By Nancy from Colonial Heights, VA
I agree. My husband has broken his vows, so this would apply to us, but I If we renew them, it will be in our Pastor's office. We are already married, it is stupid to do the whole wedding over. Some friends of mine divorced and then remarried after 3 years. They went to the Pastor and he married them an hour later, after they went to the courthouse and came back with the license. It was right in his office too.
Our church offers this opportunity at Valentine's Day. We have done this many times and it means so much to us. We do not invite guests because this is vows we made to each other with God in attendance. No matter how you do it, I am confident it will be a special moment in both your lives.
I also think it's rather silly to renew vows and don't think I would ever bother to attend one, let alone give gifts and/or cards! Only reason I can think of anyone having one is the marriage is in stress and rather than get to the root of their problems, One or both think renewing vows would do something to help instead of seeing a marriage counselor. It certainly doesn't make you any more married than you already are. .
This may sound cynical but unless vows have been broken, I don't believe they need to be renewed. And as far as frugal, you really only need the two of you if it's truly about renewing your vows. Not being unkind; just my two cents.
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