Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband

RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By great granny Vi. (Guest Post) (11/28/2006) When I was bedridden, I really enjoyed books on tape....well now CD's are the thing.( Head sets are best) But I found myself laughing through the pain at "News from Lake Wobegone" and "More News from Lake Wobegone". "Tomato Butt had me laughing out loud as well as the "Ant" story. Many more funny things. Laughter is the best medicine... Hugs & Prayers for all of you. GG Vi RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post by pinkavoo (4) | (11/28/2006) Contact When my sister was passing away at Christmas time and it was also her Birthday...we had a Birthday CARD (just cards...cute ones) for her for Christmas AND her birthday. I gave her an OVER the top Birthday party at the hospital and invited ALL of her friends and family to bring a CARD to the "Birthday card/Christmas "card" party! We really did have a good time and we had mechanical ANIMAL (animals that are battery operated) RACES for little 'gifts'. Anyone of the guests who participated in the mechanical ANIMAL races got a prize.! WE PUT a LIGHT weight piece of Foam core on the hospital bed frame....she could look on to the races and see the racers RIGHT at her Bedside! We had ice cream and balloons and popcorn and it was DELIGHTful in an awful situation. A CARD party is affordable to all the guests and they brought FUNNY cards and read them to her themselves! It was love! Made a really BAD situation for everyone bearable and maybe some fun! A good memory! Try it! sincerely, pinkavoo RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By marilyn (Guest Post) (11/16/2006) Two years ago our Dad became a victim of Alzhemiers. He is older than your husband{ex} but has memory and sight problems. My two sisters and myself got together and penned all our favorite times with dad from our earlest memories to present. Each of us had our own section with a few pictures included. Once done I printed it in very large print, put the booklet into a binder and we gave it to Dad. He keeps it close, sometimes remembering, sometimes not but either way enjoys the funny and happy "stories" that he reads. It was a great experince for us girls..to take a walk back in time and something Dad can enjoy every day with no strings attached. Best of luck to all and may the end bring you and yours some peace in knowing the pain and struggle is over for some one you care about....my husband is also fighting cancer....and our children all grown have started their own "booklet" for their dad. It will help them as well....later when it is needed. Good luck RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By (Guest Post) (11/14/2006) You are a wonderful person to assist him in his journey home. Perhaps cards and pictures, small snack jar plastic filled with favortie sweet treat if his diet permits, socks with rubber tread on bottom, Dvd's of favorite movies, time...love...and care. I am sure friends and family will help with prayer and offer you comfort ask for their help. Lisa RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By Carrie Varesio (Guest Post) (11/08/2006) Dear Willem, My heart goes out to you and your family. I lost my father a few years back. When I read this I just felt your desperation to make his life a little easier and more comfortable. All of the suggestions above are wonderful. The best you can all do is be there for him and grant his every wish if possible. Postive energy and reminiscing over the times you have all shared together will help him to stay in good spirits. Best of Luck with everything! Carrie - New Jersey RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By susan (Guest Post) (11/07/2006) How about a video mix, of your family's old videos and pictures of when your husband was better, this will help all of you to remember who he was and how important he is to all of you. Also an article of clothing from each of you in the family, say a sweater or towel, that will have your scent and that have a texture. as this can become a source of great comfort for him. Best of luck RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post by pamphyila (200) | (11/06/2006) Blog! | Contact There must be some sort of chaplain associated with the assisted living home - &/or someone who deals with the terminally ill - they could be of great comfort to you & your husband. Shame on the minister! RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By Karen (Guest Post) (11/06/2006) CD player with radio with different kinds of music he liked. Wide range that includes soft and holiday, keeps the headaches down. RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By Willem (Guest Post) (11/01/2006) Thank you! for all the great suggestions. Unfortunately, I have to report that the minister was of little help. He visited once, then said that he thought it not worthwhile to visit HJ as the latter was so confused and disorientated at the time--- I do believe that no matter how confused a person may be, the Word of God and prayer is stronger than any confusion and WILL get through to him. RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By Health Worker (Guest Post) (11/01/2006) I work in a Skilled Nursing facility and I work with dying residents as well. If he misses the cats so much - I would give him a gift "coupon" that "gurantees" your and your daughters' support re. comfort and care until his last days. FOr example, reasure him that you will make it possible whenever to let him see the cats (or bring one to the facility to visit in a carrier) and other wishes. Keep a close eye on him in his last weeks/days. Some residents are too fatigued to turn in bed or to eat by themselves while the few busy staff is trying to help everyone. Invest into seeing him whenever you can in the facility. The worst would be to lay very sick in bed and nobody responds to your call button. I am sorry that this is happening to your ex-husband. RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post by wordswork (73) | (11/01/2006) Contact If he's living in assisted care, Willem (in addition to the other great suggestions already provided), I can't imagine the food is wonderful. Is it permitted to bring food to him? His favourite meals? Treats he can snack on, things you or your children might bake for him? I love your generosity of spirit. Cheers, Rose Anne RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post by Engineer (3) | (11/01/2006) Profile | Contact Have a memory quilt. With family photos printed on fabric and put together for a quilt. God bless him and your family. Doreen from Indiana RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By kelly (Guest Post) (10/31/2006) Dear Willem, Bless you for your caring heart How about spending time doing gentle foot or body massages, pedicures facials, anything that incorporates touch. Hugs to you Kelly RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By marge cribbin (Guest Post) (10/31/2006) perhaps some music source- a radio or cd player w/ some cd's some people like to reminisce. so photo albums of family might be nice. if you or children can spend time w/ him, you can label the photos together w/ names, dates, places RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By katie a. (Guest Post) (10/31/2006) How about an MP3 player so he can listen to music or books on tape? He can listen to them while he takes walks, too. RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By Kellie (Guest Post) (10/31/2006) Since he has little need for material items at this time in his life, perhaps writing him a letter and making amends (if amends are needed) and then reminiscing about all the good times you had with him and the kids. Let him know how meaningful he was in his kids lives and yours as well. Maybe you could include a small photo album to go along with the letter with pictures of special times. RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By (Guest Post) (10/30/2006) Also find out what he likes to read or interests and read to him. Be sure to contact his minister if not already. Looking through photo albums, listening to old music. Bless you for thinking of him RE: Gift Ideas for My Ailing Ex-Husband Post By penname40 (Guest Post) (10/30/2006) Ask him and he will probably tell you that the greatest gift you can give him will also be gifting yourself.... TIME... spend all the time that you can with him.