My family is facing our 6th move in the 6 years (in Aug) that my dh and I have been married. If we move again, where I think we will, this will be the farthest our kids have been from both sets of grandparents.
Our last move was the first either of our kids were old enough to realize what was going on, and dh and I were extremely stressed due to the reason we were moving. Our dd didn't do well around the move, very moody, wouldn't go to sleep on her own, and wouldn't even stay in a room by herself for a few seconds without making herself hysterical. (This was the same girl that would be in a room at the opposite side of the house from everyone else and sleep 12 hours at night plus two 2 hour naps.)
This move will be for a much better reason, so much less stress, but we all love the church we are in right now and I'm afraid of the same reaction from dd and maybe ds. Does anyone have any tips on how to ease this transition? Before if things got too bad we could send her to our parents homes for a bit of a break for us.
Thank you in advance and sorry for writing a book:)
I would make sure your kids have any blankets, stuffed animals etc. that they sleep with in a special box that you keep in the car with them. Maybe a note or video from Grandma and Grandpa about the new home and read/watch it just before going to bed the first night. Skype is a must for families that move across states from extended family. The kids could see G/G each night before bed until they are feeling safe and happy again.
You may want to decorate their rooms similar to the old home if possible and keep routines the same such as bedtimes, organization and meal times. Kids thrive on routine for feeling safe. Good luck!
Jessica, never worry about writing too much in a request. More info gives us in the TF family what we need to provide appropriate feedback. That being said, since you obviously love your church family and have a good relationship with them, you might consider talking to your pastor or lay leader about the upcoming move. If yours is a nationwide denomination, perhaps he/she can introduce your family to a congregation in or near your new home. Thanks to the wonder of the internet, you should also be able to gather a lot of info about the town, and maybe even view your new home on Google Maps. As for the children's reactions, the lower stress level you feel about this move may help them accept it more easily. They're more sensitive to your moods than you might realize, so believe me, they know.
Last but not least, make sure the children know Grandma and Grandpa's address, phone numbers, email, Facebook, any contact they can maintain, including simply writing postcards, should help make the transition easier for them.
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