My husband's boss is getting married next month. My husband is the office manager and has worked for him for 4 years. We were invited to the shower (a couple's shower) and so have already bought a gift (over $100). The boss and his bride-to-be both come from wealthy families, and the wedding is in New York (we live in Michigan). We both have to take a day off from work to drive to New York because we can't afford to fly, and we are spending a lot of money to stay at a hotel for 2 nights - since we are also invited to the rehearsal dinner the night before. I am at a complete loss as what to give as a wedding gift. Money would not be appropriate, we already bought from the registry, and we are spending quite a lot just to attend the wedding. Any suggestions?
Angie from Detroit, MI
This one is hard because you are not related and I don't know if you know your dh's boss well enough to get away with many of the suggestions offered.
If you know what their religion is, try going to a bookstore or thrift store and picking out a bargain book in very good condition that relates to marriage.
If you or any sisterfriend of yours makes nice, embroidered lavender-stuffed small cushions, that would be lovely.
Print out Gift Certificates that are "Out There" from your computer - like offering to show the bride-to-be the best places to shop around your dh's work, easy midnight snack recipes, Married Girls' Night Out times, or you can even offer a few certificates in something at which you know you excel. One of our adopted adult sons, for example, loves my cooking, is divorced and, even though he's pulling in a far bigger salary (with no alimony!)than I could ever imagine, he's always broke. So for his birthday, dd and I gave him a Gift Certificate of 53 lunches, one for each week, plus one spare, to take to work with him, and they're only leftovers - but he loves it!
DON'T downgrade or downplay your God-given talents. What may seem obvious to you is impossible for the woman who has everything.
Ask people who are close to you what is, in their opinion, your strongest capability, and see if you can give the new couple a gift related to that.
I'll bung up some prayers for you, Dear Heart.
To the original poster, I wouldn't get them anything else. You have already spent more money than you might have for a relative, and your involvement in their wedding should be enough. All of the wedding gift ideas were superb, by the way! Very ingenious and frugal. Just relax and have a good time.
I don't think you should be expected to give another gift since you've already gotten an expensive gift. however, if you think you should a first year together Christmas ornament is nice! You can pick those up pretty inexpensively and if you are crafty, even better! Gift cards to restaurants are great gifts! A bottle of wine.
A basket of goodies like candies, nuts, chips and dip, with a candle and pair of matching glasses that you could pick up at a thrift store. After spending what you have, I don't think you should go overboard since they aren't family. I think you should keep it simple.
How about a nice basket that you fill with things yourself. Either Wine and Cheeses and foods or bath items for a romantic bath. Add some candles in and a couple of inexpensive but nice looking wine glasses. They make all sorts of cute playful looking ones now that are fun and not spendy.
Or just a set of nice summertime wine glasses, they come with all designs and are made to be fun for summer. You can get a pitcher to match if you wanted to get drink glasses instead. Nice gift and not a lot of money.
It's not so unreasonable to get a small gift after spending a lot to be there. After all, your presence there is also a gesture of happiness towards the couple. See if there is anything inexpensive on http://www.gatheringguide.com/ec/party_favors_decorations.html that will do the trick.
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