My wedding to my new hubby was a blessed event. It cost us a total of $150.00, not including the marriage license cost. We held it in our apartment. We had the reception at a local park in my new hometown with food bought by us at the local supermarket, and we used the bags from the groceries, that totaled $35.58, for garbage bags.
We had a lot of help including, surprise, his ex-wife, who was still friends with him. His children helped too. I sewed the dresses that the bridesmaids wore. We had no flower girl, but we had a ring bearer. I wore my mother's wedding dress, and I am 38. My hubby wore his Sunday tux. We both wore our Sunday church shoes.
We had no flowers as guests were highly allergic to bees. Our reception and wedding were held in the spring, in May. We had immediate family only as guests. People snapped pictures with disposable cameras that we bought specifically for the wedding. It was a day to be glorified before my Lord God himself.
I am friends with his ex. She and I are good friends now. It's hard to believe, but when you have children in the picture you either accept or cause friction. I chose to accept her and she me. We live all on the same block. People couldn't believe I would stand for her help, but I did stand for her help with as much grace as I could muster. The gifts were received well by our family.
I will always remember it as the best day of my life. I am happy with my life. A loving husband, wonderful children, and new good friend whom I can share everyday news.
Well good day.
By Tanya from Phoenix, AZ
The best thing that came out of this, besides the cost of this beautiful day, is that fact that you and your spouses EX are going to be alliances in the raising of the children. That is by far the best thing you can do for everyone. I applaud both of you for this. My Mom and stepmother are not exactly friends, but they do get along quite well at family functions, and it's a great thing to see. I think your marriage is a blessing and I wish you all good things in your future together.
You are one BLESSED LADY! And so intelligent also, only spending $150.00 on your wedding. I am constantly wondering and amazed at why women and family's go into debt for a wedding. Look at what those thousands of dollars could do toward setting up housekeeping! Furniture, appliances and possibly a down payment on a new home. I am sure with your good sense and God's Blessings you will have a very long and happy marriage.
Congratulations on a wonderful wedding. I am so glad to hear you are thinking of the kids.
The reason a wedding should be memorable is so that you can remember it in any bad times, to remember what your marriage is all about.
This adventure of a marriage should be a wonderful one for you.
Hi. I think its great that you and his ex get along so well. I get along with my ex quite well myself! People do think its strange, but weve remained friends. Last month, my boyfriend, my ex and I all went to see Blue Oyster Cult in concert at a local club. My ex has met all my boyfriends ive has since we broke up and sometimes they commiserate about me together lol! Im sure we'll always be friends and hes helped me when i need a truck, and ive helped him house sitting when he goes out of town. I wish more people could break up in a peaceable way. I also get along with his ex before me, theres no need for all the hate and drama. I wish you a wonderful life! Cheers to you and God bless!
Praise the Lord. i am happy to hear that you want to glorify God and not man. He is honored by your friendship with the x wife.
How wonderful that you were so frugal. That's as cheap as I've ever heard of.
However, I'm not in agreement at all about being friends with an ex-spouse. That indicates to me that the two were never really in love, don't know what real love is, OR that there could still be a tiny ember of smoke in the air, and where there's smoke..... If folks could just exchange partners and keep going, it would be chaos. It seems fine to keep open communications with the mother of your new husband's children, but becoming best friends is just too risky in my opinion. I firmly believe in the fact that if a person divorces, they are likely to repeat the same mistakes made with the first marriage by picking a similar partner the second time
and increase their chances for failure.
There are exceptions to all rules and theories, but I would never truly trust a situation such as yours. I lost my dear husband of 33 yr. to my wealthy best friend of 25 yr. all because I once thought friendship and marriage is sacred, trusting them both to my own detriment. There is no way I would ever trust any woman, much less an ex-spouse, with my closest friendship again after what I've been through. Being friends to me is to be totally loyal, pure hearted, and honest, not to mention a "realist" in all areas.
The swingers are of the mentality that everyone can love everyone else, if all agree. Hanging with an
ex-spouse is a totally other thing from being courteous, cooperative and respectful. It's too close to perversion in my opinion, and common sense says the law of averages will catch up to the second
marriage as well, if all of the problems of the first marriage have not been totally eliminated via counseling, not remarriage.
And a second wife can NEVER know if the problems have truly been corrected that caused the first divorce. It may be admirable and workable from the outside, and feel o.k. on the inside, but when the rubber meets the road, I believe you are either playing with fire, or forgetting about life in a small town/community. I'd slowly find other friends who don't know my new husband so intimately, and create a proper relationship with reasonable boundaries to be honored with the ex-spouse, and do it now, not wait until later, because you will be the biggest loser if the worst scenario unfolds. This is not an act of jealously, but would be one of wisdom, prudance, and good business. God bless you. : )
I see it only as good, that you and your hubby's ex are friends.
Congrats on your wedding plans and good luck in your life together.
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