I was wondering if anyone out there has some ideas to help my husband quit drinking? We have no AA around here, and right now rehab is not an option. Did anyone stop on their own? Any tips or ideas? I've also heard there is medication out there to stop the cravings, what is it? Thanks for your help.
By Sherri from Alberta
Take his picture while he's drunk, if he falls down take it. Show it to him the next day. I heard this works. I also heard that a person got drunk almost every night & fell down, wet his pants. She took his picture, showed it to him the next day. He did not drink any more. People do what they want to, if you are not happy. Leave or make him leave. Life is too short to be in this, good luck.
Find a sponsor for him. Even if it's not AA, a preacher or leader will help. He has to hit rock bottom before he'll want to quit. Detox first, that's the hardest part.
The medication is called Antibuse. Your family doctor can prescribe it for him, and he can also give him advice on how to quit. The thing is, your husband has to be the one who wants to stop drinking, and he has to be the one who asks for help.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Do NOT try to shame or humiliate him with picture taking. He knows very well what he's doing. I agree with the other post that HE is the one that has to want to stop and HE is the one that has to ask for help. It is something that is much more complicated than asking Thrifty Fun for help. God Bless you and your husband.
I am a recovering alcoholic for 22 years and could not have done it without AA. The other writers are right however, that HE, your husband, must take this step. It is not something you can do for him. I'm not sure why you think there are no meetings in Alberta. I'm in Orlando and googled and found the attached. Please look also for meetings for those who love an alcoholic, to help you say and do the right things. Please look into those for yourself.Hope this helps. Good luck and God Bless
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If he's a heavy drinker and stops suddenly, he's going to go through some very unpleasant withdrawal. Alcoholism is a medical problem, so the first step should be for him to see a doctor. If the doctor he sees doesn't give him helpful information, he should keep looking for one who will.
I use to be married to one. I did learn a lot after us going our separate ways. Alcohol helps the body to produce GLA (an essential fatty acid). A very small amount does this, but alcoholics don't make much themselves & have the biological need to keep going to the bottle for more of the thing that helps them to feel normal.
So taking GLA can help. It can be bought from vitamin stores or on the net. I like "Health From The sun". It may take a lot to feel the difference. Also, I have a nephew who has this problem too. He was helped with taking whole desiccated thyroid. The thyroid has a place in this, even if medical tests say you are fine. The medical community sucks as far as most of them only looking at tests for the answers.
Now as someone else says, it's not only about the drinking, you have to have some sort of therapy, AA, seeing a therapist. Something, cause it is about what started it. When we have emotional problems, we often can't see that aspect cause we are too close. Delving into the mind can be a mine field.
Sheri: Sounds like you can use Al-Anon. You can not do anything about your husbands drinking but you can help yourself. Al-Anon is for someone who loves an Alcoholic. There are meeting all over the world as AA is. If you google it you can find meetings in your area. Even if your husband continues to drink your life can get better if you focus on you instead of him. I know first hand. It has helped me and Changed me. I didn't think I had a problem until I looked at myself and found that I wasn't helping the situation any. Try it, if you don't like it after 9 meetings you can quit there are no musts in Al-anon.
I agree that he must do it for himself, you cannot do it. There are probably AA meetings in your neighborhood (even Ulan Batar in Outer Mongolia has a group.) If there aren't AA groups close enough, AA has Internet groups and the Grapevine monthly newsletter.
BTW, I am not an alcoholic, but I attend AA meetings because the Overeaters Anonymous meetings are woefully inadequate in my major city. I identify myself as an overeater and only address the spiritual part of my recovery, not the food. I have always been welcome at the meetings.
I wish serenity for you both.
My husband decided it was a major waste of money and it wasn't very much fun either, so he quit. He did drink O'Douls for awhile to gradually quit. Perhaps your husband can take the money he would normally spend drinking and save for something very special to him. My brother-in-law took that medicine and it worked for him--one gets very sick if they take a drink while on it.
Alcohol withdrawl can kill you if not done right. You can't just stop if you are a heavy drinker.
Your husband won't quit unless he wants to, even then it takes a lot. My sister, has been drinking on and off for almost 20 years, she has an 11 yr old that lives in my state with our Mom now, she's had rehab twice in the last few months. Still drinking. I wish you peace as there is nothing we as bystanders can do but to be praying and "tough love".
As so many others have said here, you cannot take the reins for him, he has to want it for himself. In the meantime, if the really good local "real-time" listing another poster already put here won't help you, you can find links to Al-Anon for yourself through the AA website. There are many online meetings for Al-Anon, AA, NA and for other addictions.
If your husband is the one who said there aren't any meetings in your area, he's probably not ready to work on his alcoholism yet. That isn't to say you can't work on your end of it by coming to terms with denial, enabling, and just maintaining your own sanity and deciding limits by doing Al-Anon for yourself.
All the best to you. Our extended family has had its share of addictions; some have been successful in working their programs, and others, not so much. Would strongly suggest a 12-step program as opposed to meds to take the edge off, as meds are a quick (and often all too temporary) fix, and in reality there really is no quick fix for any addiction.
First, your husband has to admit it to himself that he's an alcoholic and needs help. Otherwise, it's a futile battle against his addiction. It's also recommended to not treat it on your own. You can take a look at the list of sunnywray, or you can visit websites like http://www.healingpathcounseling.org/. They offer counseling services not just for the sufferers but also for their partners.
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