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Dealing with Misunderstandings When Outspoken

ThriftyFun Friends (for I feel you are),

I'm hoping to get some good advice from you about my situation. I go to a small but growing church and am very happy there. It is a very loving group of people.


Last night I really "blew it". Some of our ladies meet every third Friday evening to do scrapbooking together. One of our younger women is quite obese. She has always been very sweet and friendly. I am older (65) and sometimes too outspoken. Early in our conversation last night she mentioned having a headache. I asked if it was her time of the month. She said she only has about three a year. Instead of asking her why, I asked if it was due to her weight. I don't even remember her answer. Next mistake; She uses God's name very loosely a lot of the time and this disturbs me. As she was talking I mentioned it disturbed me to hear her using God's name so loosely and I didn't feel it was pleasing to Him.--BIG MISTAKE!

She flew into a rage, and in no uncertain terms told me to mind my own business and just because I was old didn't give me the right to talk to her that way. I immediately apologized, but she would have none of it. She said I called her fat. When I said that's not what I said or even meant, she still was angry. I apologized several times, but she put her things away and left early saying she didn't have to take that from me.

Now, any suggestions would be welcome. I don't want to let this fester. It will be awkward going to church Sunday, because we always greet each other with a hug. I'm not sure if I should wait and let her make the next move or send her another apology via email or try and approach her Sunday. That could be real awkward if she hasn't forgiven me. The whole church (since it is so small) would hear the whole thing.

Judy in Alabama

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