My son is 10 months old and still will not hold his bottle on his own or a cup. He does everything else any 10 month old does. I'm a new mother so I don't know when they start doing this. Does anyone know?
Carla from Lincoln, NE
One of the most important things a mother can do for her child is to hold his bottle. When he is ready, he'll do it himself. The most important thing is the time spent with the mother and the holding.
I am a mother of two, my littlest is 14 months right now, and every baby is different. I know you probably hear that alot but it really is true. I would think by 10 months he should be holding his own bottle and cup but I also don't think it is a big deal that he doesn't =) Before you know it he will be doing everything on his own and you will be wishing he would let you help him with something....don't worry....to answer your question though, my kids started around 6-7 months.
My neice started holding hers at 4 months, not completly but almost, by 5 months completely by herself. Every kid does it when they want to, just like walking, talking, etc.
I totally agree with Carol in PA. My daughter never held her own bottle. My husband and I always held it for her while cradling her in our arms. It was an intimacy that we all enjoyed, and provided her with great comfort up until she stopped using a bottle. She did hold her own sippy cup though.
Is he doing everything else you would expect at his age? If so, then relax, he is just taking his time! (Typical guy--let the woman of the house serve!)
If you're wondering about other things as well, though, ask the pediatrician at your next visit. Be very specific, and don't leave without answers you're satisfied with. Every state has early intervention for kids who need a little boost!
My first child (gifted, graduating from high school this year!) never quite "got" the whole tipping it up so you can get some, until she was well over a year old. (I'd nursed her, so bottles were not her first mode of drinking!)
They are all different, as was said. Chances are, he is just enjoying his time with his mama. But if you are concerned, do ask!
The longer you hold the bottle the better.
If you hold the bottle for him it will be so much easier to take away the bottle when its time.
I think that you are lucky that he doesn't want to hold the bottle.
It also give you some extra cuddling time.
all kids aren't the same he'll do it when he's ready. My 18 month old grand daughter didn't walk until she was 14 months old so don't worry about it, every child is not the same.
Boys tend to do things a lot later than girls, and that is a difficult thing to figure out (especially the whole tilt the head thing!) My boys started doing that at 10/11 months, so he may do it before you know it. The cup is easier to hold, especially one with handles. That helps them to figure it out better. Both of mine have big hands (wearing size 3 and 2 respectfully at that age) so learning that control came quickly. If he starts catching on more with the cup, hold it so that he thinks it is just him, then only hold the bottle for close feedings. As he sees you use the cup, he'll want the bottle less, and helps so much!
I have been worried about my almost 8 month-old daughter because she too does not yet hold her bottle. My son was holding his own when he was around 4 or 5 months so I thought she'd do the same. But I do understand fully that all kids are different so I'm okay with it. And like another poster mentioned, it's probably better for her to not start doing it at all because it'll be that much harder to take it from her when it's time to wean!!
My daughter is 6 months old and won't hold her bottle. My other daughter started at 2-3 months! I don't think it has to do with age, size, gender etc. Each child is an individual and we shouldnt pigeon hole our children to societies standards. My twin wasn't sitting up on his on til 10 months old and is now a Harvard Graduate.
My daughter is 15 months old and she refuses a sippy cup and while she will hold her own bottle, she can only do it properly while laying down. She does not hold it up high enough if she is standing or sitting up. If anyone has any advice I would appreciate it. Thank you.
MY 8 MONTH OLD WILL NOT HOLD HIS BOTTLE SO AFTER I FEED HIM I SIT BESIDE HIM ON THE FLOOR AND GIVE HIM A COUPLE OF OUNCES OF WATER WITH A HALF OUNCE OF PLAIN KOOLAID AND JUST LET HIM PLAY AND TRY TO GET THE BOTTLE IN HIS MOUTH ABOUT 45 MIN HE GOT IT DOWN LITTLE SUCKS HERE AND THERE BUT I AM GOING TO DO THAT EVERY DAY FOR A WK OR SO AND SEE IF IT HELPS.
Editor's Note: Koolaid is sugar with no nutrients and is not good for babies. I would talk to the pediatrician for more healthy alternatives.
Well, I see I am not alone in such matters. I am a stay-at-home Dad. My daughter, Isabel, is 13 months old and won't hold her own bottle. She refuses to drink from a sippy cup. She used to eat lots of "big girl" food all the time until around 11 months; now, she has 6 bottles a day and we are lucky if we can get anything else inside her. Is this okay? Everything else seems to be progressing as normal and she is a very very happy gregarious child.
I TOO AM IN NEED OF THE SAME ANSWER MY OLDEST TWO BOYS DID EVERY THING EARLY BOTH WERE TOTALLY OFF THE BOTTLE AT 11 MONTHS AND MY YOUNGEST (SIX MONTHS) STILL WILL NOT EVEN REALLY TOUCH THE BOTTLE WITH HIS HANDS EVERY TIME I TRY TO HAVE HIM HOLD THE BOTTLE HE YANKS HIS HANDS FROM ME AND CONTINUES TO LET ME HOLD IT FOR HIM SO YOU ARE NOT ALONE WITH THIS ONE.
oh, girl, I hear you LOUD and CLEAR. I'm very frustrated with the same issue. My son is 10 month and not only will he not hold his our bottle, but only mommy or daddy can do it. I'm sure by now your little guy will be sipping away on his own bottle, and I'm sure mine will follow suit.
I guess I am pretty much in the same boat as you all. My son is almost 11 months old. He is the best little boy my husband and I could have had! And I was getting worried that he should be holding his own bottle by now. But after reading all of your RE: I feel much better. I know that Connor will do it when he is ready. And it is true that it is still a very good way to bond. So I guess what I am saying is enjoy it while it lasts. Before you know it they all will be wiping off all those kisses that we all love to give:)
My 1st and only, normally progressing daughter isn't taking a sippy cup and I am concerned that as she seems to be taking less formula from the bottle (eating 3 meals a day) and that she is not getting enough to drink. I never give anything but formula in her bottle and can get her to take a drink from a grown up glass if I help her with it. She also will not hold her own bottle. I am glad that we are all in a similar boat, but is there anyone out there with tips on how to encourage drinking from a cup?
My son is 9 months old and he won't hold his own bottle. He needs one to fall asleep and I have to prop it up with blankets because if he sees me whilst trying to fall asleep, it's not happening. He'll hold it if I'm sitting right beside him and telling him to, but if not he just sucks in the air or something like that. He's driving me nuts, haha, advice anyone?
Dont worry about it, seriously each child is unique and induvidual. and will eventually learn all they need to. I am the mother of twins who are almost 10 months old. My son can hold his own bottle lying down and sitting, his sister cant, but she is so mobile and all around the house, where as he just goes short distances and is not half as agile as my daughter. He started sitting on his own three months before she did, but now she sits justs fine.
I enjoy still being able to hold my daughter whilst feeding her, and missing doing the same for my son. They grow up so fast, enjoy them whilst you can.
Was glad to hear comment from Matthew S. We have the same issue; an almost 13 month old not holding bottle or having interest in sippy cups. Just like your daughter she drinks mostly milk. We offer solids before all milk and she only has milk after her meals..we had to do this as back up as she does not eat enough. She is the worst eater ever. She actually does not appreciate her bottles either she drinks only 100-150mls. again she is healthy etc.. I think when she starts the kindergarten in Jan. she will see other kids holding cups etc. and will start.
I was beginning to wondering if my daughter would ever hold her own bottle, but reading everyone elses responses, leads me to believe that it will all come in time. She is almost 8 months old and she is crawling all over and pulling herself up. So I know it isn't a developmental problem. She just likes to make mommy work. I will just have to keep showing her how to hold it and pray that someday she will mirror the image. Thanks!
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