When we named our children we ended up starting with their middle names, then picked first names that we liked that went well with them. My mother passed away when I was a kid, so I really wanted to name my daughter after her, but didn't like my mother's first name - so I gave my daughter my mother's middle name, Eve (my mother was born on Christmas Eve).
For my second child, a son, we had an easy time picking the middle name. Both my father and my father-in-law shared the same middle name. My son's middle name became, William, after both his grandfathers.
If my third child had been a girl we would have used my mother-in-law's first name for her middle name and named her Katherine Elaine, but since I was having a boy, we asked my mother-in-law to choose his middle name. The funny thing was that I knew she'd wanted to name my husband Michael but didn't get her way, so I was SURE she would choose Michael. After months of debating, looking through the family tree, and asking friends what they thought, guess what she ended up choosing? My youngest son's middle name is Michael.
Admittedly, if our family names hadn't been to my liking, I might not have gone this route, but it was really important to me to give the kids some history in their names. The kids all think it's really neat that they're named for their grandparents, and of course, their grandparents think it's pretty special too. :)
By Stephanie from Hillsboro, OR
By garnetgirl9 from Stoughton, WI
On my side of the family, my grandfather was a Wallace, my father had the middle name Wallace. I was named after my grandfather so I was a 2nd. My family thought I should continue the tradition with Wallace as a first or middle name. Personally I hate the name Wallace, so my side of the family was slightly disappointed, but they accepted the name we chose.
On my wife's side of the family, her father really wanted a grandson named Gary Allen. Not really sure why, but he was pretty adamant if we had a son we should name him that. The only problem would be my last name is Lam so my son's initials would be GAL. Knowing how mean kids can be given ANY ammunition, that name was totally out of the picture. So my father-in-law was not happy.
What my wife and I decided was we needed names for our kids that didn't give other children ammo for abuse. It needed to be a name that the child would be happy with the rest of their life. But more importantly, it would be a name that had meaning for us and eventually them. A name that was distinct and strong to support their character. I grew up with what I considered a wishy-washy name and felt my self-esteem was vulnerable because of it.
So, consider family names, consider names that family members offer, consider what some of the nicknames could be for your child as they grow, but ultimately realize that choosing a name for your child AND HOW IT IS SPELLED is one of the most important decisions you are going to make for your child. They have to live with it the rest of their life.
If you have NO ideas for names and no one in your family makes any offers, there are MANY name books and websites for choosing names. They also give the general meaning of the name. If you are really pressed for a name and can't get on the internet or go to a book store there is a book you can reference right in your own house (almost every house has one). It's called a phone book and it is FULL of names. :)
Source: 3 children
By Suntydt from Tazewell, TN
My daughter-in-law and son can't seem to agree on anything. What is a good way to choose a baby name?
This is enjoyable part to be a new parent. I think it nice if both parent decided what they want name for the baby. For me its best to get from a bible or think names that related to the parents.