My husband's ex owes back child support, around $2500.00. Every time she gets a job and child support comes out she quits. Recently her other 2 childrens' dad died and now she receives Social Security for them.
Is my step daughter entitled to that money since it is a source of income for her mother? The egg donor as we call her, because she has no contact with my step daughter (the mother's choice) is only ordered to pay $60.00 a month. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
By beils77 from VA
The Survivors Benefits being sent are for the children, with the mother as the representative payee. In other words, this is not considered to be her personal income for tax purposes. (05/10/2009)
Yes you should receive child support for your daughter. Have you contacted your local friend of the court office? If you would like to chat more, please e-mail me and I am sure that I can assist you.
ACES chairperson (05/14/2009)
I'm so sorry to hear about your dilemma. We have been in the same boat all of our married life. My step daughter just turned 19. Anyway, from our experience and friends of ours, we have seen that, unfortunately, the child support system seems to go after dads, but not so much moms.
I do know, however, that with the support bureau in our area, the "squeaky wheel gets greased". In other words, your husband needs to become a pest and call or write them a couple times a month. If they will even talk to you, you can too. They can attach her taxes as well and you will get her tax refund if she is behind by so much. One very important thing I learned the hard way, don't let your step daughter know what is going on. Try your best to not talk about $ issues with her mom in front of her. Good luck! (05/14/2009)
This will be unpopular advice, I know. But I have raised several stepchildren, and child support was rare. When you start worrying about that check that never comes, sooner or later the child becomes the victim. I say that not because of the lack of money, but because of the sense of abandonment. The child feels torn, and undervalued because the check is so important that you are upset about it, and because the delinquent parent thinks so little of her as to avoid her and refuse to support her. My advice is to forget the money. Love the child. If she wants to pursue it when she is of age, that is her prerogative. Give her a hug and your blessing. (05/14/2009)
lah34a is correct. The Social Security Survivors benefits are for the surviving children from their deceased father and are not considered her income. However, if she receives a check also as a surviving spouse, that is her income and could be considered in collecting child support.
Beils77 I don't know how your state works, but in NC if you go thru the court system (which I highly recommend), with your child support then, when they get behind and they go to get their drivers licenses renewed it will pop up failure to pay. It will not tell the examiner what it is, but they can't get their license until they pay it. Most all who are behind in child support know what it is when told they can't get their licenses. (05/14/2009)
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