Do you know a single person, any age, who lives alone? Share the spirit of CHRISTMAS and invite them over for dinner. I live alone, have no family and would have loved to have been invited to someone's house for Thanksgiving.
I am so sorry. If you lived near me in KY I would invite you for sure. Since I can't, I will say a little prayer for you that you are not lonely at Christmas.
It is very nice to be invited to someones house, but not for the holidays unless you go there often during the year and already feel like "part of the family", or if you are not going there alone.
You are going into a 'family' celebration when you aren't part of the family and it can leave you feeling down and even more "alone". I'm speaking from experience. The people who invite me have to idea that I feel that way...I certainly don't let it show.
I recommend finding someone else, even several people if possible, who are alone for the holidays. Make plans to do something fun like go out to eat, go for a walk along the ocean, or even a picnic...we can't do that here, but you can in CA. Believe me, you'll have everyone else wishing they could join you!!!
If you can't find someone else, do something special for yourself. Take time for a "break". Go for a ride, rent a movie or do something you've always wanted to do and haven't done. Buy some acrylic paints and a canvas and go sit by the ocean and paint a picture. That's what I wish I could do!!! Make a fun day. I hope you have a blessed Christmas...the best you've ever had!!!
One solution would be to locate another person or persons who will also spend the holiday alone and invite them to YOUR home. Another thought...help out at a shelter that is cooking a holiday meal for those less fortunate. Go to a hospital or nursing home and cheer up someone else. There are many confined to a bed or wheelchair who don't have visitors and would appreciate a friendly visit. I truly am sorry you were "left out" but you can be proactive to avoid that in the future AND be a blessing to someone else.
I have spent many holiday seasons alone. My first Thanksgiving and Christmas alone was the most painful at age 27. I sat home feeling sorry for myself, feeling left out of the "Big Family" get together, feeling like nobody loved me, like I was invisible on this earth because I wasnt invited to share those special times with anyone but myself. I considered making my own little holiday feast to share with my cat but I had no money to even buy bread.
Even if I had been invited to someones house I would have probably felt worse because I wasnt a part of anyones family and didnt "fit in". I didnt want others to feel sorry for me.
You would be surprised on how many people spend the holidays alone. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I decided to go to the local church and volunteer in helping those who were even less fortunate than me. Handing out food and gifts was so very rewarding and made me feel on top of the world. It also made me realize I should be so grateful for what I do have because their are others who have nothing. I learned that the holidays are a time for "Giving" not to feel sorry for oneself. I understand your pain, but maybe this Christmas you can donate your love and caring to a church or shelter or something of that nature, and the church will feed you too:) We are all brothers and sisters in Gods eyes, so you have family all over the world including me your new sister:) You will be thought of on the the holidays and there after.
My first year away from home, as an intern, I was alone on the holidays.
I made jelly for all the neighbors, wrapped the jars like old-fashioned ones. I got a new down comforter, and decorated my apartment. I got some pretty holiday music, and a premade holiday dinner to heat.
I had my holiday at home, music, twinkling lights, read the Bible, looked at the sky, and reminisced, thought about all the things that had happened in my life. It was an alone Christmas, but not a lonely Christmas.
I made a lot of friends that year, neighbors who came back for more jelly. I also decided I wanted to move to the beach, which I love.
So now that you're grown, you have to fill up the Santa stocking and make the holiday, especially if it's for you.
I am so very sorry you spent the holiday alone.I have made a habit for 51 years to always invite the neighbors over for coffee and a meal,it might only be a sandwich but I can't stand the thoughts of anyone being alone for Christmas.we have elderly people that are friends and they didn't want to come over for Thanksgiving the wife was very sick,soooo I took some trays from Kentucky Chicken washed and scalded them and filled them with everything we'd fixed for dinner and sent my hubby over to their house with their dinners.
they were so happy that someone cared .and they had a wonderful feast.older people don't cook much so the meals fed them for 4 days also their cat had Turkey.haha I will do the same for Christmas ,but I'll try and have the Husband to come over,since the wife passed away after Thanksgiving.we call and check up on him everyday.he's a wonderful man of 86 and we really care about him
At least 2 churches here in Chicago and within a bus ride, offer a multicourse meal to singles on holidays.
I have also helped prepare for this type of meal (the day before) for Seniors who are alone. If a person goes out of themselves, no reason to be lonely. You can take control of the situation.
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