My brother died back in December of 1976 as a newborn. (We have no photos of him or any personal memory items from his birth.) For the past few years I have started the tradition of getting my mother something (usually a tree ornament) in the memory of him on his birthday. As most americans, I am broke around Christmas time. I want to make his birthday special for my mother, but need some tips on some inexpensive, but special gifts. Any ideas?
You could make a shadow box filled with baby boy items.
My added suggestion to your shadow box would be to line the inside with blue baby blanket. That's what I would do.
My mom passed 15 months ago. Her birthday was last week. The "kids" (one is 25 and the other 29) and I decided that each of us would do a good deed in name.
I lost a brother when he was 18. For his birthday my sisters and I have often donated money to charities in his name, or have had church services held in his name. My parents are Catholic so this is a common and accepted practice, and they would receive a beautiful card in the mail on the week of his birthday. (When my mother died 3 years ago, she had an entire drawer of these cards she'd kept over the 25 years since he'd died) My parents often said this was more meaningful than any gift and that it kept his memory alive. The double advantage is that we were helping others at the same time.
I found a good gift for any occasion is to give my Mother a gift certificate (hand made) for one house cleaning done by me. I try to pick chores that are hard for her, such as cleaning the oven, or dusting hard to reach areas. Sometimes it includes taking all her laundry home, and bringing it back clean and ironed, even the sheets and pillow cases. Really a treat. I sprinkle the sheets with baby power for a sweet smell.
I work at a not for profit child care center that serves the working poor. Often gifts are made in memory of, or as a birthday remembrance, etc. We would mail a certificate to both the donor and the donee and the name is entered in our
Book of Honor. The money goes into an endowment fund where the interest earned can be used as a living memory.
we had a lost as well of a small angel .
we had gotton a square piece of wood and stained it and had it engraved in loveing memory of: and attached a pair of white baby shoe's along with her
birth stone ring tied in the shoe lace's
altogther it ran around 8-10 dollars and let's just say it was priceless!!! even though of the cost was really cheap ...
hello we lost a small angel as well .
we gotten a square piece of wood about foot wide and foot high and had stained it and then had it engraved in loving memory of:
and gotton a pair of white baby shoes and a birth ring and tied the ring in the shoe lace's and attached the shoe's to the square piece of wood .
altogther it cost about 8-10 dollars total.
and you could attach a wall hanger on the back .
let's just say it was priceless and it was really reasonable priced gift !!
I would research for Articles printed each year on the Day your brother passed.Assure that these are positiv.
Do until the current day- ( Place a note/picture in your local newspaper) on each pages with the article,
add pictures and things you may see when you look upon them such as a smile, a frown etc.
Be creative in your wording for each year created.
In the newspaper add, send a message to your mom saying something like: Angels fly right along us....domething comforting to allow her to feel the love she has for the child long gone but never forgotten-- get her a gift for example a pin of guardian angel or a locket.
My husband and I lost a baby in November 1995 two days before our wedding anniversary and a week before Thanksgiving. Many times we celebrate his birth while celebrating our anniversary.
Other ideas would be:
- to plant a tree in his name each year
- give your mom a gift certificate inside a birthday card on his birthday each year noting whose birthday you are celebrating. Or take her to lunch on that day. Make it a holiday shopping day as well.
- if you are crafty, maybe you and your mom together could make a baby blanket/quilt each year and donate it to a hospital, neo-natal unit or children's services. If not crafty, you could put together a baby gift and ask that it be given to someone who is less fortunate.
Some things that I have for the memory of our son is a little cross with a Precious Moments boy praying on the cross. My mother gave this to me to place on his grave and I couldn't leave it there. I was afraid it would get taken or broken. We moved from the island we lived on where he is buried so I am now thankful I have that as a sort of memorium.
It sits next to the only picture that I have of him that I was able to place in a frame.
Your mom may be beyond needing this now, but for anyone in the future...I was given a book called, "I'll Hold You In Heaven" and it is a book for anyone who has lost a child. (Abortion, stillbirth, infant death, childhood disease, etc.) It is a small book and usually found at most Christian book stores. Another item I was given was a copy of a song called, "Jesus' Rocking Chair". This too is about babies and children and reassurance that they are in heaven with Jesus. These were so comforting to me and my family.
To add to my earlier post, my daughter, who was born after we lost our baby, has suddenly been so aware of having a brother that is now in heaven. She came home today begging me to let her buy him a Christmas gift at her school store they will have to buy small gifts for parents and family. He was due to be born just before Christmas when we lost him and I had cross-stitched a tiny stocking with his name on it and we put it up every year next to our other stockings. I had also bought two ornaments that year for his first Christmas and two snowmen with hats that say "mom" and "dad" that I had gotten for my husband. So every year we honor him in those ways. To satisfy my daughter I encouraged her to help me pick out an ornament this year in his memory to put on the tree and she was ok with that.
In line with our cultural tradition, our children have family names. However, we did not have a second son, so my father was not named. I have now named my house for him, using his second, extremely rare name, Gurth, as part of the name.
Every year in November I also make a donation to a charity offering opportunities, care and therapy to children in need of care in my father's name.
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