This is just a small tip, but I hope it will be helpful.
I have cancer and so many people have been so kind and sent me all kinds of cards to remember me: get well cards, I'm thinking of you, I'm praying for you - all lovely!
But I was keeping them bound together in a drawer. So one day I decided to use the cards as bookmarks. That way, when I felt low or sick, I could always re-read the cards and be reminded that although I felt alone that particular day, someone was thinking of me! And even though I would re-read the cards when I was having a bad day, now I had the card right in my hand.
If I could take one more minute for something really important. Please, if you know someone who is sick, please don't forget them! If you sent one card, throw in another postcard or a picture your child colored, throw it in the mail.
As a sick person, my world has become very small. I live for texts, mail, emails-anything. I can't participate on holidays, get-togethers, birthdays, etc., so when people write me about their lives, it's wonderful for me! I love to write back and tell them what's happening in my life too.
I have a good friend in another state. If we lived near each other I know we'd see each other. She would give the shirt off her back for me and I'd do the same for her. But when I got sick last year, things changed. I never got even a card from her. It hurt at first, but I know she's scared. I'm scared too sometimes! But my wish would be that she'd reach down deep, get past the fear and remember me more often.
Well, it's a tiny tip and one that I'm sure you heard before, but it was important to me, to remind myself that people loved me still and had not forgotten me.
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If I could give you 100 thumbs up, I would. That is the kind of tips we need more of. Yours was heartfelt, meaningful, and simple. I hope more people will do just what you suggested.
My thoughts are with you, dear stranger. Please keep us up to date on your progress.
Sandi/Poor But Proud
Hello - you sound as though you have found a way to cope with your illness and that is better than some who are having trouble just learning to sort out their daily lives.
May God bless you in your time of need and I thank you for bringing reality to a few who read your message.
What a wonderful post. Thank you for the reminder. Sometimes we get so busy in our lives we often forget the simple things. Simple things that might mean a lot to someone and so often not the people you may think need it.
What a wonderful and uplifting tip and truly beautiful reminder to others to not forget (nor be afraid) of ill loved ones and even to neighbors or strangers!
Although my disease is not cancer I can completely empathize about a limited small world (four years now), of feeling forgotten or ignored by friends because of fear or of how they think they should act. I hope this will be of help to you; I've found if you broach the subject with them that it opens the door to talk about it and put them at ease. In my case having done so has turned things back to normal with them.
Am so sorry for your illness :-( Haven't seen anything posted here from you since last spring so at least now we know why and hope you will keep us posted as to what is going on in your life and how you're doing. I also hope you get better soon, soon, soon so you can take that trip to England that you've dreamed of!
Hello Thrifty Fun Wonderful People!
You are all too much! Your posts! How I had such a good cry and experienced such a blessing from you! How good you are! Sometimes when I see the goodness, the sweetness of your hearts, I am overwhelmed by your kindness. You will just never know, because I simply don't have the words to express them, of what your replies meant to me! I am overcome.
I never expected to have anyone post a reply to my suggestion, let alone the heart warming comfort, love and support to a complete stranger! God will surely remember you and Bless you. Thank you doesn't even begin to express what I feel.
I remember Deeli, and how many times you made such good ideas and suggestions to my questions! Often I have thought of you Deeli during this past year, and yes, it was in the spring that I first started feeling something was wrong with me.
I thought to write you, but my goodness, what would I say to a complete stranger about how I was feeling?! Surely Deeli, I would think you'd think you attracted a ThriftyFUN stalker! But I wanted you to know that for some very strange reason I thought of you, but had no idea what to say to you.
You, yourself, are like a bright star shining in the night-I don't know where you get your strength, enthusiasm, light heart (when I know you have so much you are bearing). You have such a nice way of putting your answers and suggestions. I've thought of you often and said my prayers for you; thank you for thinking of me.
All of you, what in the world would make you take time out of your lives to write words of encouragement and support, to a stranger? All I can say is that I hope you all realize how special, unique and out of the ordinary you are to do such a thing. People like you don't exactly fall out of the trees every day, l will tell you that. If ever you have one little thought that you are just like everyone else-you are not! You have been sweeter to me than any family member-thank you doesn't even come close to what's in my heart for you. God bless you and keep you under His wings.
Sometimes people are afraid they will say or do the wrong thing. But thank you for making us all remember what is important. Good luck and god bless you, you sound like a very special lady.
I am battling Stage 4 cancer and like you, my world has shrunk too. I recently had a bad infection from the port I had implanted and spent a month in the hospital. Had to pretty much learn to walk again as I got so weak.
People do get scared and don't know how to act around you when you are sick. But you know they are truly thinking of you when they send the cards. Reusing them that way is a wonderful idea! Best of luck to you. Stay strong and keep the faith! God bless....
I can understand you so well. When my partner was suffering from oesophagal cancer, my world, besides his, also shrunk since I wouldn't leave him on his own. It was lovely when people came to visit. It took his mind off his pain and kept him, and myself, from isolation.
God bless you!
My goodness how kind you are to give thank you's to everyone and I was quite surprised and thankful of your response to me! It's very much appreciated and, on the humorous side, not everyone here would agree with you ;-) Anyway, I am sending you a ThriftyFun instant message with my email address in case you ever want to just chit chat or need to unload your feelings and frustrations. Bless You!
I like your greeting card idea. I just lost my father to old age. He knew his time was up and I got the biggest bear hug from him as I was leaving to fly back home. So here is a big hug to all of you and know that you are not alone. Thank you
Does anyone know what happened to the messaging center and/or how to access it? Can't find it now :-( I would like to know so can send Metroplex my email address.
That is a very good idea. I know your friends here are wishing you the best. My prayers are with you. Godspeed
What a heartwarming exchange of posts. It reminded me tonight that I have two acquaintances who are ill and I've not yet sent a card with a personal message. Doing so tonight, thanks to you all!
We get so caught up in the stress of our own lives that we (I) often fail to remember that many others are dealing with things we can only imagine. You have spoken of your feelings with such an open and forgiving attitude that it inspires the rest of us to really think of others and to reach out to people we might suspect feel the same as you without being able to express themselves as well as you. Just think, you may have started a tsunami of cards and letters to people who so need them! My prayers are with you. Anne in NC
When my Mom was in a pallative care hospital with cancer, I sent her at least one card every day. She tacked them to all the walls in her room. I would take her small, inexpensive little things from the dollar store, such as fake flowers, bracelets, mini stuffies, etc. She hung them on the tacks with the cards. When she ran out of room, she went around to the other patients who had no families and cards, and posted them in their rooms! Brightened up the whole ward!
There are a lot of us out here who feel helpless when faced with a situation like yours. Thank you for posting this and letting everyone know that there IS something we can do. My prayers are with you.
I feel the need to add to this conversation and not having much time, just want to say...all of you thriftyfun folks have encouraged me to continue to believe in the goodness of people still. I know your comments are appreciated and needed. Thank you all for expressing your love and concern for one another. You are blessed and are a blessing. I wish each of you continued health, peace and love. Q.E.B.
This tip is one of the most important I have seen. I have taken care of both my brother and my father as they struggled through cancer and the end of their life here on this earth. Cards would brighten their day as would phone calls and emails when energy permitted. Sometimes visits are good but other ways of reaching out doesn't sap as much energy from the person who is sick and cards can always be enjoyed over and over. May God bless you with what you need.
I have sent a lot of cards in my life, I wondered sometimes if it made a difference. Thanks for reminding me that it does for I have gotten lazy about sending cards.
I am absolutely overwhelmed at all the kindness, love, sharing of Spirit, thank you so much. Am having more chemo this Thanksgiving weekend and your notes are just what I need to bring some cheer to my day! I can't thank you enough. Your notes have all helped me keep my head up, and I just read them over and over again, like the greeting cards I received. Thank you all from my heart. I am touched by all the love here! Thank you and God bless you all. I believe God will reward you for being so good. Thank you and much love from Metroplex.
Thank you so much for your Holiday Greetings! What a great surprise! I wanted to also wish you Happy Holidays to you and your loved ones. And an extra special Happy New Year too!
You were so nice to remember me, thank you so much. What a sweetie you are!
With kindest regards,
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