My Frugal Wedding

When my boyfriend and I decided to get married on our one year anniversary of dating (Labor Day Weekend), we didn't give ourselves a lot of time for planning or saving, just a few months. However, we still managed to have a beautiful and very frugal wedding with help from all our friends and family. Let me tell you how we did it.

First, we needed to find an inexpensive but comfortable location. Neither of us were particularly religious, so we decided to have the wedding and the reception at the same place. Both of our families were scattered throughout Washington State, mostly in the Seattle-Tacoma area. We found a community center in Steilacoom, WA, which is a beautiful seaside community near Tacoma.

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The community center did not have a view but was nicely landscaped, inexpensive, had a kitchen area, tables and chairs, and a playground for the kids. Best of all, it was available, although for only the first half of the day. Both my boyfriend and I come from divorced families, so we asked each parent to pitch in equally on the rental fee, which was about $500.00. We asked a family friend, who was also a minister, to perform the ceremony for us.

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We sent out invitations as soon as possible. I asked my dad to pay for printed invitations from a company in a bridal magazine, about $50.00 for 200. Instead of printing the location and reception times on the invitation, we used them as an announcement of our marriage and our new combined last name. This included pretty envelopes. We then created an additional insert on the computer using old grade school photos, printed in black and white as the actual invitation and also RSVP cards. Some of the extended family only received the announcement as we knew that it was unlikely that they would attend anyway.

Thrifty Tip: Send an announcement to everyone you can think of. We received presents from as far away as the Isle of Man and a great many checks from family members that I had never met before.

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Instead of buying a wedding dress, I went to Nordstrom and looked at their party dresses. I was looking for something in a white or cream but didn't find anything I liked. I picked a soft green dress, simple but elegant. It cost about $100.00 and maybe another $100.00 for new undergarments and shoes.

Note to future brides: Be sure you are OK with not wearing white. I still regret the green dress, even though I received many compliments on it. I just didn't quite feel like a bride. There are many ways to get an official wedding dress if you do some legwork in consignment shops or thrift stores. Or ask your family and friends if you can borrow their wedding dress. Even though I bought a dress that I wanted to be able to wear again, I never did!

My boyfriend bought a suit that was a dark eggplant color (clove) at a local store specializing in sustainable fabrics. It was a hemp/cotton blend and was only $60.00.

I had a good friend who was getting married earlier that summer and I was one of her bridesmaids. She took us all to the Clinique counter for a makeover and bought us makeup for her wedding. I used these techniques and makeup for my own wedding, one month later.

My same friend also loaned me her silver cake service and many of the decorations that were left over from her wedding (ribbon and netting, etc.) She is very creative and volunteered to make my wedding bouquet. We bought grocery store roses at about $20.00 and she intermingled them with small purple flowers and wrapped the whole thing in white ribbon. A professional florist could not have made anything better.

She also created flowers for every part of the wedding party, using flowers that we had gleaned from yards in the neighborhood. The night before the wedding, I was out picking flowers at my little sister's best friend's house. Her mother asked what sister was getting married and was very surprised that it was me! I guess most brides don't work the night before the wedding. Some of these flowers were also used to create table decorations. We tied ribbons around canning jars and put a piece of oasis in the bottom. Each vase was different but beautiful.

For favors, instead of the typical candy wrapped in netting, we printed our personal wedding vows and tied them with a ribbon. We put candy and nuts on each table too.

My boyfriend's mother hosted the traditional "Rehearsal Dinner" at a local restaurant in Steilacoom. It was a nice time for the two families to get to know each other before the big day.

Because of my non bridal dress, I decided to forgo a veil but I wanted to look special. I scheduled an early morning appointment at a salon in the area and brought some flowers to use in my hair. This cost about $60.00, including a tip. I did my makeup there as well. My groom picked me up there and, even though it ruined the tradition of not seeing the bride before the wedding, it was still a romantic moment when he first saw me ready for the wedding.

On our way to the wedding, we stopped at a mall photographic studio to have official wedding portraits taken. It cost about $20.00 for the session and then about $10.00 for each photo sheet. This was much more inexpensive than hiring a professional photographer during the wedding and avoided the awkward photo session in the middle of the reception. I asked a close friend who was also a photographer to take some candid shots during the ceremony and reception. I also had many of the guests send me copies of the photos they took. I have tons of great pictures. One of my best friends even created a beautiful photo album for me, filled with her photos of the event. She also made me a guest book for everyone to sign.

Due to the half day, all our close friends and family pitched in and decorated the area and tables before the actual "guests" arrived. They also helped clean up after the ceremony.

Our wedding party was unusual. My boyfriend has a best friend who was a woman. She introduced us originally and he wanted her to be his "best man". I was very close to my brother so I made him my "maid of honor" for symmetry. Our sisters were "bridesmaids", one for each side. I just asked them to wear nice clothes. We entered from either side of the reception area, first the sisters with flowers, then the bride and the groom with our attendants, arm in arm. We met in the middle and were married.

My mother arranged the food with a old high school friend of her's who owns a deli and does catering. She paid about $5.95 per person and we had about 100 guests. We had simple sandwiches and salads. This was the most expensive part of the wedding. Because of a history of alcoholism in my family, we had non alcoholic cider for the toast (with a borrowed set of blue goblets). We also had coffee and punch to drink.

Instead of spending a great deal of money on an expensive cake, we got a wedding cake from the local supermarket for around $85.00. I asked them to decorate it plainly with only minimal white frosting and put fresh nasturtium flowers and leaves on it. On the top, we decided to use the old Fisher Price people in lieu of an expensive topper. I think it looked very cute and pretty.

We played the Moonlight Sonata for processional music using a CD boombox setup and brought favorite CD's to play for music during the reception. My sister and younger cousins loved playing DJ.

My friend made an additional bouquet for the traditional toss. As luck would have it, my husband to be had caught the garter at her wedding last month so we reused that for the garter toss. Unfortunately, none of the guys wanted to catch it. Perhaps that is common.

The wedding and reception was short and sweet. After driving off in the festively decorated car (I never did get the dots off the wheels), we headed for Portland, OR for the first night of our honeymoon. We stayed at one of the hotels overlooking the river the first night and then headed for the coast to stay in a romantic bed and breakfast for two more nights. Thanks to a last minute addition at the wedding, a Honeymoon Donation jar, we had lots of cash for the honeymoon. I think we were given over $200.00 beyond the regular gifts.

Instead of giving gifts to the wedding party and helpers at the wedding, we bought personal gifts for each of them during our honeymoon. That way, we could buy things without guilt. We also bought ourselves a wedding present, a beautiful glass clock.

We registered for gifts at a local department store and also at Pier One. When we returned from our honeymoon, we opened all our gifts and took stock. We received very few sets of fine china and silverware so we returned the odd pieces and were able to get an entire set of everyday dishes (Fiestaware), cookware and some Henkels knives that I still use today. We also received quite a few gift certificates for that purpose. Many people chose to shop at Pier One and as we had picked out things that we wanted for our house, there was almost nothing we felt like returning there.

Including the honeymoon, I don't think that the wedding cost more than $2000.00. Without the help of all of our friends and family, it would have been impossible. I have received many compliments on the wedding itself, it was fun for all and very unpretentious. Don't be afraid to ask for help from your loved ones. This was everyone's wedding and everyone felt a part of it. My husband and I will be celebrating our 9 year anniversary this Labor Day. I hope that my story will inspire other brides and grooms to create their own special, frugal wedding.

About The Author: Jess Stewartmaize is on the staff of ThriftyFun and is a freelance writer. She lives west of Portland, OR with her husband and two sons. Jess learned frugality at an early age.

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August 11, 20060 found this helpful

NOT ONLY IS THIS A BEAUTIFUL STORY AND AN INSPIRATION TO EVERYONE BUT YOUR CAKES WERE GORGEOUS

THANKS FOR SHARING

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August 11, 20060 found this helpful

I had a little chuckle about you marrying in green, as so did I! That was a time ago, I guess I'm closer to your Mom's age than yours!

Mine was a 2 piece suit, more of an olive green I think, slim skirt and fitted jacket. I had black handbag and shoes, and a rather fetching pink hat with a pink silk rose.

I was married in the vestry of a big Baptist Church, and my flowers were a bunch of beautiful hyacynths, pink, blue and white, given to my by a friend.

Enough about me, your wedding story is lovely, and I hope you will never regret being married in green!

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August 11, 20060 found this helpful

I love you!!!!! Wish other brides-to-be will see this story and realize what the wedding is all about, sharing love and celebrating. My first wedding was similar, my cream colored full length dress cost $30 ( that was back in 1977) and my parents owned a home in the country with 11 acres, a 4 car garage and a stocked pond. We had a "picnic" wedding the end of May, we told everyone to bring their fishing poles if they wanted to, we all wore shorts to the reception, which lasted 10 hours, we played our own music after dark, before that we played volleyball, badminton, softball, horseshoes, went swimming in the pond, feed the ducks (all aged children were invited) etc. We rented a port-a-potty. Everyone said it was the best and most comfortable wedding they had ever been invited to. There is more than one way to celebrate a special day and being creative, anyone can have a wedding to remember without breaking the bank. Thanks for sharing your story. PS-my marriage lasted 2 years, but 5 years later I married the man-of-my dreams and we have been together ever since.

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August 12, 20060 found this helpful

I was blessed to use my MIL's dress (my DH is only child) but we lost it in a fire - handmade! I love the FP topper! They are in great shape! Congratulations!

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August 12, 20060 found this helpful

You have some great ideas. It is much better not to spend a lot of money on one day. The only things that you keep in the long term are the rings and the photographs.

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August 14, 20060 found this helpful

This is exactally what it is all about! You don't need the fancy, expensive shindig that a lot of brides today have. Looking back, had I had that, what a waste...as you don't need it to be happy! I was married 33 years ago and paid and planned all of my wedding. My father was disabled and him and my mom were living on disability with an 8 year old to feed and raise. We did everything and paid for it all. I had 5 bridesmaids and we rented a hall for the reception (150 people) and had a band. We had the usual food (at that time) ham, turkey, buns, potato salad, etc which my aunt generously offered to fix. I bought my cake from a bakery and had all the flowers made of wood fiber silk-like material. Because I shopped for all the food and drinks myself, it saved us a bundle on the catering fees. My mom made my dress and my relatives pitched in to be bartenders and "clean-upers". The final total of everything was $1,200. It was a very nice wedding and we are as happy today as we were then. True, in the many years after, we could have used that $1,200 we spent, but we managed. I work with a girl now whose wedding last year costs $30,000!! I would much rather give my kids the money for a downpayment on a house....they will be just as happy with a less expensive "do-it-yourself" wedding than to spend that much for a few hours.

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August 15, 20060 found this helpful

Despite your regret about not being married in white, may I say that you looked beautiful. Thanks for sharing your experiences and your tips. Hopefully other couples who are planning a wedding can benefit from them. My husband and I also had a very frugal wedding 16 years ago. I already had a toddler and was out on my own, so DH and I knew we were going to pay for it pretty much ourselves. It wasn't fancy, but it was wonderful. It looks out your wedding was absolutely beautiful and you now have lots of wonderful memories for all your anniversaries to come. Thanks for sharing your story!

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August 16, 20060 found this helpful

My daughter is getting married this year in December. It is going to be a Christmas theme. An idea I came across was spray painting some dead tree branches and glueing them into a clay pot and decorating it with plain white lights. Thanks for all your wonderful ideas, I appreciate the advice on keeping things simple.

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August 16, 20060 found this helpful

I loved your story and everything about your wedding, especially the invitation and Fisher Price characters to top the cake. Is that cute or what? You were a beautiful bride in green and you seem like a very down-to-earth couple.

I was married 23 years ago and it cost $200. $100 for the handmade dress made of some white fabric I already had, $20 for the judge and the rest for our "reception" at a local bar where we had hamburgers and beer. 6 people were in attendance, including my husband and myself. (Parents had bad, unfriendly divorce, so it was super-close friends only.)

After our guests left for the day, we went up to the band at the bar and told them we had just gotten married & would they please play us a song. They played "Mustang Sally (Ride Sally Ride) and that has been our "wedding song" ever since!

It's not how you do it, but how happy you are with the person you are with. May you have a long and happy life together!

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August 18, 20060 found this helpful

I think your story was BEAUTIFUL. I loved everthing about it. The location breathtaking and you looked so cute in your green. I'm going to a wedding tomorrow and hopefully will be planning my own soon and your story captured EVERYTHING I've always thought a wedding should be. I thought the cake was adorable. I'm such a silly and laid back person(my favorite show is the Simpsons) so the little fisher price people would be perfect for me. Plus you got that cake at a supermarket. Nice market. Congrats! Here's to a long and happy union.

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February 5, 20080 found this helpful

Thank you for this lovely write up. What restaurant did your mother in law use in Steilacoom? My son's wedding is coming up and we are finding it hard to locate a reasonably priced place for the rehearsal dinner. Would appreciate any suggestions!

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June 2, 20080 found this helpful

Connie, it was E.R. Rogers in Steilacoom. I tried to google them and I'm not sure that they are still in business but maybe they are. Honestly, 10+ years later, I can't even remember much about it!

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April 11, 20150 found this helpful

Well, I think you had a great wedding. MY wedding is in July and I am going to be so happy with my dollar tree wedding. Check out pinterest for that lavender table setting. Awesome for about $100.

My dress will be lavender or green like yours was. It will not be a wedding dress but something comfortable. I am going to city hall for the wedding and having our reception at a party room in my building. The food will be made by family and I bought heart shaped charms that I am putting on silver chains as three gifts. my two step daughter's and my only daughter will get them.

We are paying $100 for the room and we get it from 6 am to after 1 am. Can't beat that. Three friends are decorating it with dollar tree finds. candles, wine glasses and fake flowers. All of non needed items will be returned the following day.

We were going away for our honey moon but I said frugal would not be frugal if we did that. We are decorating his house and spending a few days there. The wedding will cost us less than $500 total and will be great. I am now going to do your idea for the wedding photos. I am going to walmart to see if they still take them. Everyone there has awesome cell phones so I already planned to ask them for pictures.

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September 12, 20150 found this helpful

What a great wedding! Funny that you still feel funny about wearing green for a wedding gown. When I hear someone got married, that is the first thing I ask, 'what color was her gown?'. I love it when brides go untraditional. The cake toppers were fabulous.

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