JUST A BOY!" doesn't really cut it in the real world - outside of the home. Unfortunately the world doesn't love us the way a Mom does.

A boy's respect for women begins at home. Allowing a boy to hit or mistreat a female sibling gives out the message that females are unworthy of their respect. Unless it's taught at home, some poor woman will fall victim to his wrath.

Teaching a son that no one else is responsible for his upkeep makes life easier on both a Mother and a future Daughter-in-law. You know the old "House Rule", if you make the mess, clean it up! It begins early with Toys, clothes and snacks. Good habits formed early will follow them through their adult life.

Teach a young boy that chores are not just for women. Something as simple as carrying out the trash helps a child learn that he has a contribution to making life easier for his parent, and eventually his wife.

In small subtle ways teach a boy that it's not a "Woman Thing" to be thoughtful. Encourage him by suggesting, "It's so-and-so's birthday. Let's make them a card - or buy them a small present." Plant the seed and watch it grow.

Last of all, when your son comes of age to have children, let him know that there is NOTHING wrong with being a good responsible Dad. Diaper changes and bottle feedings haven't killed a man yet. But an overworked, stressed out wife and mother, sure can make for a miserable marriage.

Years ago, things were different, and I'm glad to say many men have changed their way of thinking and it seems the younger generation of men are more thoughtful than some were in the past. While your young sons are in their formative years, do your part, Moms. Your Daughter-in-law will thank you later!

By Sharon,Ky

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Joyce

August 25, 20050 found this helpful

Excellent..I have emailed your comments to my daughter...she has my two grandsons: Walter, age 7 & Sam, age 5.

By Kathleen (Guest Post)

August 25, 20050 found this helpful

This is absolutely true, and I speak as a relatively new daughter in law myself. It's much harder to housebreak a husband when he's grown than when he's still young!

By Diana (Guest Post)

August 25, 20050 found this helpful

I wish I could have personally thanked my mother-in-law for the great job she did raising her son, my husband, Gary. Unfortunately, she died before we even met! He cooks, vaccums and mops, bathes the kids, etc. and he treats me with respect (opens doors, carries packages and lets me park in the garage)

Now if he would only learn to sew ona button and clean the toliet! LOL

By Claudia (Guest Post)

August 26, 20050 found this helpful

This was great! Times have changed but not nearly enough. I see far too many of my married female friends who have full time jobs and have to handle the childcare and housechores nearly single-handedly. It's just not fair! And I have two thoughtless brothers who have never once remembered my birthday....that's up to their wives. The only hope we women have is for mothers of male children to train 'em right in the first place. Having had a husband, boyfriends, brothers and a father who 'just didn't get it', we can only keep hoping that future generations of men will learn from their moms to act better and more responsibly.

By sandy (Guest Post)

August 26, 20050 found this helpful

i also suggest the book Bringing up boys. by dr. james dobson. teach the boys how to be men

By christi (Guest Post)

August 26, 20050 found this helpful

excellent article. My husband is wonderful. Not much of a cook but great with a knife and a dishcloth. My brother is just the opposite and its becoming really hard on his marriage. With a almost one year old child and a relatively new marriage, men need to learn that taking care of a home and children is a job and a hard one at that.

No vacations, no overtime pay.

Joyce

August 29, 20050 found this helpful

Thanks for the reminder on Dr. Dobson's book: Bringing Up Boys. I recall hearing about it on the Christian radio station I listen to regularly. At the time, I thought it would be an excellent gift for Father's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas...thanks again for reminding me. My son-in-law's birthday is next month!!!

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