Dog Urinates When My Husband Comes Home


I have a 1 year old miniature dachshund that urinates every time my husband comes home. He wants us to get rid of her and I want to keep her. Any ideas?

jgl7777 from Cincinnati, OH



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By Kelly 20 512 05/09/2006

That sounds like nervousness; is he rough with her, intentionally or not? Animals can sense when one doesn't like them....My husband is not a cat lover, and when he was home alone with the cat, she never came out, even pooped under the bed. My husband grew to accept her, and they formed a respectful dislike for each other. You need to dwell deep in your heart, and if you have a close friend or family to give it too, please consider.

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By Cindy Adler (Guest Post) 05/10/2006

Use Belly bands if it is a boy. Is your doxie neutered/spayed?
I agree with the nervousness. Perhaps your dog could be taken out for a walk around the time your hubby comes home? Then when you return, hubby is there waiting to greet your doxie! He should try to develop a positive relationship with the little one. Maybe giving treats and saying postive things when the doxie is good. POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT

Perhaps dog obedience training would work?

The last resort would be finding a Dachshund Rescue to take your doxie. DO NOT SEND TO A SHELTER!

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By brenda newton 6 344 05/10/2006

When he comes in does he bend over to pet her immediately? Our cocker used to squat and pee as soon as people came in the door, but they usually would pet her immediately. We were told to totally ignore her when coming into the house and then she wouldn't get so excited. It seemed that as we would bend over to pet her she formed almost a submissive stance and would squat and pee.

Try to ignore her as you come in...don't even look at her for a few minutes. Let us know if that works for you also.

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By SL Edens 1 395 05/10/2006

My son and daughter-in-law's dog does the same thing when she's excited to see someone....it's always people she likes. Their solution has been to allow the dog to greet the person outside. It works for them....and she's actually gotten better.

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By Marnita Arner 14 33 05/10/2006

It's a Doxie thing; mine is 4 years old and although it is much better than when she was a puppy, when she gets excited upon seeing someone she knows, she will pee alittle. As others before me suggested, don't bend down to greet her, just acknowledge her by name and go on with whatever you were doing. It will get better, but may never go completely away. Don't get rid of her, there sweet personalities and fun-loving attitudes more than make up for the submissive peeing issue.

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By jgl7777 (Guest Post) 05/10/2006

Thanks for your suggestions!
My husband doesn't like her and yells when she pees so it doesn't help the situation.
She is very sweet and very funny and gets along very well with our sheltie. Both are females.

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By Kelly 20 512 05/10/2006

Animals will get nervous and exhibit behaviors like that, just when they expect the source. It's like a vicous circle. If he is okay with the sheltie, maybe talk him into building a relationship with her. My DH and late cat finally did, after a couple of years. Sometimes the vibes we send out can affect animals, and we don't even know it! If it is excited pee, I agree with the others, but my big dog has had shock from repetitive loud noises where he trickled pee, and we had to take precautions for that.

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By Carol in PA (Guest Post) 05/11/2006

This animal KNOWS hubby doesnt want to keep her. Shes afraid. Thats why she wets inappropriately...

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By Holly 3 141 05/11/2006

Poor baby...she is just so excited that Daddy's home! She loves him but then he yells at her :o(
Why not ,when you hear his car, bring her outside or in the garage so she does her tinkles there? She does not know what she is doing wrong if he yells and gets upset, she just becomes more upset herself. She is still a puppy.Give her some help. :o)
Or call your vet, I'm sure he has suggestions as well.

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By Susan in Oregon (Guest Post) 05/11/2006

I met a lady recently with a mini dachshund puppy. She was telling me that she has chosen this specific dog because those she'd had in the past had bathroom problems, mostly urinating. She told me that it was a genetic gene in dachshunds ( I didn't know that) and that she'd found out about her current puppies parents and their parents, if they had urinating problems, before she committed to a dachshund. This is probably a situation that the dog doesn't like either and is beyond it's control. Of course stressing the dog by knowing your husband doesn't like it isn't going to help either. Even if your husband doesn't like the dog, if the dog thinks he does things will be better. Thank you for loving your little dog!!

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By Susan in Oregon (Guest Post) 05/11/2006

Too bad you're in Ohio and I'm in Oregon. I'd love to have another mini doxie. Mine died a year ago at 17. They are wonderfully loving little dogs with huge personalities.

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By Ellie (Guest Post) 05/11/2006

I agree with the answers you have already. Dogs can pee because they are excited/happy to see someone, or because that someone makes them feel unpleasantly nervous! It's sad that your husband doesn't like her,she of course is aware of that and she sounds so sweet.
I hope some of the suggestions help.

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By Susan Sanders-Kinzel 9 2,498 05/11/2006

She probably thinks he's the alpha dog.

"Submissive urination is the ultimate show of respect and deference for higher rank. It occurs frequently with young puppies who have not yet learned and perfected other social skills and means of showing respect."

When he pays attention to her, she wants to show him she is submissive. The best thing for him to do is not pay attention for the first few minutes after he comes home. Also, keeping her outside when he comes home or somewhere where it won't hurt if she pees would be good and have him greet her there.

Tell him, it's because she adores him and thinks he's the head honcho, that might help him understand it.

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By Lois (Guest Post) 05/11/2006

My Chihuahua done the same thing she would get so excied to see people she loves everyone and is very sweet ,after she has got older she no longer pees when people start paying attention to her.I have heard that some dogs will pee when someone they really love comes home they are so excited to see them.Give the little Dog time to see if she will over come this problem

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By Kelly 20 512 05/11/2006

All of these suggestions are great, but I just remembered, dogs can hear their owners cars from at least one mile away, maybe longer depending on other sounds (sorry, lack of) so keep track of her behavior at certain times, or talk to hub on cell phone when she acts "off." My dog perked up and ran to the window when my husband was two miles from the house, when we lived in the country. That was at a time after major traffic went through, so it was quieter. He also gets home on a regular schedule, and dogs seem to sense that too. I "hear about it" if hubby comes home late, too bad it's at 6 am! Off the subject, I stayed at my mom's farm for a month, and my youngest son (6 months at the time) remembered the sound of my mom's car and started getting excited and looking at the door when she would pass on the road and turn into the driveway! AMAZING!

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By barb r 12 05/11/2006

Hope this is of help to you.

From your question, I'm not sure whether this is submissive urination or excitement. Submissive urination is made worse by punishment--and that includes any form of disapproval from you when the dog does it. It is a nearly involuntary reaction on the part of a submissive dog, in the presence of a person the dog perceives as dominant. If the person shows displeasure at the urination, that makes the dog even MORE submissive to that person, hence the problem gets worse.

If that is the situation, you need to ignore it when the dog does it, and try not to greet the dog when you first get home. You just keep walking and walk the dog straight outside without stopping your feet, bending over, or talking to the dog. After the dog has relieved outside, then you can greet.

Whether or not this is submissive urination, it can involve a urinary tract infection. When a dog has a tendency to submissively urinate, an infection will make it happen more easily, and can make the problem persist past the time the dog would normally outgrow it. When a dog has a urinary tract infection, control can be more difficult, and urination can happen from excitement, too.

So, look at how you are handling the dog as well as what is happening when she has these accidents. If she ever wets when she is asleep, that's another sign of infection. Frequent urination can also be a symptom of infection. That can be checked by taking the dog to urinate on leash, then as she starts to go, slipping a clean pie pan or soup ladle under her to catch it. Pour the urine into a clean jar, and take to the veterinarian for analysis while it is still fresh. This is less expensive than a sample collected by the veterinarian, and less stress on the dog. In some cases it will not be sterile enough, but in many cases it will be adequate to determine whether or not the dog needs to be on antibiotics.

It takes time to clear up these infections with antibiotics, and often they are discontinued too soon. To give you an idea, I had a dog with a urinary tract infection who took 4 to 6 weeks of antibiotics, and had about six urine checks. The veterinarian changed the medication twice, when the lab work indicated the antibiotic was not working. She did not have a recurrence of that infection. Often dogs who are given one antibiotic for a week or ten days will have a recurrence, and if the owner doesn't bring the dog back in, serious damage can result.

Besides the handling mentioned above, and checking for infection, giving the dog positive, reward-based obedience training will improve her confidence. That is an excellent antidote to submissive urination.

If she were older, another possibility would be the urinary incontinence that sometimes happens to female dogs. But that's not likely at her age.

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By Debbie Dzurilla 28 1,124 05/14/2006

I shouldn't say this but I laughed when I read that! It just struck me very funny! Sounds like a bad problem. If you can't figure out a way to stop it, I'm with your husband. I could not tolerate something like that for very long. We had cats for many many years before we adopted 2 beautiful children. We had a cat that started peeing in the house. It was just the pitts to say the least. I loved her and would not have gotten rid of her and altho I was sad when she died, can't say I miss her peeing in the house!

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By Jan Glier 3 1 05/15/2006

Thanks everyone for all your help!
I will keep you updated on how we are getting along.
So far I am trying to be outside with her when HE comes home (LOL). I think I will also check on the kidney infection to see if that is a problem.

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By Claudia- Baltimore (Guest Post) 05/16/2006

I also have owned 3 mini doxies (LH). I agree that this sounds like submissive urination. One of my males still does this if I pay too much attention to him when I say goodbye before I go to work. My other male flops on his back to show submission. At first, I thought these two rescue dogs had been abused in their former homes, but others tell me that is not necessarily the case. It's just part of establishing/respecting the 'pecking order.'

Like Cesar Millan says, "No touch, no talk, no eye contact, no affection" until she settles down. Good luck- This is a great breed!

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By kimberly 1 34 05/16/2006

i have a mini doxie who does the same thing (hes an outside dog tho) but anytime me or my husband comes out the door he gets so excited he pees all over the place. our other 2 doxies dont.

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By Sue (Guest Post) 05/19/2006

It could be submissive peeing.I had a cockapoo that did the same thing.We found that with him if we kept him in another room where it was quiet until after the "daddy's home"excitement it was much less frequent. They also sell 'Belly bands"that help in keeping the floors and furniture dry (they are washable")

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By Aline (Guest Post) 05/23/2006

My dog pees when we are outside and someone, ANYONE pays attention to her. Why is that and how can I stop that. It's kinda embarrassing.
Can someone email me at alley_107 at hotmail.com with help, thanks!

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By Lyndal (Guest Post) 01/28/2008

My dog has exactly the same problem. She is an Australian Terrier and pees whenever my husband walks in the door. When I come home she doesn't as I ignore her for quite sometime after I get home. I tell my husband to do this but he forgets. She will also pee if she knows I am going to take her for a walk or to put her outside. She will pee if strangers come over and bend down to pat her. I always put her outside while visitors are here for that reason. It can be quite frustrating and sometimes I do yell at her, but I know that she can't help it. I am taking her to vet anyway to see if there may be something wrong with her medically. For now I just have to know her triggers and work around it.

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By Jamie (Guest Post) 06/04/2008

My mini doxie did that when we came home because she would get so excited. We ignore her for at least a few minutes when we come in the door. After she settles down we can pet her and she won't do it then.

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By jonelle. (Guest Post) 11/07/2008

My dog, she is a black lab, about 6 or 7 years old, has peed in my room a few times now. I always yell at her and today she was walking and pee was dripping down from her tail. Also, when she was sleeping her whole area was wet. Is she sick or just getting old?

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