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I am 14 years old, in my freshman year of high school and I don't shave. I really want to, more than anything. I'm always too afraid to ask though. I hate when it's hot because I have to wear shorts. I've tried to buy my own razors before, but my twin sister said, "No, it's like hiding your period."
By Caroline S.
Just ask your mom. Tell her you feel confident and mature enough to start shaving.
I'm 13 and too scared to ask my mum to shave my legs and I have thick black hair. I always see boys staring! My friends say I should just shave and not ask. My mum usually waxes my underarms.
The next time your mom wazed your underarms ask her if she wouldn't mind waxing your legs too. Tell her that the hair on your legs is so long and black that you are embarassed to wear dresses to school because the kids are making fun of the hair on your legs. This should work and your mom does not mind waxing your underarms I am sure she would help you with your legs.
I want to shave badly because everyone at school makes fun of me. I'm 13 and everyone, even my friends, make fun of me because of my legs.
How do I get my mom to notice that I want to shave without asking her?If your 13 you should not have to ask for permission to shave.I am the mother of seven children, and I do not keep track of what they do in the bathroom that is your own privacy.You could make hints too her or just come right out and tell her what is happening too you at school.
Your mother may be afraid of you cutting yourself. Mine was. Our solution was to use a depilatory.
I'm sorry you haven't gotten the answer you are looking for. You might try reading this guide for some other ideas. Personally, I would discuss it directly with your mother and father. If they have been unhelpful in the past, maybe get another female family member to help you talk to them. They just don't want you to grow up too fast.
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Good luck!
I am 13 and have only just started to shave my legs. My leg hairs are still growing and even faster than before. I want to wax my legs, but I'm scared to ask my mum. What should I do?
She knows you're shaving your legs. But you can tell her your experience and see if waxing is a better alternative for you. It may be uncomfortable but I'm sure she'll be understanding since you're maturing to be a women :)
It seems you have already accomplished the hard part - getting permission to shave your legs so consider why you wish to change to wax - are you sure you have sufficient reason to convince your mom?
Be sure you have read the correct way to shave your legs and if that is not working for you then show this problem to your mother (does she have the same problem?) and be prepared to answer any questions she has. Waxing is bigger job and can be painful, even if done correctly.
Here is a link to some suggestions -Wikihow has instructions for all type of hair removal.
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Tell her the waxing lasts longer, and that you are self-conscious about the hair. If she says no, ask about a depilatory.
I think your mom would understand. She gave you permission to shave your legs. I would be honest with her and tell her how fast the hair is growing back. Tell her that you want to try to wax your legs to see if this helps. I don't see a problem in this. I am sure she will say yes.
I think she will understand but gather information for her first. :)
She will probably understand it will not be such a big deal too her.Just explain your need to wax with her.All she can say is no.
I keep asking my mom to let me shave and she said yes and got me a razor and shaving cream. She told me that she would show me how, but never did.
And I keep bringing it up and she keeps forgetting. How do I remind her again because I dont like talking about shaving that much?My name is Grace. I am 13 in the 7th grade, I have not shaved. All my friends do, and when they talk about it I just don't know what to say while they are talking, like they say, "oh I cut my self, or oh I forgot a strip of hair". And it makes me feel uncomfortable when they do talk about it.
Recently my mom bought me a razor and shaving cream, and said we will do it tomorrow. It has been a month and I don't know how to bring this up to her that I need to shave.
The hair on my legs is really dark, like really. I am starting basketball very very soon. And I feel really weird having hairy legs. My mom and I have a close relationship, but I don't know why I can't tell her that I need to shave my legs. How do I remind my mom that she got me a razor without telling her?
I am 15 yrs old and ever since I started my middle school (6th grade), I was often asked this question "Why do you have so much hair on your hands and legs?" by both male and female classmates. When I was in 7th grade I shaved my legs and my hands once without my mom's permission. So she scolded me and she said she will only allow me to shave after I am 17 or 18 yrs old, but I think that's way too long.
Now I am in 10th grade and a guy in 12th grade asked me "Why do you have so much hair on your legs?" I was really shocked and embarrassed. I didn't eat anything that day. I told my dad and he told my uncle without my permission. But when I told my mom, she was was like "You can shave" (in an angry tone). But my uncle went to my school's principal. And he and I were called in. I was shocked to see him. I actually didn't want him to get scolded as he could hold grudges and spread this incident in the whole school. And he actually did that. Although a few people know about this. Then my mom allowed me to shave my legs, but still I have a lot of hair on my hands. Many people stare at it. Indians are hairy and I asked my mom to let me shave my arms. (I was really afraid) and she was "No No No". My best friend started shaving in the 7th grade. Her mom told her that she could, but my mom is so freaking persistent. I am hairy that's why I have dense pores on my legs even after shaving.
Now Pujas (an Indian festival) is coming up and we buy clothes and wear them on this occasion. I am thinking of asking her to let me shave my hands. I need some advice regarding this. I'll be looking forward to these answers. Oh by the way my mom shaves.
Hello young lady I completely understand your dilemma and I hope my advice will help and that you'll beable to change your mother's mind you deserve to not be picked on and embarrassed and if it's something that you can change and would change things for you what's the harm. So seeing how your mom doesn't want youto shave there are other ways for hair removal have you heard of a product called nair it's a creme that you use in the shower its stinky but there isno shaving involved you put it on let it set for a minute then wipe off with a rag. You can find this product or similar ones in the same aisle as the razors . One other suggestion that may work to if that don't fly with your mom is trimming the hair with some small scissors so there's not as much... Good luck to you
Your parents may agree to you using a depilatory instead of a razor. You wont cut yourself.
My mom and I don't have a really good relationship because she always works long hours and I don't really get a chance to talk to her. I'm 13 and in 8th grade. Basically everyone in my class is shaving and wears a bra (at least a sports bra), but I don't know how to ask her.
My legs are really hairy and I have a lot of armpit hair. My mom has brought it up a couple of times when I have casually said that I have lots of leg hair, but she just ignores it. Once though, she said that she didn't start shaving until she was in college. I can't wait until college! I really want to shave now. Even my dad and brother have brought it up to me how my legs look like boys' legs with all that hair.
Two years ago, we were shopping and I was buying a tank top with her and I told her how I didn't know if I wanted it because I had so much armpit hair. She told me I could shave it off, but she has never really gone back onto the topic. I have worn dresses before and I have purposely raised my arms to flash her my armpit hair to see if she would notice. I think she did, but she just never really brings it up.
On the topic of bras, currently, I am only wearing camis with like the training bras attached to them in the inside, but my mom won't upgrade me into an actual training bra. I just don't know how to bring it up. She doesn't wear sports bras and she doesn't own them either so I have a feeling she doesn't really know what they are or just never used them. All of my friends wear them and I really want one and I think I am ready for one.
How should I approach her about these? Lots of people say to just confront her, but when the time comes close, I just back out.
Tell her you need to talk to her about something important and have her set a time when she won't be working, like an appointment. then you can't just back out.
If making a time to talk with her is not possible, you can consider writing a note to her describing your specific concerns. Ask for her help to start shaving and going to a store for a bra-fitting.
Good Luck!!!
And if your mother doesn't come through (it happens), ask your best friend's mom? Or an aunt?
How's your relationship with your dad? Maybe you could ask him? Or maybe Mom is more comfortable with it than you expect she'll be. Just ask. As a mom myself, I left stuff like that up to my son, knowing that when he was ready, he'd ask. I agree with the other person that answered who said maybe you could leave her a note. Be strong, sweetie. Let her know how embarrassed you are because other girls your age are already shaving and wearing bras. I guarantee you she doesn't want you to feel bad about yourself. Hang in there!
Just talk to her alone or without any distractions tell her you need a bra you need to shave. I am scared to tell my mom I need to shave and I am not even a teen. I don't reply know about the bra I was in 2nd grade and she told me.
Okay so I'm Indian so I have super dark long hair everywhere, on my arms, legs, armpits, face and basically just everywhere. I have started trimming my hair slightly using scissors, but its so tedious and I never get an even natural look.
I have got my armpits waxed for my formal (I live in Australia so basically a mini prom) because my dress exposed them and yeah, but it's been a year since that and my hair is getting out of control. I'm the only girl in my family other than my mum and I'm super awkward about these topics to my mum.
I have used my brothers' razors to get rid of hair and sometimes I steal my mum's tweezers to pluck my eyebrows. I'm 13, but I have even longer hair that my older brother who is 17. I'm so ashamed because all my friends have fine light hair whereas I don't. My school has uniforms which are skirts so everyday I expose my hairy legs and I hate it. I wish I could shave, but I don't know how to confront my mum. I'm kinda hoping she realises, but even after I showed how long my leg hair is she didn't care. But my mum is always plucking, shaving, or waxing it's not fair! Any tips to make her realise that I need to start shaving or at least using Nair just any way to get rid of my gross hair.
I want to shave. I'm 14, my legs are hairy, and I'm an athlete. I don't think it looks nice if a girl has hair on her legs. I do! I asked my mom if I can shave my legs and she said no. The reason is because when she was my age she also had hair on her legs, she didn't shave because I think that her mom didn't let her. So I went and asked my dad if I can shave it and he said yes. Yes, No, which is it?
I'm turning 14 very soon, I don't shave anything. My friends talk about it all the time and I just avoid the question. I am so awkward with things like this between me and my mom.
It's a month before summer and I want to start shaving before then. Should I ask her via text? Or would that be even more weird?I'm 15 years old and I'm so hairy because I'm a guy. I feel like asking my parents would be awkward. So should I ask them or just go for it and buy a razor?
I'm turning 13 in a couple of months and am in the 7th grade. In school all my friends are making fun of my legs and they're very hairy. I get embarrassed in school about it. I mentioned to my mom that my legs are hairy, but she just ignores me.
My brother tells me too that they are hairy and I should ask my mom to let me shave, but I just don't know the way to ask her. Any advice?I'm 13 and I have really hairy armpits and legs. Everybody else shaves, and I really really want to as well. I freaked out and started shaving without my mum knowing. So far it hasn't caused any problems, but I have to use my mum's razor, and I know she'll find out soon. I really want to ask her to let me shave, so I can learn properly and get my own stuff.
But I'm really embarrassed and scared to talk to her about it. You see, I have a lot of anxiety and find it scary to ask my mum this. Should I just shave without her knowing? Or does anyone have tips on how to get her to ask me somehow? And there is no way that I'll be able to ask her.I want to shave my legs because they are really hairy and you can tell because the hair is thick and black. My sister said she would help me, but I don't know how to ask her.
My mom has noticed my leg hair, but idk?I'm a 13 year old girl. My mom won't let me shave at 13 when she was allowed to at 13. It's really embarrassing having hairy legs. I have golden blonde hair so my legs are pretty noticeable because they shine. All the other girls wears skirts and shorts because they can shave so they can wear that stuff without being self-conscious and embarrassed. I see their legs and it's embarrassing and I'm self-conscious about it.
My mom also knows I am and I have asked her before and she doesn't care how embarrassed or self-conscious I am about it. It's summer and I hate the summer because I don't like shorts. I only wear shorts in my room because if I wear them by her she looks at my legs and tells me how hairy my legs are. So does my dad when I go to his house. But my mom is the one who won't let me shave my legs so it's not my fault they are hairy. Sorry for how long the backstory or whatever took so long or so much reading.
I am the second oldest out of 6 kids. My older sister has shaved her legs, but I don't know if she asked or if my mom offered, but we don't talk about puberty because she is judgmental. My mom almost has no time to talk one on one with me. I'm considering writing a letter, but idk. Help me. Idk if I have to ask my mom or if she is going to offer it.
I've been going through "puberty" (I'm 15 years old) and am growing some serious armpit hair! It's starting to get extremely hot where I live and many kids at my school are wearing tank tops! I'm also a part of a dance group and the dress code there forces me to show my dark, hairy, full, sweaty, smelly, and gross hair!
(Um ew) Ever since it started to grow (2 years ago) I've been trying to ask my mom to help me, but that's so awkward. I don't think I can do it! I really don't feel like asking my mom. What should I do? Should I talk to her? (I'm also having a performance in my armpit hair showing outfit in a few weeks sooooo) Please help!I'm 13 and I was wondering if I should ask my mom if I could start shaving because I just feel embarrassed to show my legs in school or outside of school. I really need help on this because my mom doesn't shave and last time I asked her and she ended up saying no which made me mad and angry because every girl at school shaves except for me. Please help!
A good way to ask your mom about shaving is to simply write her a note asking for her help to learn how to shave your legs. You can explain that you are embarrassed and would like to start shaving now.
Good Luck!
I'm 13 and my legs and armpits are getting really hairy. The hair is dark, so it's really noticeable. All my friends shave, even a couple who don't look like they've hit puberty.
I'm not at all scared to shave, but I'm worried about asking my mom about it. Does she expect me to ask her, or is she waiting to talk to me about it?Your mother may not realize you are concerned about your need to start shaving. You are concerned about your hair growth so you should discuss this with your mother.
If for some reason you are shy to talk to your mother about this, perhaps you have an aunt or a cousin or an older sister with whom you feel more at ease who could help you talk to mom about shaving.
