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Several friends and I are planning on doing the 12 Days of Christmas for a lady who really needs some pampering right now. She is sole care-giver to her husband, who is a double amputee, has diabetes and is on dialysis everyday. We are wondering what are some things we could give her to correspond to each of the 12 days. Doesn't have to be fancy or expensive, can be cute or funny. Just something to let her know we are thinking about her. Any suggestions? We will be starting on the 14th of December, so time is of the essence.
Our Sunday School class has done this for the past 3 years. Some ideas are: day 1, pears and a bird ornament; day 5, gold napkin rings and some pretty napkins; day 8, carton of milk and cleaning supplies; day 7, gift certificates to a local swimming club; day 3, 3 cornish hens decorated with little tiny paper french berets; day 6, carton of eggs and maybe cooking ingredients. This gives you something to go from. We always do it secretly. On the last day (Christmas Eve) we always have made a larger gift basket filled with like movies, snacks, maybe some gift/gas cards, etc.
I have done this for my mother-in-law for years:
Start on December 14th
Day 1 - Pin
Day 2 - Pair of gloves
Day 3 - Picture of the grandkids (three)
Day 4 - Food pack of four items (like jelly)
Day 5 - Family picture
Day 6 - Reese's christmas trees (six pack)
Day 7 - Lucky 7 lottery tickets
Day 8 - 8 oz soap bath & body works
Day 9 - Cafe vienna cooffee (9 oz)
Day 10 - ten of anything
Day 11 - Eleven of anything
Day 12 - Calendar
On December 13th, there are officially 12 days left until Christmas! A fun and creative Christmas tradition I remember from my childhood is called "The Twelve Days of Christmas. It all starts on December 13th and continues up until Christmas Eve, December 24th. My favorite "12 Days of Christmas" is to leave one nativity piece each night and at the end of the 12 days the family will have a complete nativity scene.
12 Days of Christmas doesn't end on Christmas, Christmas IS the FIRST day of Christmas ... Christmas Eve is the last day of Advent :/
Fantastic idea! I am doing the same for my nephews this year. For the caregiver I would suggest self pampering items (lotion, bath soap etc), offer to sit with husband for a few hours to allow her some time to herself, cook a few meals that she could prepare later.
Still great to read. Thanks!
You need to know that December 25th is the First Day of Christmas. The 12th Day of Christmas is January 5, the day before Epiphany.
this is an great idea for gifts for my mother in law.i will have to do this next year for her
No; I think the 1st day of Christmas is Dec. 14th and the 12th day is Dec. 25th! At least that's the way I am planning it with my kids and grandkids this year! After Dec. 25th NOBODY is in the mood for any other gift giving! By that time you are sick of the whole thing!
I have a family of 2 moms and 2 daughters. I would like to surprise them with 12 Days of Christmas gifts left at their door step, without them knowing who it is. I am the worst gift buyer ever. Any thoughts?
You don't say what the ages are of the mom's or daughters but you could get gloves, candles, postage stamps car wash gift card, finger nail polish kit, a picture frame, a journel to write in, socks, lotions, kitchen towels, CD of music or a movie video, wind chimes, lip balms, etc. I think you get the idea, just you would know what each person might like or use! Good luck and hope this helps.
Great idea & how nice of you!
tea bags & mugs
cocoa, marshmallows & mugs
a bag of microwave popcorn for each & a bottle of popcorn seasoning
sugar cookies (store bought is ok) & frosting/sprinkles to decorate
a family video/dvd
little stockings with candy
gift certificates for small treats (McDonalds for a box of cookies or happy meal,krispy kreme,etc)
Just take a leisurely stroll through the store & see what you can come up with, you never know what you'll find.
I'm thinking. Worst gift giver, 12 days of Christmas--I'm assuming you are in the spirit of the song, but not wanting to follow the days of the song. No idea how old the moms or daughters are.
Age appropriate gifts are the focus. Also, don't pay attention to things like "I wish I was the Queen/Princess," (not that it happens,) but pay attention to things like, "I love baking this type of bread," or "I like sewing this or that," and find out what items are needed to make it happen. I love gardening. I love history. I love reading. I wish I could make Lasagna--do they need an appropriate baking dish? Maybe they want a cookbook. Maybe it's knitting or sewing, crochet, or embroidery? Maybe it's photography?
No mention of the girls ages. How old are the girls? Are they coloring age? Are they painting by number age? Are they Easy-bake-oven age?" Maybe the girls would love gardening, history, reading, cooking, knitting, crochet, embroidery, photography? Or something else.
You need to know their interests/interest before you begin your "12 days of Christmas."
If I had money, and was doing the twelve days of Christmas, I might give someone Lasagna noodles one day, then another day, give them an herb, more herbs, spices, and toward the end, I'd give them the dish if they didn't have it, then the cheeses, and finally the meat and then we'd put it all together at the end. Throw some flowers in there somewhere.
But for the girls, there's no way of knowing because of their ages. Age appropriate gifts.
Find out what is hobby appropriate. One hobby might need crochet hooks, another hobby might need film, another hobby might need water colors, or paints, or paint brushes, or a cookbook.
Start thinking hobbies, and what those hobbies require, and what you'd like in your own hobby, what those you love would like in their own hobby, and you will become a wonderful gift giver that everybody loves, and they will start appreciating what you want, too.
If you're still really confused, just stick to the 12 days of Christmas, and give them the 12 lords a leepin',decorations I mean, all the way down the list.
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Several friends and I are planning on doing the 12 Days of
Christmas for a lady who really needs some pampering right now.
She is sole care-giver to her husband, who is a double amputee,
has diabetes and is on dialysis everyday. We are wondering what
are some things we could give her to correspond to each of the
12 days. It doesn't have to be fancy or expensive, can be cute
or funny. Just something to let her know we are thinking about
her. Any suggestions? We will be starting on the 14th of
December, so time is of the essence.
Connie from TX
Clean the house, yard, basement, garage, etc., give her a break
(time off), take her shopping, do her shopping, do some errands,
take her to church, buy her favorite candy-snack, fix some meals
and freeze them for later, or spend time with her. It would be
very Christian if you did this every week, not just for 12 days.
I am sure if you put her in touch with a local church it could
be worked out. (11/01/2004)
Since she has been his sole caregiver, give her things that she
can use to pamper herself. Like bath items, gift certificates
to get her nails done, coupons for free gourmet coffee, etc. I'm
sure she will appreciate them! (11/02/2004)
If her husband needs 24/7 care, offer to stay with him. Other
ideas, prepare a meal that she can freeze for those nights when
she is too tired to cook. How about homemade quick bread,
flavored cream cheese, cut fruit and gourmet coffee for
Christmas morning. Movie GC (either rental or theatre). How about
a set of homemade coupons she can use throughout the year for
homemade meals, chores, fix-its, etc. (11/02/2004)
I think one big thing would be to arrange for her to have a
whole day off to herself, to do whatever she wanted to do. You
could hire a nurse for the day, or have one or two of you offer
to stay the day with her husband. Can you imagine how she would
enjoy just getting out for the day with no worries? (11/02/2004)
I think trying to match the song lyrics would be lots of fun!
The eight maids a milking could be a milk bubble bath or milk
soap, or "maid service" (friends pitch in to do housework).
Four calling birds - how about some phone cards? Three french
hens could be a homemade chicken dinner, with french bread,
delivered (or prepared in her home) by friends.
Your friend is very lucky to have you all in her life. You are
doing a wonderful thing! (11/12/2004)
By Becki in IN
We do this idea every year and we are a family of 8 so money is
tight, but it brings cheer to those we sponsor at Christmas here
are some of our suggestions with prices:
a dove ornament (Walmart .97)
turtle candies (@2.00)
made a beret and a French flag (@3.00)
Burger King (1.00)
Easter eggs filled with treats ( @3.00)
duckie with a note attached and explained "our swan was in his
ugly ducking stage"
service (@10.00 for an hour) We have also had 9 friends of the
recipient call and point out hints to hidden gift in their home
or on their property all sworn to secret usually a Christmas
john soup (@2.00)
the special treats and our family. This is the best gift of all
because most people are so amazed by their secret 12 days of
Christmas fun they can't believe who did it. (11/13/2004)
By Sara from MT
I got these ideas from various places. Sorry about the length.
I would love some new ideas too, so please post if you come up
with something else. We do this every year and love it!
Here are a few ideas.
"drumsticks" or aren't there ice cream treats called drumsticks?
Be on the lookout for little trinkets. You'll be amazed at
how many things you can make work!
Another idea for any of the days is photo albums for their
photos. Maybe a generic album with some scrap book paper or
stickers with the subject of that 12 day.
I did this a few years ago for a friend. Her husband had broken
his leg and couldn't work (salesman), her sister had passed away
and she became guardian of 4 children on top of her own 3, and
her refrigerator had gone on the fritz while they were visiting
relatives over Thanksgiving. Luckily, her husband was willing
to get involved and I would drop off gifts for 3 or 4 days and
he would hide them until the appropriate day. Of course he
never saw who was leaving the gifts 'by the time I got to the
door whoever it was had gone'.
She said afterward 'It was the only thing I looked forward to
that year. I just didn't know how I was going to cope with
everything, especially for the kids. They also couldn't wait
until I got home to see what had come that day, it helped keep
their mind off of missing their parents so much. They really
had something to look forward to.'
It also made Christmas really special for me. Just knowing I
had helped her through a rough time. (11/22/2004)
I do the 12 days of Christmas every year for someone. It is fun
to get gifts for the person that correspond with the number day.
The twelfth day could be a Christmas tree made out of 12
Hershey's kisses taped to a paper in the shape of a tree. Party
poppers are inexpensive and usually come in a pack of eight. A
six pack of her favorite soda. A $5 gift certificate to
Starbucks. A mesh bag filled with 10 tealight candles in holiday
colors. Just some ideas! (11/27/2004)
Last year I did the twelve days of Christmas for these two girls
whose parents had just recently been divorced. One good idea I
thought of is to buy some fleece, cut the edges and tie them, to
make a really cute blanket. You could also do a Christmas movie
or CD. Make donut snowmen (where you get the powdered donuts and
stack them together with toothpicks, and then get colored
frosting to decorate), hot chocolate mugs with hot cocoa mixture
in there is always fun. Those are just a few ideas, maybe
they'll help. (10/20/2006)
I used this poem and taped each night to the gift. I altered
some of the poem verses to my liking on certain nights. It was
so much fun and my kids had a blast. This is a tradition for
Night 1 (pear bread)
Twas the first day of Christmas and all through your house,
Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse.
'Cept suddenly one little soul did appear,
It is your Christmas friend bringing you holiday cheer.
Tonight calls for a partridge for your pear tree,
But partridges are tough catches, you see.
Now, how 'bout some pear bread, instead of the bird.
Indeed it tastes good, or so we have heard.
Tonight the first night, this sign you have been given,
One ring of your doorbell, not six and not seven,
But from every night hence, one ring of your phone
Will signal a gift from your own secret gnome.
Now beware of this warning - your friend will be here,
But you better not look, or he'll disappear,
And then all your gifts that were carefully planned
On some other front porch they will surprisingly land.
Night 2 (turtles and Dove's chocolates)
Tonight we have turtles and doves coming your way.
Eat all the chocolate you may.
Because in your family you have quite a few,
We've left on your doorstep more than just two.
This glad Christmas season is so full of fun.
We're happy to share with your family, then run.
How grateful we are that you're playing our game.
You'll now find that Christmas won't be the same.
Night 3 (French horn ornaments from $1 store)
Night 3 arrives, but we are not in France,
And three French hens don't come by chance.
So for your family we have given to thee,
3 French horns to put on your tree.
Night 4 (gold coins)
Four calling birds, we can't pay the fare,
For all we have is a purse full of air.
As Christmas approaches, and calls you must make,
Don't use these gold coins or the phone you may break.
Night 5 (ring pops)
On the fifth day of Christmas with things rather tight,
It's important to us that we all travel light.
Gold rings are too heavy (and so are gold buckles),
So please be content with sweet rings on your knuckles.
Night 6 (Cadbury chocolate eggs)
Six geese a-laying -- an interesting sight.
One of them squawked and they all took flight.
What they left in their nest,
you'll just have to look,
But with these you won't want to cook.
Night 7 (goldfish)
The 7th day of Christmas and we are half way done,
Remember no peeking or you'll spoil the fun.
On this day of Christmas, how nice it would be,
If seven swans a swimming your family could see.
The pond was quite empty since the swans have gone south,
We only found goldfish to put in your mouth
Night 8 (Milk Maid caramels)
On the eighth day of Christmas, we're busy as a bee.
Eight maids-a-milking, no where do we see.
But there in the barn we spy a tasty sweet,
Milk Maid caramels, what a treat.
Night 9 (Christmas CD)
Nine ladies dancing would be too big a crowd,
Besides their music is way too loud.
We have for you Christmas songs,
That you can listen to all season long.
Night 10 (caramel corn)
Ten lords a leaping would be an awesome gift,
But they got stuck while jumping through a white snowdrift.
We had to be content, you see,
to watch the popcorn fly.
So we've added a sweet topping to it for you to try.
Night 11 (hot cocoa mix)
Those eleven pipers piping reminds us of our plumber,
To leave him on the doorstep would be a real bummer.
Now make your water piping hot, and fill your cups with
We're giving you some hot chocolate we know you'll love to
We simply can't believe this game is almost through.
We've had a jolly time bringing these gifts to you.
With only one more night, don't you wish you knew,
Just exactly who we are and why we're doing this for you?
Night 12 (I found a drum candle at the $1 store)
Christmas Eve has arrived, and on this our last night,
One dozen drummers would be a grand sight.
But the noise of their drums would hurt your head,
So eat all these cookies we bring you instead.
And so we wish you a joyous Noel,
We know that you're hoping our name we will tell.
But our name stays a secret, we just cannot share.
It wouldn't be right, no it wouldn't, so there!
Have you considered looking for a collection of tree ornaments
symbolising the twelve days of Christmas? I would think that
they shouldn't be too hard to find. (11/21/2006)
A friend was a recipient of the twelve days of Christmas. She
received a piece of the Nativity each day with baby Jesus on the
last day. She was so touched when she found out it was her mom
who delivered the gifts. (11/27/2006)
A good idea for the fifth day is using 5 canning jars and
filling them with different kinds of treats (we used five
different kinds of popcorn) and then covering the tops with
Christmas material and screwing the regular golden rings over
By hi there
I did this for my boyfriend this year:
These are terrific ideas, but has anyone ever thought about the
fact that the 12 days of Christmas begins on December 25 and
ENDS on January 5. Those are the 12 days of the Christmas
Season. January 6 begins Epiphany when the Christ child is
revealed to the world. (11/19/2007)
We do something similar at work called the "12 working days of
Christmas." With inexpensive ideas for the 12 working days
leading up to our Christmas party on the 21st. Ideas such as:
"Let it snow!" and bring a snowglobe to sit on your desk, or
"Don't be a Grinch" but wear your green day, "Share the warmth"
with hot apple cider day, etc. We don't really go by the song,
but just a way to spread a little holiday cheer at work!
My guy is very much into music, so lot of my choices are CD or
event based including:
4 calling birds (4 CDs of jazz divas)
5 golden rings (olympic reference since he cycles)
6 geese (The Oscar Peterson Big 6 at Montreux CD)
9 ladies and 10 lords (the Nutcracker performance)
11 pipers piping (brass ensemble performance)
12 drummers drumming (steel drum and percussion ensemble
The 12 days of the Christmas festival really begins on Christmas
day and goes until Jan. 6. Focusing on the spiritual rebirth and
hope that is Christmas could probably really help your friend.
It would be good to include inspiring quotes about Christmas and
the deep meaning for the soul at this time of year going from
Winter solstice to a gradual returning of the light. Crystals,
essential oils, tea, gift certificates, etc., put into little
pouches, one for each day, ending on the 6th with perhaps a
party and a 3 King's cake! (12/12/2008)