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Things are tense at our house. It's the beginning of February, which means
it's getting close to Valentine's Day, which means my son will have to sign
valentine cards. Now some of you are probably wondering how cheery little
cards made for demonstrating love and affection could be a source of
parental frustration. And, granted, it doesn't make much sense.
Unless, of course you happen to be a mother of a nine-year-old boy. Then
you know that there is nothing harder in this world than getting a third
grader to fill out Valentines Day cards for his classmates. Not because he
doesn't like them, mind you, but because chances are some of his classmates
are girls.
Naturally things weren't always this way. I remember the good old days,
back in kindergarten, when Valentine's Day was a nice, light-hearted holiday
filled with love and Winnie-the-Pooh valentines and heart-shaped candy for
everyone. But, trust me, all that's over now.
If you think I'm exaggerating just try asking any third grade boy about
their opinion on Valentine's Day cards and chances are they will tell you
that the mere thought of sending them, especially ones printed with
incriminating words such as "like" or "cool", to a third grade GIRL is
simply hideous.
And don't think you can get around it by suggesting he only give cards to
the boys in the class. It's not only unfair and wrong and could cause a
lot of hard feelings, but on top of that it's sort of, well, weird.
Clearly, the only right thing to do is to bring cards for everyone. The
teacher, the principal, the crossing guard, his classmates. EVERYONE. But
just try convincing a nine-year-old boy of this.
For instance, our dialogue last night went:
Me: You need to sign your name on all 25 cards.
My son: Twenty-five times? TWENTY-FIVE? I can't write that much.
Me: Come on, your name only has three letters.
Son: But I feel weak!
Me: Bu-
Son: And, look, my hand is cramping!
Me: But you haven't written anythin-.
Him: OWWWW!!!!!
Sure I've tried letting him pick out Boy-Acceptable Valentine cards with,
say, pictures of monster trucks and sports figures and violent super heroes
on them. But, call me crazy, I always thought there's slightly something
unconvincing about "Be My Friend Forever" written on a picture of two
national wresting champs clamped together in a head-lock.
Besides, don't think for a minute that a third grade boy will fall for a
trick as simple as this.
So, it's no surprise that I finally had to resort to Plan B: launching into
my favorite ten-minute diatribe fondly called Manipulation Through Guilt. I
emphasized key points like how he could make the world a better place by
showing love. And about how demonstrating love is the noblest emotion
humans can have. And about how he'd better not think he could get away with
making his mom spend $5.00 for a box of lousy cards that will just have to
be thrown away anyway.
And on and on.
Just when I was about to give up and forge his signature myself, he
announced that maybe, just maybe, he'd bring the valentine cards with
cookies to school after all.
Apparently, in the third grade, valentine cards are much more acceptable
when given out with frosted, heart-shaped cookies.
Unreasonable? Sure.
Manipulative? Maybe.
But regardless of the motivation, at least all 25 cards are signed and we're
good for another year. And sometimes, with nine-year-old boys and
Valentine's Day, that's the most you can ask for.
About The Author:
About the author:
Debbie Farmer is a nationally syndicated columnist and the author of "Don't
Put Lipstick on the Cat!"
(Hardback, 227 pgs. 2003 Windriver Publishing).
Available at Amazon.com
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To learn more, visit her website: http://www.familydaze.com
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