I have had parties for my childrens B-days, girlscouts, boy scouts ect. but I have never had a good turn out of guests coming. Example: if I invite 25, maybe 3 will show up. This includes my own slibbings. Does anyone have an idea of a way to write the inviteion so more will come or atleast RSVP. We can not afford to purchase food, plates, ect., for guests that don't show. This is such a speical party this year that I want as many guests as posible.
No ideas at --- just wanted to say I understand! Getting people in this area to rsvp is next to impossible. I don't think anyone has manners anymore.
I'm having a birthday party for my dd tomorrow. Invited 10 girls --- NOT ONE rsvp-ed with a telephone call.
For family parties, I always call everyone, and I have a big family (parties are usually 40+). Usually I am asking them to bring a dish, so I just start about 2-3 weeks ahead and keep (politely) bugging them until I get an answer. For larger open-house type parties, I send an invitation and just assume about 1/3 to 1/2 will not show up. I have also done these as potluck--that way no matter how many come you will have anough food. In my husband's family people are notorious for not RSVPing for weddings and my daughter's getting married next summer. I know I will be on the phone...take heart, you are not alone!!
Call the invitees with reminder phone calls.
ALSO - are you inviting kids who aren't really your child's friends?
I have learned that phone reminders are great, and sometimes if there is an extra incentive to be there this helps also. Maybe pictures of the kids will be taken and given out in a cute homemade frame for all of the friends that are there. Then you have played on their sense of not wanting to be left out. It is good to make that extra effort to stay in touch with the invited person so that they realize that their company is important to you. If they feel like they will not be missed, they are more likely to not show up. Even being forthright about it with most is good, letting them know that you would like to be able to count on them, that their presence would mean a lot to you.
I am in charge of activites for my church and have learned over the past several years that the best way to get people to come is to assign them something to do or bring. Also I put alot of planning and effort into our activites so noone leaves bored. Having quality parties less frequently is better than alot of parties that are unsuccessful. FOOD is a big part and usaully will increase turn out. I'm sorry your family isn't more supportive, they are really missing out. If I feel like I have to bribe people to come I'd rather them stay home anyway. I think kids parties are way overdone these days. Everyone expects to be given something and the real intent of just celebrating special moments with our friends gets lost in the commercialism. Maybe announcing that for a bday party gifts are not required or expected. I know I usually dread getting inundated with invitations to showers/weddings that insert a bridal registry etc... especially if I barely know the person. This will turn me off the quickest. Buy a bridal shower gift, buy a wedding gift, bring a recipe ingredient to the shower, it gets crazy. I like to buy gifts for people but I don;t want to feel forced or obligated. What I have been doing lately is giving service instead. Let the people in your life know they are special and you love being around them. Maybe a follow up thank you note or email after a party to someone letting them know how much their company was cherished. People are rude these days. My son took a gift to a party (a personal cd player: value $25.00) It was a freebie item I got for signing up for something. The child calls me up and personally asks for me. He wanted to know if I could give him the receipt so he could return the gift as he already had that and a travel size dvd player and lots of other electronic devices. I explained to him that the item was not returnable and was ordered through the mail and that since he had so many things maybe he should pass it along someone not as fortunate as him. There was silence on the phone and he hung up. I was in total amazement. Thanks for letting me vent!!!!!!! Good luck with your parties and hope they go well!!!
I stop inviting people who don't RSVP
I always make the RSVP and pone number BIGGER than the rest of the invitation (and in RED)
I call people and inquire if they received my invite...sometimes things get lost inthe mail or on the desk
Just explain in a nice way that you wanted to make sure they had received their invite and are trying to get a head count to have enough food/drink
A few of those calls and people (except the truly absentminded, rude or morons) get the idea nad will begin calling you with their RSVP!
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