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I'm planning a wedding for 10/09/10. I am on a strict budget of $3000 dollars. I would appreciate any tips and advice you could share to make wedding a memorable event.
By Chandra from Reidsville, NC
My dress was bought during Prom (or Homecoming) season at a mall chain store. The dress was a white homecoming or prom formal (just beautiful!) & it cost under $80, but you can also buy a used wedding dress on Craig's List & get a great deal! To save money, I made my own bouquet with grocery store flowers. You can also rent silk flowers for the wedding, you can't tell if they are silk or real from a distance. To rent silk flowers cost about one-third of using real flowers.
We had a potluck reception. My mom told all her friends to bring a tasty hor'devours to the reception. I bought my wedding cake at a grocery store bakery (not a fancy cake store). I looked in their book & asked for colors that matched my wedding theme (Blue & White) We bought a keg of beer instead of buying champagne or wine for the reception.
Call around to get the best places to rent. Sometimes if a friend lives in an apartment with a clubhouse you can rent this space for a very good price. The bonus is, these places often come with pool tables. Have a DJ in place of a band & have them play a lot of "oldie" music (50's, 60's & 70's) so the "old" folks will dance & have fun too... Sometimes your city parks have interior place you can rent for a good price. If you keep it small, you could even rent a party bus to take you & your friends to several places.
Look to your local dollar stores or go on to dollartree.com to buy wedding & reception favors. You can buy a box of 12 little bottles of bubbles (instead of throwing rice) for only $1 (for 12 of them!) Also, they have candles & clear glass candle holders. They also have those clear flat marbles which look so nice scattered around candles in candlelight.
One thing I can tell you to splurge a bit on is the photographer. We had a friend who said he was a photographer do our wedding pictures, & they were horrible. We really were disappointed & still had to pay him! When interviewing the photographer, have them show you examples of their work. This is one day you'll want to remember, so make sure you have several nice wedding pictures. You don't need to buy a huge package deal, just buy the least expensive wedding package you can get. (These days' everyone needs money & is looking for work, so I'd look on Craig's list for wedding photographers in your area & call 4 or 5 of them. Tell them you have very little money, but you'd like to find an arrangement that works for you both. (Get several references and call them!). The last thing you need is to have a photographer that fails to show up for the wedding! For the reception, just have your friends snap some pictures.
The most important tip I can give you is to think outside the box, don't worry & just have fun! I had several friends who had theme weddings. One was a 70's flashback wedding & one was a Renaissance fairytale wedding. These informal "theme" weddings were some of the most fun we'd ever had!
Borrow what you can! I bought my dress for $250 off the rack, it was originally $2500! So shop around.
bravobrides.com had some good fines on the site, like brides reselling items!
I had a candy buffet for my favors. I bought all my candy on sale after valentines day. I bought my candy holders from Michael's using coupons I got. If you sign up for their newsletter online, they will send you and 50% off coupon and other coupons!
Contact local high schools and colleges. My friend played in the high school orchestra and they used to do weddings for a donation! I have also heard of people who used colleges to do their flower arrengaments!
Ask friends to take pictures. You always want a few that way you have a better chance of getting good photos! Even professionals have more than one person taking the pictures!
Good luck! My advice is to enjoy the day because it will go by fast then you will even think!
Married September 12, 2009
Here are some tips that I used for my wedding and many weddings I have helped with.
1. Have your wedding at a friend or family members home. Inside look for a large winding stairway, outside look for a pretty lake or view.
2. Have an evening wedding. If the ceremony starts at 7 p.m. and the reception follows at the site you may not have to pay for the entire day.
3. Have a champagne reception only if the wedding starts late enough that all of the guests would have eaten before the ceremony. Be certain that you state on the invite that the ceremony will be followed by a champagne reception immediately followed by the dance so it is clear that food will not be served.
4. By a small cake for you and the groom to cut and then bake your own sheet cakes to be sliced and served. This will save you$$$ and everyone still gets cake.
5. Have your attendants carry 3 long stem flowers with a few sprigs of babys breath in their arms ( much like you see beauty contestants carry their flowers) this will cut your flower budget by a lot.
6. Shop for tux shops that give a free rental to the groom.
7. Use candles on reception tables along with dried rose petals scattered down the center of tables at the reception.
8. Remember less really is more. Avoid plastic, gaudy replicas of something you can't afford. It can ruin your look and your day.
9. Ask family and friends for wedding favors instead of gifts. Example if you a have a friend with a great singing voice have her sing at the wedding as her gift to you.
0. Comparision shop. Last but not least its the marriage that is the most important, the ceremony, not so much.
Congratulations! Ask friends if they belong to a fraternal organization that rents the hall. they often ask only for a donation (but you may have to purchase beverages from them). Ask and keep asking for friends, coworkers anyone who might know of folks good at whatever you need. We found a DJ who is doing the music as his wedding gift to our granddaughter because we are fellow church members.
Another church member is a party decorator and gave me access to her website and a ton of inexpensive suggestions for decoration and the pitfalls of some commonly used items. We found the gown and shoes at a consignment shop for $150 total. The groom to be had a relative that owns a print shop and that was his gift to them. The groom's father knows cake decorator that cut them a great deal on the cake. A family member's long time hobbyis photography and he is taking pictures.
Just keep asking around and you might be surprised at the talent that just pops up and how many people are eager and pleased to be asked. One post mentioned the photographer and I agree, but if you have a college nearby, even a community one, a student who is advanced might be able to do it for a nominal expense and even get extra credit for the project. I did see the results of one wedding done this way and the pictures were exceptional.
1) Check into romanticgowns.com. They have beautiful gowns at an affordable price. Also check the bridal stores for last seasons dresses. I found my dress like this & it was $300. No one knew it was a previous seasons style:) If you know someone who can alter your dress (if need be) do so b/c some alterations cost as much as the dress.
2)Favors: I wanted favors that would be used not tossed in a box with all the other wedding favors. Useful & affordable. I decided to go with bottled water. They could drink it at the reception or later on. The company I chose allowed me design my own label. The cost was about $.80/bottle. Very affordable.
3)Flowers: Look into artifical flowers. Michaels always has sales & coupons check their website. And you will always have your bouquet.
4)Skip seating chart. Its time consuming & place card fee can take funds away from more desired things.
5)Look for venues that you can do both ceremony & reception at. These places tend to work with you if your using them for both.
6)Depending on whether you have a fall theme or not you can always use the great outdoors for decorations & centerpieces. Instead of the flowergirl throwing rose petals, fill her basket with hand selected leaves. Affordable & you don't have to take time to pick them up after the ceremony.
Good Luck & Congratulations! Married Oct. 10, 2008 Jaguar2010
If weather allows, have an outdoor wedding in a public garden to save on wedding site fees. If not, look around for cheap alternatives. Local live theatre spaces, small performance venues that often host upcoming bands and such - we've used a local theatre for weddings, baby showers for friends, even fashion shows. They're very reasonable about rates and the seating is built in, so no need to rent chairs. The reception was held right on the stage after each ceremony, giving everyone a few moments to clear out while the food got rolled in on carts that were already prepared. Receptions can be held just about anywhere. Look for a friend with a clubhouse that can be reserved, or consider just having it at a private home.
Reduce the size of the wedding party. Buying gifts and throwing dinners for just a few wedding party members (and don't forget their significant others) will save you a ton of money. It might sound cold, but eliminate any unnecessary party members, like a flower girl. Don't wanna hurt people's feelings? If they know your situation they will either offer to chip in or else back off and respect your wishes. Tell people you're on a strict budget and they'll understand, especially if they've been through this themselves. For instance, my best friend had only both sets of parents in the wedding party, which was fine with me because I could wear whatever I wanted, focus only on her instead of myself, and spend more on their gifts that way!
Don't worry so much about formal wear. Most men either own or need to own a plain dark suit for special occasions. There are places, mostly online, that specialize in "destination wedding" dresses that often run about the price of a good prom dress. A dress that looks like it can be worn to another function and will usually cost less anyway, and you can always get it dyed to another color later on. Why use something only once when you can reminisce while wearing your "new" red dress to a party later on? Also, never rule out getting a used dress. If you get something either as consignment or online that is roomy enough, you can spend a bit at the tailor to make it perfect for you at a fraction of the price.
Purchase your own supplies for invites. All we needed for one friend was envelopes, vellum, nice thick card stock, a die-cut flower punch, ribbons, and some glue dots. She printed them off at home and I helped her assemble the flowers and ribbon with everything in under two hours, giving her a savings of hundreds of dollars from what she was going to order from a printer.
I hate to tell you this, but no one cares about your centerpieces but you! (We're there for the party, you know.) Go very minimal on them, using sparse candles or small photo trees with clips on them to display pictures of you two as kids. If you can't make your own photo tree, check out an office supply store. Stay away from any kind of product that is marketed towards weddings. This is only an excuse to jack up the price.
Flowers are fine, but also expensive. Consider an unconventional bouquet, like one made totally from ribbons or garden items. This gives you the chance to make it more personal and offers something unique to your wedding. People with allergies will thank you later! This also goes for favors. Keep it simple and consider what people (including you) are going to be hauling away from the occasion. The coolest favors are also the most pragmatic ones. Think about custom matchbooks, m&m's with your names, packages of mints, and the like. My favorite is a pen I carry around in my purse all the time from my brother's wedding. This way I actually use it and still think of the wedding often with a smile.
Don't rule out using students or interns in a particular field for stuff you need to get done. Local schools have culinary programs, photography programs, graphic designers and more. These people are all looking for ways to expand their portfolios while hopefully getting paid. Feel free to ask for samples of their work and be clear about your vision for the wedding as you explain it to them. They'll often be more amenable to giving you what you want since they're establishing themselves as fledgling professionals.
Lastly, think about eloping or going with a destination wedding. Both have the benefit of only a few people at the ceremony itself. You can always throw some sort of reception later on to celebrate. If it's about the gifts, just remember this - you DO pay for those presents. You might be better off just saving the cash for a bigger investment, like a new house, a car, or your college fund. And don't be shy about asking for cash or gift certificates only from people. They often call it a "honeymoon fund" or a "new home fund" as a way to keep the request from feeling tacky.
Hope this was a help to anyone who needs it. We eloped in the theatre at a new year's eve party and had a large dinner later. I couldn't have asked for a less stressful way to do it. But I've also been to all kinds of ultra low budget affairs that were terrific. Mostly, being on a tight budget brings out the most creativity I've seen at weddings, making them the most memorable ones. In fact, some people I know would say that $3000 is a lot to spend on a wedding if you're just willing to put in a little thought and effort. What really matters in the end is the marriage itself.
Just got done doing this. The most expensive part was the dress, (350 @ David's bridal, $85 for the alterations, and abt. $100 for the two undergarments) then the rent-a-preacher who got about $425 and we saw him a total of abt. 1 hour.The cake was made by the groom's sister, we had wedding and reception at the church we normally attend, so no fee there.. We had about 95 guests, and we didn't go elaborate on the menu, and we cooked it ourselves.Centerpieces were done by the bride's Aunt, and we borrowed some items from a cousin who recently married. Look for Michael's and Joanne's coupons...those were a huge help. I got an archway at half off! My biggest pice of advice would be to make sure whoever is doing your photos knows what they are doing!!! I gave my $600 camera to one of the bride's friends to take pics, and most came out blurry. I found out the setting had been changed to "Manual" in the camera. Fortunanatly, my sister in law also took a ton, so I was very glad. If you are having a friend take pics, have him or her come to the rehearsal and take pics and adjust from there!
I'm planning my wedding for 3/14/2015 and I'm way behind and I don't know what to do. We have a budget of $2500.00-$3000.00 with 50 guests. I going to use I recreation center and make almost everything to save money. I'm so lost, please help. I want to decorate and feed all my guest without breaking the bank since we need to live after the wedding. I'm thinking elegant with columns and drapery. My colors are mint green and teal.
By Norma C
Tissue paper flowers are super easy to make and inexpensive. Make big ones and hang them from the ceiling.
I made all my boutonniere's and corsages with silk flowers and floral tape. I made my cake topper with a flat rounded Styrofoam piece, two Styrofoam bells, two white doves- I hot glued lace to all the Styrofoam, and hot glued birds and silk flowers on. Do you have relatives or friends who could deejay or make a cake or do photography? Perhaps one of them has a decorative flair and could help you with decorating plans.
We haven't set a date yet, but we want to get married in 2014 after June, we both will have our bachelors in June and want to have our wedding afterwards. What month is it cheaper to get married in? Also I would rather have it before September, because we have a break from June to September, during which I am planing to have the wedding and honeymoon. I want a very simple wedding, I live in Rancho Cucamonga, California. Are there any cheap places like halls or something we can get married at?
I am planing to get the cake and food from local stores; it will cost about 600-700 so do not include that. I don't want fancy decorations and there will be no bridesmaids. Also I am Muslim so we don't have to worry about a church ceremony. I have already got that covered for free. I am planing to get our clothes for 500, so I have 1800 left to rent a place, photography, and DJ. Can you guys give me ideas and links to cheap places and things I can save on?
Thank you :):)
We don't have rings either. I am willing to get cheap silver bands for now although I really wanted an engagement ring. Is there a cheap place to get one? Remember I want to keep it under 3000. Please help.
I assume you live in the Rancho Cucumonga area being you are planning on getting married there, so use the phone book and start making phone calls to get prices. For rings go to pawn shops to look for fairly inexpensive rings. Have a friend or relative take the pictures. You don't need a DJ, because a dance isn't a necessity. But if you absolutely need a dance, ask around to see if any of your friends or family has a good stereo system that could be the DJ.
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I am currently seeking places to hold a ceremony and reception for my wedding. If anyone can help for the planning of my wedding. I have a budget of $2,000-$3,000 for about 80 people. Indoor/outdoor is good. Any information would be appreciated.
By Viri from Pico Rivera, CA
To save money look at having your wedding during the week when wedding venues are quiet or look to unusual wedding venues for your reception.
Cafes, museums, schools, colleges and local parks are all great and normally cheap wedding locations.
http://www.cheap-wedding-solutions.com/cheap-wedding-reception.html, has lots of cheap wedding reception ideas on how to save you money.
Good luck with your planning.
I am getting married in March of next year and we are trying to keep the wedding at $5000. What can I do to keep it at that rate including the following: cake, favors, flowers, dresses, ceremony, reception, catering? Help.
McGuire from CA
For flowers try the florist in the grocery store, I had the best flowers instead of using another flower store. For the cake try a local coffee shop, one that you like the desserts at. We got a cake with the chocolate and the price was less than 1/3 of regular cost. For favors try buying a large piece a tulle and cut and place birdseed in it and tie with ribbon in your colors and place little fake wedding rings on to it. My little sis used M & Ms for hers instead of birdseed. For tables put floating candles in little dishes, or for beachy theme put sand in vase and then put candle in it and sprinkle shells around. Remember it's your day do what you two want not your or his family or friends have fun. (05/09/2005)
Buy a dress at a thrift store; they are so cheap. Ask family members to volunteer their services and cook for the reception (this can save tons of money). Find an individual that will make your wedding cake. They are always cheaper than the bakeries. Find an individual that will make the bridesmaid dresses for you. Patterns and material are cheap and they are easy to make for those that know how to sew. Save your money for the flowers. (05/10/2005)
Favors are not required, so you can save money there by just not doing them at all. But if you want to, go creative. For my wedding we printed a postcard with a poem on it and gave that to everyone. If you have a CD burner on your computer you can also do a music CD, you can plan on one for each couple.
Packets of flower seeds (forget-me-nots or babies breath are nice) are also inexpensive. One wedding I went to, gave each couple one of each CD and seeds. Cookies instead of a cake is an idea and just a small cake for the cutting/bride and groom. Depending on seasonal flowers in March where you live, can you do fresh tulips and or daffodils from someone's garden? (05/10/2005)
Make your own bouquets/floral arrangements. I ordered my roses from a wholesaler in town. Sam's and Costco sell roses for around $14 for 2 dozen and will order your colors for you in advance. I spent the day before my wedding with my bridesmaids and Mom making all the bouquets, boutonnieres, etc. We had a fabulous time and had beautiful flowers. Just make up one "practice" bouquet and boutonniere ahead of time so you know what you're doing. Then, elect a trusted friend to take care of distributing the flowers to everyone the day of the wedding. Also, we did not give "favors".
Instead, my grandmothers made a basket of cookies for each table that the guests could snack on before dinner. We didn't get printed napkins either, we just used regular white ones. (05/10/2005)
We had our wedding in the morning so that we could have a lunch reception. We saved $10 per person for the meal. Plus, I made my own bouquets and boutonnieres out of silk flowers. I also made our centerpieces using 12x12 inch mirrors bought from Lowe's, votive holders bought at a dollar store, and colored stones that matched our wedding colors. I wore my mother's wedding dress and had it altered so it didn't look so 70ish. For favors we took clear plastic Cinderella slippers, put 3 Hershey kisses in them and wrapped them with tulle. Everyone loved them. Also, we put out 5 disposable cameras on various tables and let individuals take snapshots for us. Plus we had a friend make a beautiful multitiered cake for 350 people for only $300. Good luck on your wedding plans. (05/10/2005)
By Melanie in OH
Check with a local fire department. I am checking for my wedding now and they do a night meal for about $7 per person. I could make the food, but with the meat added I wouldn't same much and I can save the time for decorating and making my flower arrangements. Check with local dress shops the dresses on the clearance rack can be really inexpensive. (05/10/2005)
I am planning my wedding for a September 3rd, 2005 date. I am doubling my flower arrangements at the church as centerpieces at the reception. We are using silver julep buckets to put the flowers in and using ribbon to hang them on every other pew at the church. We are buying the flowers wholesale and doing our own flower arrangements, bouquets, and boutonnieres. We are keeping the food casual as well. Remember to have fun and enlist the help of your friends and family for their help as well as ideas. (05/16/2005)
I'm also getting married next year in February and I also am trying to keep my wedding around $5000-$6000. So what I decided to do was get my family to chip in and make a dish, have my ceremony and reception at the same location, make my own flowers for my bridesmaid (A C Moore or Michael's) find an alternate for your centerpiece, because flower centerpieces are extremely expensive. Get you dress from the thrift store or borrow you closest relative's and have cameras at the tables. For the cake, get it at a local cookie or bagel shop. (06/07/2005)
To save on my wedding I realized most couples marry on Saturday. With my reception on Sunday I saved 17 dollars per person on food and I also had cupcakes and a small cake instead of the traditional wedding cake. (06/20/2005)
My wedding is in August 05 and my budget is $4,500. I am ordering my flowers from Marisol blooms you can get 250 stems for $155. And they are real. My bridesmaids and I are making the centerpieces, bouquets, and boutonnieres ourselves. That alone has cut about $1,000 off of the total cost of my wedding. For your centerpieces buy some glass vases from the Dollar Store and some colored gems to match your wedding put them in the bottom add water and roses and your set. I also advise you to buy seal n send invitations they're inexpensive and just as beautiful. I got mine from Invitations by Dawn they were $93 for 100. I think the name of the invitation was Swirls in Pearl. Good luck and remember it's a day to celebrate love and sometimes less is more. (06/28/2005)
I printed our picture on heavy cardstock and put the ceremony program on the other side and made it a fan for our outdoor wedding. They wanted $138 for 100 programs and I just printed them on my computer for the price of cardstock, ink, and wooden handles. (05/13/2006)
Michael's is a great resource for finding inexpensive ways to do it yourself. I've been happy with what I've found so far with invites, programs and favors. (08/14/2006)
So many great ideas. I would add the following here. I make wedding cakes (long time hobby) you can automatically subtract 1/4 of the guests when ordering your cake. People have to leave early, or they are dieting and don't eat cake. If you are having 200 people, order for 175. etc. Also, you can cut costs by getting a smaller "display/cutting" cake and get sheet cakes "on the side", for mass serving.
For dresses, if you're in the San Francisco Bay Area, you can go to the Jessica McClintock Outlet store in South San Francisco. They have discounted wedding dresses (pretty casual ones) and lots of bridesmaids dresses, mother of the bride, and flower girl dresses.
You can find dresses online (99.00 and up) and the thrift store idea is a good one, even if you have someone alter it for you (update the style or fit).
Hint: get a good photographer, even if you choose the most basic package because those photos will be the one thing you have, after the cake is eaten and the dress is stored in the attic.
Best of luck to all of you brides.
(married 23 years and still honeymooning.)
My sister got married last month we bought flowers from Perla Farms they deliver nationwide and the flowers were beautiful. We saved a lot of money and the flowers were very fresh. Perlafarms.Com (02/24/2008)
I want to plan my wedding and reception for august 2008. I am working with a budget of 2-3 thousand dollars. I want a small wedding.