Our 7th and last child is entering his second year at an outstanding university, in the fall. We are incredibly lucky he appears to have gotten most of our parental collective smart genes, and has a wonderful academic ride. The tuition is normally almost 44K and we only owe about 18K a year, yet it still strains our living money.
He is moving to an on campus townhome residence, where he will live with 3 other students. All of them are good friends and the other 3 are from far away.
Each will furnish his/her bedroom and study area. They have divided up LR, DR, and kitchen. At the end of the day, even if I thrift shop all summer, we are looking at another thousand bucks. (yes, he works, too)
His sister, is marrying this summer, an established doctor, and life will be very comfortable for her despite her not having a well paying job, or a job at all.
Yet 12 showers were held by friends and relatives in her her honor. Our son moving into his own place is every bit as special. We'd love to host at home, and online, via laptop video cameras a party to honor this giant step. We think calling it a shower will sound just creepy, but don't know how to word the invitations. We really welcome any ideas any of you have. Thanks, in advance.
By RE Darling from NY
The difference is when it comes right down to it, you are still supporting your son, whereas it sounded like your daughter is on her own. The doctor might be established, but he could still be paying off school loans. I have a niece who has been an established doctor in a medical clinic in Minnesota, but she is paying off over $100,000 in school loans. This is in spite of the fact that she took out the bare minimum of loans that she absolutely needed.
What kind of shower gifts do people give now? It sounds like you want help with his share of the furniture? Go on Craig's list or the freecycle groups and ask for some stuff. For bedding, he can get by with one set. He wouldn't need more than four towels. Check out dollar stores for dishes, etc. You might even find some towels in those places. When you are starting out you don't need the best. But townhouses are some of the more expensive rentals that there are, anyway in SD that is the case.
If there is a Salvation Army thrift store in your area, have your son go there, dressed in some of his oldest clothes and ask for a voucher to get some of what he needs. Here a person can get what free furniture that they need, no TVs, etc, but basic stuff, and it isn't always real fancy but serviceable. You can also get dishes, pans, bedding, etc. there. As a whole they also mark their products quite cheaply. I used to work in the back room of a thrift store and sometimes a furniture store would donate a piece of furniture that had a slight flaw on it, or had a repair made in a place that wasn't commonly noticeable. Mention the needs to close family and friends. You might be surprised what they decide they can get rid of.
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