RE: Is 13 Too Young to Have a Boyfriend?
Not too early, not too late. Just let the kid have a boyfriend. At 13 it's just like being best friends with a boy.
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I'm 13 i do not currently have a boy friend but hope to have one in the near future. i don't think it's to young but not a one-on-one thing alone. in a group or something. today a boyfried is merely someone to hangout with go to school events etc. a lot of my friends have boyfriends and their parents seem perfectly fine with it one of my friends even had a boy-girl party receently. someone asked the friends boyfried if he was going to kiss her. "NO" the mom shouted . your daugter and you obviously have god communication and they wouldn't go any further that a hug. good luck to you hpoe this helped!
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I think you should let her date. it is perfectly fine but I think you should meet this guy, because I went out with a guy and a few moths after he asked me out he cheated on me with his ex but my mom never met him. I am still going out with him but he knows my boundaries now, HE CROSSES THEM AND WE ARE OVER! I suggest you meet the boy and then make your decision. Keep the communication going, I never did it with my mom:(
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Let her date. I'm now 16 and had the boyfriend I'm still with from when I was 12. Some people think it's just puppy love but if she is serious about this boy just meet him get your impression first and help her make the decision about him.
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I personally don't think it's too young a lot of people in my school date at that age but go no further than hugging. But just as long as they don't do the adult things yet it's fine. I had really strong feelings for this handsome boy in grade 6 and yes they were genuine it was not "puppy love" as people call it. You can fall in love at any age except for 1-9. No one can tell you how you're feeling only you know. And there are mature 13 year olds who do know the true meaning of love and aren't silly too go too far as they're only young.
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well im in year 7 ( so nearly 12 years old ) and this year is my 1st year of proper relationships... but ive fallen in love with an awsome guy,,, we brake up heaps but always fall for eachother again. weve been going owt for most of the year. weve started kissing but that took like 8 months to do.... weve been on dates and everything... i tell me mum everything aswell and have promised her that if anything goes wrong or if he has pressured me into doing anything then i would tell her but he hasnt done annything.... maby you should meet the guy and then make the decison???? but my opion is that itz not to young....
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Honestly, it's a lot about age difference. I know some girls at my school who will go out with a lot of boys who are older and they think they are cooler that way. But honestly the guy is just thinking he can get something out of it.
Where I live in middle school girls don't get pregnant. People have a lot better morals here I think. But depending on surroundings is really important. And ask if her friends have boyfriends also. I think going out is NO big deal at age 13. I bet you know your daughter well if she asked you if she could. If you think she will make right choices then its TOTALLY fine because boyfriends are almost best friends at this age that you turn to. BUT it can be different depending on the person.
I do have a "boyfriend" but hes just my best friend and has helped me through a lot. I haven't even kissed him and it's been 2 months. It's not like we need to either. I just need him as a friend right now. And I know after were done with our relationship we'll stay friends. It really honestly isn't a big deal. And I can tell my mom anything. She has met him and she knows all about him. He's just treated like any other of my friends that come around.
Stay close with your daughter or things will happen if the connection isn't close. Good luck :) and really try to trust your daughter. Never make it sound like she's doing the wrong thing...just be there for her.
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I'm 13 and already I had a pretty serious relationship that went off and on for about a year. Our last time dating, we went out for about a month and a half then broke it off. Since then, I cant stop thinking of him. I feel sorry for all the other girls in the predicament, because it hurts. We've been apart for a month and he's moved on, and hes dating again. But for me, I cant stand seeing him with his new girl. I've tried to move on for awhile, and every time I just keep crawling back to him. Don't let your daughter date until she knows shes ready.
Cheers, Shaay xox.
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I am an Aunt to a young beautiful girl named Shelly. Shelly's Mom and Dad have allowed her since age 14 to have a boyfriend. For Holidays, family gatherings, and every other occasion their was the boyfriend. She has never experiences a moment without having a guy at her side.
Shelly is now 17 and pregnant. The Mom is still encouraging her to invite out the boyfriend all the time. Mothers almost seem glad when their young girls have boyfriends and its like they are trying to relive their own youth all over again.
IT IS NOT a good idea. Why would any parent encourage that. Why aren't we telling young girls....you have plenty of time to get a boyfriend. Concentrate on your studies and when you are older and know who you are, then you will also have a better idea what kind of guy you want. With a country with epidemic teen pregnancy obviously we have a lot of parents without a clue. My two best friends started going with guys at an early age and dated them all the way through high school. They married and of course found out that they had nothing in common and were totally different people. They are divorced now.
What could it hurt to make your girls wait at least until 17 to date? Hopefully by then they have developed a sense of who they are and parents "hopefully," have instilled in their girls a priority of education and waiting to get married until after college. Do you all want your girls to think they cannot survive or exist without a man in their life? I think allowing them to have a boyfriend at 13 or 14 is exactly what your doing.
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I'm supposedly supposed to wait till I'm 18 to date. I'm 13 going on 14 and I'm on my 4th boyfriend. I think it's fine. Unless, of course, your child is irresponsible, then you should be worried about what she is doing. I'm 13 and my boyfriend and I kissed on the first date. which was 4 days after he asked me out. Times are different now, nothing gets too serious. and girls just want to be loved by someone.
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I am 12 turning 13 in a few months. I have a boyfriend myself. I would say let her have one. She seems like a good girl. I would like it if my mom would give the okay if I were her. But make sure you keep the mother daughter relationship close like it sounds it is because then she might tell you about him, and what happened, and then you will know shes okay. But don't be too safety protective only a little or she will probably get annoyed. I hope this helped. So no 13 is not too young.
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No I'm 13 and I have had 3 bf and none of them have done anything to hurt me! At thirteen the guys just think your pretty and like your personality! Times have changed from what parents think and thirteen is the perfect time to have a boyfriend!
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Let her.(unless she has bad grades)Good luck!;)
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I am 9 and I have a boyfriend. I went out with him to the movies.
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I just came across this really old post, but yikes! My daughter is only 5 and I hate to think this will come up so soon. I think one of the major questions has to be: is 13 too old to have a broken heart? I say, yes. Because a truly broken heart is all-consuming and she will miss out on so much about being 13. I would not totally say no to the boyfriend but I would definitely set some rules about what is ok and what is not. Having the boy over for a family event, ok. Meeting at school for a dance with a group of friends, ok. One-on-one dating or alone in a room, etc., not ok. Try to see what your (grand)daughter thinks is ok. If the decision is made together, you might both be more comfortable. Also, she may feel pressure from her friends to have a boyfriend, and it may actually be a RELIEF to her to be able to say, "Oh, I'd like one, but my parents say no." My parents never set a curfew for me and there were plenty of times I wished I had had one. Good luck!
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By laughaholic.1994 (Guest Post)
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Im 13 myself and I don't think that its too young to have a "boyfriend". I have a boyfriend and my mom knows. He's 14 almost 15 and he's very respectful and we love eachother SOO MUCH! Times have definitely changed since our parents were our age and so with that said its not sooo bad as most adults make it out to be. All they think about is sex and all the innapropriate things that happen these days. I know and understand that teens these days are a little more prone to sex but it's not like that with EVERYONE! When we're just hanging out with our boyfriends all that really happens is just hanging out, hugging, holding hands and just having fun. My boyfriend and I are just like best friends, who like 2 kiss...lolz. But about that your daughter sounds like she has a good relationship with you, as I do with my mom and I can promise you the most they will do is kiss. Just learn to trust your daughter and if your confident with your teaching styles and the way you raised her to be then you should have nothing to worry about.
GOOD LUCK. HOPE THIS HELPED! <3!XOXO
-Marissa
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By allie_oops (Guest Post)
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I'm 13 and I have a boyfriend. He's 15 yrs old but he so loves me and I think we will be together forever. There are a lot of different guys in the world. It might take some a while to find the perfect one! I think you need to give her enough time. I just started dating this year, so iI think this is the perfect age. Adults think way differently then us. They think when you hug a boy all they can think about is having sex. I know my boyfriend does not think like that. I know him and he is a very Christian like person.
Make sure your daughter knows the boy before you let her go out with him because there are some bad boys out there. You so have to know your daughter before you let her go out with someone. You have to ask yourself questions like if she has to go through a break-up, can she handle it? Will she be able to say no in her time of need? And will she even want to say no when she really needs to? I guess it just matters about the girl and the guy and you of course! Good luck Elizabeth
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By Monkelcious (Guest Post)
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I think it shouldn't be a problem to have a boyfriend I'm 13 also it gives us girls a chance to see life in a different perspective and I do believe it is true you should know your daughter first, but it is hard when your parents will just block you out and say no and take it as a joke. If parents answer like that it distances the parent and child's relationship. I see my boyfriend as a very close friend that i can talk 2. I agree with Elizabeth (3/26/08)
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Right now I'm 14 years old and it is not an unpopular thing to have a boyfriend. My little sister is twelve and even she has a special guy friend that she hangs with. My opinion is that thirteen is not too young. My advice to you is to give her that freedom and stop worrying! Trust me when I say that the farthest that they'll go is a kiss, and the only situations where they'd "go on a date" is in a group.
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By Anana Muse (Guest Post)
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Ummm Hello?! The times have changed! Just because you are against it doesn't mean the kids are. And I am 13 myself and you really must realize we donut have these dirty sexual minds that make you think that if we start having a bf we might get pregnant! NOPE! sorry but your wrong on this! I have a bf myself. And he is awesome. And also most of the time since the times have changed your perspective of a bf and ours is very different.
Yours is more like the kissing and sex and stuff. Ours is simple, talk, go to the mall and movies. Maybe hold hands and hug. It is really not that big of a deal. They are just guys. No need to call 911.
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By puppylover (Guest Post)
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I AM a thirteen year old girl. I do have a boyfriend right now. Personally, looking from a mom's perspective, it is a little young to have a boyfriend at thirteen. I met my boyfriend for nearly a year and became best friends with him before we became boyfriend and girlfriend. I know he's not just any random guy, but he'll be one that I'll remember 20 years from now. If the guy is like this, and not just any guy that your daughter just met, then I think you should let her date. As long as you meet the guy first.
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I'm 13 now, and my mum thinks I'm too young to have a boyfriend but all my friends have one. She says we're too young and that we should wait until we're 16! It's ridiculous!
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No, I think that it is the perfect age for a girl to talk to boys. Just not in relationship type way. It really just depends on the girl.
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Personally I think 13 is definately too young. I'm only 17 myself but I got into a relationship at 13, and that, in short, destroyed my teenage years. If you do allow your daughter to be dating, be careful.
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By Elizabeth (Guest Post)
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I am a 13 year old girl[about to turn 14 in april] and honestly i don't think 13 is too young to have a boyfriend. My boyfriend just turned 16[FORGOT HISBIRTHDAY JUST PASSED] and we have a great relationship. It's not just about having sex or being all sexual with eachother btu we have fun together. My mother knows that i have a boyfriend but ...she's kind of uneasy about it . My dad... he's a wholeeeeeeeeee other story...he says he cares about me but ruins my life..
A word of advice... never tell your daughter that you rule their lives and the only thing they should be focusing on is school and boys don't mean anything .. boys mean alot its not just all about books ... we need too experience life in reality and not the picture perfect life our parents would love for us to have ... parents need to realize we are not perfect and we are not here for them to live their lives through us. We need to make mistakes..and learn from them ... yes it might be similar mistakes to what they made as teens but WE HAVE TO MAKE THEM TOO ... it doesnt help for them always trying to be "the perfect parent" getting all in your business ..even though it is nice to be able to turn to your mother about problems with your boyfriend ... oh and telling your daughter not to have a boyfriend will only make them want one even more =] ..
Create a relationship with your daughters friends so she won't feel reluctant about asking to go places with them and ask about her boyfriend try to be involved ...
MAKE YOUR CHILD FEEL COMFORTABLE ABOUT TALKING TO YOU ABOUT THOSE STUFF!!!!!!...
Elizabeth xoxoxo
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Way too young! I have seen my 13 yr old step daughter crying incessantly over a break up b/c her mom has allowed her to get involved with guys and dress provocatively. My own 9 yr old daughter will never go through this!
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Well this is my opinion. I have 3 boys and my older two which are twins just recently turned 12. My husband and I have set the rule of no dating until 16. I am not saying they can't have girls as friends but I feel school is way more important. I just found out recently that a girl at school likes my eldest twin. He told me he doesn't like her like that and I do believe him. This dating thing is a issue for me and its something I have to put deep thought into because I was a teen parent. I had my twins at 19 but my mom was strict until I was 17. as soon as she slacked up I started having sex. I want my sons to know that they can talk to me about anything and when the "sex talk" does come up I will explain to them just how expensive children are. Also how important it is to protect yourself. It's seems like Parenting is much harder when your children become preteens and teenagers.
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I have just read some of the comments below, and people have been saying it's way too early to be in a relationship. I'm 13 and my mum met my dad when she was just 14, they started dating shortly after, and they're still together today! My mum got married when she was 21 and had me (the eldest) and 27.
I am currently dating a boy of 15 and wouldn't get myself into any situations i didn't want to be in with this boy, and if he wanted me to do something sexual i didn't want to do i would tell him. It's all up to the individual, and i think you should talk to your daughter and discuss whether she feels mature enough to end the relationship if things get out of hand.
Me and my mum talk about my life and I told her straight away when i started dating my boyfriend, and because of this i can tell her if I'm worried about something in my relationship.
If you do not allow her, in this day, she will probably see a boy behind your back, and then if things get out of hand she will have no one to turn to!
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I have a 13 year old daughter, and YES she does have a boyfriend, I have been talking to her about boys and sex and relationships since she was 9 years old. It is a subject we talk about almost everyday. She is looks 16; not because she dresses provocatively, she just developed at a very young age. She also is mature in her thinking and actions. SO this being said, I know she has a very good head on her shoulders, and good morals. We have an excellent relationship. She tells me EVERYTHING.
I know this may sound like "Oh another naive parent", but if you knew some of our conversations you would think different. Every child is different. Some are ready at 13, and some are not. Some 17 year olds are not ready, I know some of them too. It's not as much age as it is maturity. Will she make some mistakes? Sure....don't we all? We as parents can only hope we instill enough in our children for them to make good choices. Forbidding entirely in my opinion is asking for trouble.
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Since you seem to have good communication with your daughter I don't think that it will be a problem. I had my first boyfriend when I was 13 and it was not a problem my mom was a little bit uneasy, but she got better as time passed because we had an open, honest relationship and that seems to be what you have with your daughter. I would ask your daughter why she really wants a boyfriend because maybe its just because all her friends have boyfriends.
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In 1970 my 14 year old daughter got pregnant. She wasn't even old enough to date. She had the baby when she was 15. I didn't even know she was meeting this older boy till she told me she was pregnant.
The baby girl was born on Easter Sunday March 29, 1970. She's 37 now. I wish she had come to me and talked first. I was a grandmother when I was 47. I've never seen or held her. I gave her up for adoption. We hope she found a nice family. My daughter did any thing she wanted. So as a result she's not a good mother to the 2 she has now.
I'm happy for the relationship you have with your daughter. Sex is too easy now, except for the grandmother. Juanita
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I really like that you have good communication. My mom and I didn't - and still don't at age 36. As people have said, having a boyfriend means different things to different age groups so maybe you should find out what she thinks it means. The only reason I piped up on this is because I lost my virginity just after turning 14 because my mom never discussed things like that with me. I'm sure she didn't think she needed to at such an early age but never the less it happened and it is something I wish I could change.
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Gee, bet you didn't think you would get this many replies. Most of us are parents and we answered because we care and this is a big thing. Thats great that she asked you, try to act calm when talking to her about this, but let her feel that you are firm on your ideas regarding this. Try to suggest that she go with a group of friends to public events with him and others, maybe even drive them, so you can chaperone. Good Luck
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I think you should be proud of a daughter that is comfortable and trusting enough to come to you first. Why not ask her to describe how this would change her present status with you and the boy. Perhaps negotiate the parameters and invite him over to see how he feels about it all. Encourage mature decision making by them, rather than you, to avoid being the one to rebel against. It is young for a dedicated relationship but not for a relaxed teaming up in an adolescent society.
Meanwhile relax; teens luckily grow out of it by age 20. :-}
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I do not have a font big enough to say" NO NO NO"
Too young, way too young!
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I agree with the herd! Thirteen is way too young to get involved in the boyfriend trend. Over the years kids are participating in things at a much younger age. Looking at today's youth I see nine year old girls dressing like eighteen year olds. It's no wonder parents are having terrible problems with their teenagers. No wonder so many are trying sex at fourteen! I say push school activities, sports and family fun.
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NOPE! No boys at 13! Even when I was old enough to have a boy over (only 1 throughout high school) we had to remain in the living room or in the garden (if parents were there) IF we were allowed upstairs in my room the door had to remain open. Even that didn't stop him from fondling!
13 for a boyfriend, sure, if you want to become a grandma really early! Sorry, but it's just asking for trouble. IMHO!
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Way too young! It's perfectly normal for them to feel the attraction at that age. That doesn't mean they need to act on it, though. Especially since she has asked you, you have a wonderful opportunity to guide her through a hormonally charged time of life. How awesome that she is talking to you and asking your advice! Keep the doors of communication open!
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Hi, Diana. I think "having a boyfriend" can mean different things to different people. Personally, I found your request a bit amusing simply because I'm the mother of a 13 year old boy who "doesn't have a girlfriend". Yes, I think 13 is too young to be dating, but to simply be "talking" (as some of the young folks say) is okay (i.e. on the phone, at school, etc.). My son, on the other hand, is very shy. Some of his little friends "have girlfriends", and I think at times he feels left out. I think this is a normal part of socialization and as long as the situation remains innocent (talking only and with time limits, phone curfew, etc.), it'll be okay. Again, a lot of this depends on the maturity level of the child. It's wonderful that you have open communication with your daughter, and the biggest issue would be to KEEP it that way. Be glad she's asking! I'd advise her that she has plenty of time for these things, don't rush into anything, and keep it simple. For you, I'd suggest not making too big of an issue of it so that she stops talking. Best wishes & good luck!
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Yes, 13 is too young to "go out" but times have changed. Personally our rule is no DATING until you are 16. Around here if you are "going out", it just means you tell people you are "going out", you talk on the phone and maybe go hang around the mall under parental supervision. NO movies, dinners, etc until you are 16! We have 3 daughters and our ride has just started! DD14 will be turning 15 soon and has a "boyfriend". It is a fight, but we stick to our guns!
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Yes, it's too young. I'm 26 and just got married. I had a lot of boyfriends, and started "dating" in 6th grade. Dating today is nothing like it was in my parent's generation: now it's all about how far you go sexually with a person when it used to be about going out and experiencing life together. Not to scare you, but watch the movie "Thirteen" released a few years ago (2003 I think). It is quite eye opening that starting down a path that even she doesn't understand at this point could take her places she doesn't really want to go. Encourage her that there is plenty of time later for boys, and let her get more involved in a hobby, sport, activity, or interest instead.
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I must agree; 13 is too young. I was 13 when I had my first boyfriend with disastrous results. We are teenagers for such a short time. The stress of a relationship inevitably takes a toll on schoolwork and growing up in general. Encourage your daughter to make friends with both sexes and stay in tune with her relationships. My parents didn't so I looked for love elsewhere. Needless to say, at 46, I now know the joys of pure friendship without the emotional strings that come attached with love. You sound like a great Mom; keep up the good work. Sharon
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I have a 13 year old daughter too, and YES, personally I think it is way too early. I am glad your daughter is open to talking about it with you. That is a very positive thing! Keep the communication open.
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