I need help. I am a new cat owner. I always had dogs. Payton landed on our doorstep last October 30, very sick. We got him together with our vet and my husband just recently said let's get him a friend.
I adopted Clover and it has been a month and there is no hissing, but after 2 or 3 minutes our Payton is trying to hurt the little one. I have him isolated in another room, and I've had a million people giving info and it's different. I feel I am causing my Payton undue stress and I get apprehensive when they come together. Payton's tail bushes, his ears go back, and his eyes get very big.
I don't want to give back Clover, who is also male and approximately 2-3 months old. I have let the little one in rooms when Payton is not in that room and then he sits outside the door and cries. Please help.
By Rayerae from Maple Heights, OH
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By Deborah 09/15/2010
Try to get in touch with cat breeders. Some of them look after cats for people in crisis till they can have them back. I have spoken to a lady from Chicadee Cat Club in Fredericton that takes care of cats in need and her pure breeds are fine with it. You might want to check them out I'm sure they have a web site.
By Anonymous 09/15/2010
Are you immediately separating them as soon as Payton's tail bushes and you 'think' he's trying to hurt Clover? If so, you simply aren't giving them enough time to investigate and get to know each other. There will be spats until they've gotten to know one another. Only separate them if it looks like Payton is actually trying to hurt Clover and you can easily do that without getting hurt yourself by quick and continuous squirts from the jet stream of a water bottle and do not yell at either of them, stay calm! They need time together, while you're watching, to get to know one another and establish their relationship and territory.
I once had a large male rescue and a few months later someone brought me an eight week old male that someone had simply dropped off in the middle of a busy street at the stop light. Jake, the older large male, reacted the same way as Payton but I just kept an eye on how they were progressing and separated them as needed. It was just over a week later that Jake was best pals with Duke (the kitten) and they slept together and they bathed each other all the time. They were best buds until Duke passed away in his sleep of heart failure a couple of years ago when he was thirteen years old.
I know you don't want to traumatize Payton but it's also traumatizing for Clover when he wants to not be locked away from you so you need to let them work it out as soon as possible. They will be happier and less stressed then and so will you.
P.S. Not all cats will end up being best buds but they will come to an agreement and tolerate one another just like we humans do. :-)
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