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My husband and I are planning to renew our vows after 19 years. I want to show a before and after picture of us together. The tip is always take pictures of you and your hubby because in the long run, you're going to go back in time to when you first met.
By Maria L. from Somerville, MA
This is a guide about planning a 25th anniversary with renewal of vows. Choosing to renew marriage vows in combination with an anniversary celebration is a common practice.
For Mother's Day, our last pastor would invite any married couple that wanted, to renew their marriage vows. He would do this at both services.
With Valentine's Day just around the corner, plan to renew your wedding vows. Done it before? Then, you know how very special it can be. If you never experienced this fantastic opportunity, give it a try. After all, love is the reason for the holiday! What better way to tell that special person in your life how much they mean to you!
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My husband and I are going to renew our wedding vows for our 10th anniversary. It will be on December 16th to be exact. We do not have much money and want to be as frugal as we can be. Anyone have any suggestions for a frugal location? Thanks in advance.
By Nancy from Colonial Heights, VA
Why not in your home or church?
This may sound cynical but unless vows have been broken, I don't believe they need to be renewed. And as far as frugal, you really only need the two of you if it's truly about renewing your vows. Not being unkind; just my two cents.
I also think it's rather silly to renew vows and don't think I would ever bother to attend one, let alone give gifts and/or cards! Only reason I can think of anyone having one is the marriage is in stress and rather than get to the root of their problems, One or both think renewing vows would do something to help instead of seeing a marriage counselor. It certainly doesn't make you any more married than you already are. .
Our church offers this opportunity at Valentine's Day. We have done this many times and it means so much to us. We do not invite guests because this is vows we made to each other with God in attendance. No matter how you do it, I am confident it will be a special moment in both your lives.
I agree. My husband has broken his vows, so this would apply to us, but I If we renew them, it will be in our Pastor's office. We are already married, it is stupid to do the whole wedding over. Some friends of mine divorced and then remarried after 3 years. They went to the Pastor and he married them an hour later, after they went to the courthouse and came back with the license. It was right in his office too.
You never know what couples have gone through i their marriages to bring them to the place to renew their vows. After years of heartache, we turned everything over to the Lord, who made us love each other again We want to confirm it before God and our children and family.
Im going to renew my vows in December. We are doing so because my family and friends were unable to attend our first wedding (it was 2500 miles away from my home, being military, we move a lot, but we are stationed near MY home for a little while, so now my friends and family can join us). So, this way they can attend our renewal. I dont expect/want gifts/cards/etc. I just want friends and family to show up and have a good time.
If you knew me, you'd understand why I'd want to do it, and if you didn't want to attend, well then fine, I wouldnt want you there. I want true friends there. We aren't trying to be "more" married. Just celebrate our love, with my family, now that we can, since we didn't 12yrs ago.
My husband and I are planning to renew our vows next year for our 5 year wedding anniversary. I already have a dress. We have no kids. We want a wedding that we never had, but not in a church partially since we have a lot of friends and family. Any suggestions?
Why not find an outdoor venue, a garden or park with plentiful flowers?
Why not rent a community center where senior citizens meet daily - I am sure after hours [1pm] the seniors are gone and you can have the place to yourselves. The center we have where we lived costs $75 for 4 hours and has a kitchen included with the room for eating tables & chairs to be sat out for your guests.
My husband and I have been married 10 years and it is also his 50th birthday. We would like to renew our vows and have a burgundy theme, but question is what do I wear and how do I combine the celebration of all three events, our 10th wedding anniversary, our vow renewal, and my husband's 50th birthday?
By kath o
On your invitations, say hubby will be 50 years old on our 10th wedding anniversary which is (date). On this day, at (time and place ) we will be renewing our vows, please join us as we once again make sacred promises to each other.
Please join us afterward for food and drink too.
Happy birthday to your hubby and Happy anniversary to the both of you.
I've been a minister for many years and have officiated at a lot of weddings and vow renewals. You can just wear a nice dress if you want to or if you prefer, wear a wedding dress again. Just remember, that your guests will remember your celebration more than what you wear. I've officiated at weddings where the bride wore a tshirt that said "bride" and the groom wore one that said "groom". I've also officiated where the bride wore a wedding gown and the groom wore camouflage.
So what you where can be your own personal choice.
My husband and I will have been married for 5 years October 2013. Due to things that were happening in our life we had no wedding. We signed papers with his brother and were married. I would really like to have a small wedding or I guess renewal. I already have a dress so that cost is out. There would be no need for a tux. We have three young kids so our budget is tight. Do you think it would be possible to do it all for $300? I would like to not feed a full meal, but snack bar or dessert. Any help would be great! Thank you.
By Chelsea M
The largest cost would be a location if you do not have it in your church or at a home. You could serve "renewal cake", ice cream and punch (alcoholic and nonalcoholic). Choose a time of day when a meal is not usually served, such as mid-afternoon, like 3pm. Select your place, and then price ice cream and cakes if you do not bake. Cupcakes and individual sized servings of ice cream may work the best. I would stick to chocolate and vanilla for both. Most people like one of these flavors. A punch of a 2 liter bottle ginger ale or 7-Up, 1 carton sherbet and 1can of reconstituted frozen orange juice or lemonade fills a standard punchbowl. Liquor can be added (about 1-2 cups) if wanted. I have used this punch recipe at an open house attended by about 100 people, and made and used 3 punch bowls full for it. Add coffee and tea, and you have it. Hope you have a nice party, and hope this helps.
I did a revow for my sister in Tucson in 02 for just about what you have. It can be done, I promise.
The dress was $50.00 but you say you have one. Great! Is there a thrift shop close where your hubby can get a suit? Or perhaps borrow one?
Here are the things I did to pull this off...
Her colors were for spring, which left everything else much easier. The "aisle" inside the church was 8/$1.00 pastel bags from the dollar tree, with contrasting colors of tissue paper inside each one, pulled up to show of course. In other words, pink in the yellow, yellow in the blue, etc. We simply weighed each one down with a zip lock of cat litter and down the aisle she walked.
I found some spring wrapping paper that had pretty pastel circles on it, and cut them out for table scatter. Each table had to glass brandy snifter with colored water and a floating candle in it. Each chair had a bow on the back to match the color of water.
A friend made the cake, and I made mini teddies for the topper.
I made a guest book and a pen out of a half a Styrofoam ball glued onto a tuna can. Each was covered in lace, then the pen rested in a cap from a seam ripper that I shoved down inside - I kid you not.
I made a poem and burned the edges then glued it to a pillar candle from the Dollar Tree, and stuck in pretty pearl straight pins around the edges for the unity set.
We decorated a donated arch with flowers from the Easter stash, and I made all the flowers either from crochet thread or from the thrift stores. I re-purposed her veil and then went about to cook.
We have a hot day to work in, so I chose cool foods. I made tuna and chicken salad sandwiches, pasta salad, veggie plate, food colored parfaits, and we had four kinds of soda with coffee and tea.
It was a lovely day and we did pull it off for just around $275.00. I hope this helps. If you need any thing else, please don't hesitate to leave me a message through TF as we have some time.
Best of luck to you both.
My husband and I have been married for 20years. Our anniversary is in February. Now we are both firefighters and want to have our wedding there? How would you start that? Does anyone have any ideas on this?
By smurfet501 from Vilonia, Conway, AR
Contact a wedding officiant in your state. If they are established as an officiant, they will be able to help you.
I am planning a ceremony where my parents will be celebrating 50 years of marriage and my husband and myself are celebrating 25 years. I just want it simple and was thinking about our entrance into the venue. I was thinking to just have my parents come in together with my husband and myself to follow and have all of us standing together during the ceremony. Can anyone offer any suggestions?
By Jenni B.
My hubby and I are planning to have a spiritual 23rd wedding renewal at the beach, very simple. Any ideas? I have a spiritual friend who will do the ceremony.
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My husband and I are renewing our wedding vows. Our colors are navy blue and silver. If anyone has suggestions on decorations, I would love to hear them. I was also wondering if anyone knows how the ceremony is supposed to be? Thanks.
By terri from OK
Congratulations. How about using blue and silver snowflakes with glitter? I think that would be pretty. You could add them to a centerpiece of hang a bunch of them in different sizes from the ceiling or tie them on vases for the table decorations. Hope this helps. (12/01/2009)
orientaltrading.com has some nice decorations (12/16/2009)