RE: When Do You Stop Giving Christmas Gifts to Adult Nieces and Nephews?
We have solved the issue by holding a group online white elephant party. Because we live all over the country, we use the internet and eCommerce to have a party and share gifts. We talk about our party all year and it saves us all on travel and the volume of gifts. Last year we shared over 800 comments, videos and images during our online gift swap. It has become the highlight of the holidays for our family.
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Thanks for all the replies to my question - all were good points. For clarity I probably should have said that my husband and I are in our 60s - he's retired and I'm praying not to be laid off for another couple of years.
My sisters and bothers are younger, have no need to reciprocate (we are childless) and most of them have not taught their children (ages 14 - 33) to say thanks - even when they open the gifts in my presence. I think I'm done gifting, except for the ones who manage to acknowledge the gift in some form or other.
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There really isn't a rule about it. Just do what your heart or your head tells you to. We were childless for many years and then adopted 2 beautiful toddlers as older parents. We'd given and given to so many nieces and nephews on both sides and then decided they were all old enough we shouldn't do anymore. I stopped with birthday gifts when they each turned 18. It's funny that no one has seen fit to give to our kids the way we did to theirs but really it doesn't matter. I'm so happy to have kids to buy for and now just focus on them.
Do you feel pressure to keep giving to nieces/nephews? Really you shouldn't and it should be something you want to do, rather than feel it is expected. Do they do anything in return. At least write a thank-you or email or give you a call to show their appreciation. That's part of it as well because I know I got angry when I didn't even have my cards with money acknowledged!
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Well, a favorite Aunt of mine, now deceased, told me she stopped giving to nieces and nephews when they turned 21. Sure enough on my 21st birthday she gave me a beautiful gold and black powder compact featuring a horse, but nothing after that. I think go with your heart. Can you afford to keep on doing it? Do you want to keep on doing it? Think about it, then make your decision.
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Our family decided on 21.
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I'm glad that you asked this question. I was wondering the same thing myself. I've used the age 18 as the last birthday to send a gift. Seems to work out okay. No complaints.
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Like OliveOyl, we stopped at 21.
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I never stop giving ever, a merry heart warms the love. Showing love shows the light of God. Just remember do unto others as you'd like them to do to you. Then go from there.
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I stopped giving actual gifts to my (foster) nieces and nephews when they turned 13 after that it was money or gift cards until they were 16 then after that just cards.
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Hi, I stopped giving when they stopped saying thank you.
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With my nephews I stopped when they got in late teens probably and they understood. I don't expect a gift from them either, that is for their immediate family I feel. I give to my parents, my brother, and sister, but not to any of the grown nephews/nieces. I do, however, spend a day making candy or some kind of edible treats and I give them all a baggie of treats just as something little to say I love them. Its not much, but they seem to be satisfied and I feel it is sufficient. Hope this helps.
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I stopped when I figured they were old enough to be giving gifts in return. In the working world, out of college--on their own. I didn't want them to have the expense of gifting us, so stopped gifting them.
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I think when they finish school- about 18 or 22 for college.
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I think it depends on your relationship with each one. I'm 36, and I still send gifts to one of my aunts and one of my cousins (and his wife). I have plenty of other cousins, but don't send gifts (I send cards to only a few).
If you truly want to wish them happy holidays, but for whatever reason don't want to give them gifts, maybe you could just send them cards with a recent photo. A note can mean so much more than a token gift.
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I agree. After they get grown, it's time to stop giving gifts. Just say there's too many. We cannot afford all these gifts, good luck.
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I think it depends on how close you are to them and whether they always give you a gift. In my family, we would have large family Christmas parties where we would exchange names. The kids would get presents and the adults would each give one present to another adult. Later this was turned into more of a white elephant gift exchange but I liked the personal gifts best.
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In my family we gave gifts till the kids were 21.
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