Since I was on here last I told my husband I wanted him to leave. He laughed at me and said he is on the lease so he doesn't have to. Since then I have been avoiding him as much as possible and only talk to him when it regards the kids. He keeps saying do you even want to be with me and stuff like that. When I say no he automatically says I'm cheating on him which I'm not. How can I make him see that I want a divorce? 3 of my kids have asked me if I can make him leave.
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Take the kids and go to a shelter. But when he begs you to come back, don't do it.
If you can leave and care for your children that might be the answer. Find a local shelter and see if they can help you. It is hard to give advice, because I don't know your husband. But eventually you will need a lawyer and he will need to be served with divorce papers. Your husband sounds confused, or perhaps in the dark about your relationship, or just trying to confuse the situation so he doesn't have to face what is coming. If you can find a peaceful moment to talk it through with him it may help; or he may just not be able to accept what is happening, and you will need to go ahead on your own.
It really depends on the kind of person he is. You will always have a relationship with him because of the children, so setting a good basis for that is important. Do that now. I say this knowing there are some guys you really can't work with at all, and some who are dangerous to work with. I hope he is not one of those. Get the help that is available to you and good luck.
I am going to be hated for this, but it's the truth. If you are asking our advice, you are almost lost already.
Don't ask him for anything. Make sure your kids are safe, have some friends or relatives over and tell him you are leaving. Contact your landlord and tell him to let you sign a paper that takes you off the lease, so if he trashes the place you are not responsible. Tell the police that you are doing this so they know to expect their help.
Listen to them. I am a former counselor for a woman's shelter. I have attended 7 funerals in 25 years. Please be a strong mom and just go.
If he is abusive, he won't want to leave. Asking him to do so is a waste of time. Make plans to leave; find help - either friends, relatives, or someone from the women's shelter. If you are simply renting a place, then make arrangements to be off the lease.
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