Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore?

RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By Emilee (Guest Post) (08/15/2008) I find it rude also! If people don't RSVP at all, I get all up on them about it. I do not care. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By MARCIA SMITH (Guest Post) (07/21/2008) I think you should remind people once and state that if you don't hear from them by a certain date that it is understood that they are not attending and will not be on the guest list. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By FUZ (Guest Post) (03/26/2008) It is just common courtesy to respond, one way or another, to an invitation. We made it simple by including phone number and email. Personally, if someone doesn't want to come to the party, fine, but please just respond! The hostess needs the numbers to order the proper amount of food and favors. In our case, when I tried to find out about some stragglers, the future mother-in-law got angrier than you can imagine. She doesn't understand what difference it makes to RSVP or not! I see some anger issues with her and am now very nervous about getting together in person with her at the shower. Bottom line, every family may do things a little differently, but courtesy and graciousness is something everyone should have in common. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By Theresa (Guest Post) (08/01/2007) WHAT is SO HARD about taking a PRE-stamped envelope and filling out whether or not you are attending an event and dropping it in the mailbox................. I cannot for the life of me understand this. Wedding is coming up and RSVPs are due in like 4 days and i'm still waiting to hear from at least 30 people. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by pamphyila (467) | (07/23/2007) Profile | Blog! | Contact If it is an important/pricey event - even if you send out printed invitations, put everyone on your evite list & send an evite - that way they can rsvp on line and you can keep on easily sending them multiple reminders to RSVP!!! Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by pamphyila (467) | (07/23/2007) Profile | Blog! | Contact If it is an important/pricey event - even if you send out printed invitations, put everyone on your evite list & send an evite - that way they can rsvp on line and you can keep on easily sending them multiple reminders to RSVP!!! Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By Aimee- Milwaukee (Guest Post) (07/21/2007) AAAH!! I am so glad that there are others out there that feel the same way I do. I am throwing a huge surprise birthday party for my sister and husband next weekend. I am having it catered, so of course, I am paying for the food per person. Since I am having a difficult time getting RSVP's I have no clue how much to order! If I order to much, I'm paying for food that is not going to be eaten. If I order to little, I look like a cheap schmuck. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By Rhonda (Guest Post) (05/29/2007) I am always surprised by the number of people who do not RSVP. I try to RSVP as soon as I get the invitation. If I really want to go, I'm of course excited and respond right away. If not too excited, I simply respond saying I can't make it. It gets it off my mind instead of hearing that little voice say "you still have to respond". By not responding, it tells me that the event is not that important, and you could really care less if you go or not. I have forgotten to RSVP in the past, and it's been to events that I'm not too excited about. When I throw a party and don't hear from people, I get the feeling like they don't care much, and they fall down the list when it comes time for another invitation. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By Becki in Indiana (Guest Post) (05/26/2007) I think fewer & fewer people these days even attempt to RSVP. I agree you should call them, and just pleasantly say "we need to know how much food to have prepared -- we would hate to have to turn people away hungry since we didn't plan for people unless we heard from them." You absolutely should NOT have to call them, but you will drive yourself crazy if you don't. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by Cindy S. (118) | (05/23/2007) Profile | Contact I would absolutely call them and say "since I never got a response from you and need to give a final count to the caterer (or whatever), I need to know for sure if you are attending or not." Let them know in a mild way that you don't appreciate being left in the dark. My sister sent out 80 wedding invitations with a STAMPED reply card. By the date she had put on the invitations as the reply date, only 50 had responded. Then, the postal rates went up!! The stamps she put on the responses that were not mailed back were wasted! That is the UPMOST of laziness- it already had a darn stamp on it - all they had to do is mark their response and put it in tha mail. I would for sure call and put them on the spot. Good luck with your party!! Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By Rasta (Guest Post) (05/22/2007) The no RSVP and NO Thank You gets under my skin as well. We were taught at home and 4th grade English/Writing class, guess they figure it is not important anymore. I am going to a class reunion in June. The man responsible sent out the initial paper work in plenty time and had everyone RSVP by a certain date. He said he does not know how many to plan for. I called some on his list and one lady which lives in the area said she got the info and threw it in the trash. I was shocked. I ask her if she was going to respond and she said no. She has no ill feelings with any of the class mates and she was my best friend in school. So I guess after all these years I will not see her when I travel 350 miles to go to the reunion. I will not spend my time looking her up. I could go on and on but you all would get tired of reading. A simple Thank You lets you know the gift was received whether it was liked or not. Enough said. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by cookwie (1077) | (05/22/2007) Profile | Contact People forget, the mail doesn't get delivered. Be nice and give 'em a call. Take the high road. Your biggest worry is all the rsvp's being in, you prepare for 20 people and only 1 shows up. We attended a birthday party years ago and my little son was the only one that came. Possibly if you send out reminder emails, it would help those with short memories. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By timmel (Guest Post) (05/22/2007) Did you ask them to RSVP? I don't respond unless asked to RSVP. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by gurth (134) | (05/21/2007) Profile | Contact Not responding to an invitation is just plain RUDE! Do not invite them again. Sherri, good for you! You go Girl! Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By NANCY (Guest Post) (05/21/2007) people are ignorant Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By Sherri (Guest Post) (05/21/2007) Hello... Yes, people are RUDE !!! When our youngest daughter got married 4 years ago there were about 10 couples (20 people ) that did not R.S.V.P.. We were having a sit down dinner. Well, you guessed it, they showed up..I politely told them that I didn't reveive their reply and I hadn't planned on them coming, so I had no seating for them. (Place cards had already been made out) Yes, they were embarassed to no end...I was glad !!! I know I sound awful to say this but I was tired of people not showing up when invited. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By Susie from Buckhead, GA. (Guest Post) (05/21/2007) I would like that question answered too. We recently sent out 75 invitations to our sons High school graduation. I was thinking of 150 or so people. I have recieved about 8 replys. We will have aprox. 25 people. If the other people show up I'm not sure what we will do. We have homeschooled our son and I feel bad for my son. He says he doesn't mind. The most important people to my son are comming. I guess that's all that matters. This still makes it difficult to provide the food for this shindig. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by mommamoody (58) | (05/21/2007) Profile | Contact I always had better luck with evites/email. Sorry. Its the state of society. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by Allison (189) | (05/21/2007) Profile | Contact I planned a surprise party for my husband when he turned 30 last December and set up a special email address for people to send an email to in order to RSVP without my husband knowing. I invited about 30 people and nearly everyone let us know one way or another. About 25 people showed up, and all of them had let me know they were coming. I really didn't have any trouble with people not RSVPing. I think email made it easy for them to do so at their convenience and there was no phone tag involved or things to remember to put a stamp on and put in the mail. It sounds like several people are having the same problem over and over... I have to wonder if their guests are just not nice people, why do they keep inviting them back? And if they do seem to be nice people, is there something the host or hostess is doing that is making them avoid the host or hostess over and over? Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By diane (Guest Post) (05/21/2007) Perhaps if you cut the invitation in half, with instructions, for them to mail their half back to you to match up to their other half of their invitation, will get their attention, and also, the RSVP that is on their half. If they act like rude children, and play games, treat them as such. I would not call the invited guest back. To me, that is desperate for their attendance. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By Connie (Guest Post) (05/21/2007) I wouldn't hesitate for a moment to call and find out if they had received the invitation and were coming. Call and just ask if they received the invitation. Postage keeps going up and folks don't always get their mail. Call them. I would. Connie Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By Diana (Guest Post) (05/21/2007) I don't invite back a two time Non-rsvper! If you can't tell me you can/can't come...what kind of friend are you? I feel sorry for your son's friends. They will not know to teach their children when they are adults...my kids always RSVP and write thank you notes (before they are allowed to play or wear a gift!) Manners are a thing of the past And don' get me started on e-mail thank yous. I should e-mail that person a photo of the gift I was going to get them! haha Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by nancyec (36) | (05/21/2007) Contact No, people don't RSVP much anymore. I have 3 daughters & I've found from kids parties I've both hosted and attended, if you invite the whole class, you'll get about 3 or 4 kids to show up. If people you invite are close friends or relatives, sure, call them up and ask if they're coming. I've found that it's easier to do a "reverse RSVP". On the invitation, ask people to call if they plan on coming. I don't think people like to call and decline but if they're definitely coming, they usually call to confirm or ask specifics about the party. Also, don't send the invitation out too far in advance or people will forget, lose the invitation, etc. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by Debbie52 (959) | (05/21/2007) Profile | Contact People have gotten lazy and rude in this country. No one thinks they need to use manners any more. I hope you still hear from them. No, I wouldn't go to the trouble of phoning them. I get very mad at those who send no thank you's. It's a small thing to do, doesn't take much time or effort (or expense) but means a lot to the gift-giver. Manners have just gone out the window here....sad but true! Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By claudia (Guest Post) (05/21/2007) I have tried to plan and pay for 3 weddings and it is sooo rude not to RSVP. We rented a hall to hold all that would be invited and only half showed up. We could have gone with smaller and closer to home. The poor last child may have to do it all herself cause I am burned out trying to guess who cares and who doesn't. Even relatives are rude about not letting one know. I have had kids parties where only two came. very sad. I have been to wedding recptions where they ran out of food due to this problem. When people don't say thankyou you feel like not bothering next time. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By Sandy from WI (Guest Post) (05/19/2007) It's me again. I do agree that people are busy, but sheesh, it's so rude not to make a simple phone call, or send back a note. Many of these people have seen me since the invites went out. I have gotten two maybes now--how can I plan for maybes? Last year, I wanted to have a party for my son, but I didn't tell him. I'm glad I didn't because NO ONE rsvp'ed or CAME! I cried, but I didn't tell him. He is such a sweet kid, too, and a nice boy. I also hate the no "Thank You's" crowd, how rude and ungrateful. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by Grandma Margie (161) | (05/18/2007) Contact Yes, Sandy, I would phone them and track them down. Just tell them you need to order/prepare the food and you need an accurate head count and you need a yes or no answer now! Rude, ungrateful people are really high on my pet peeve list these days! The last four weddings we attended (and sent generous gifts!) netted us ZERO thank you notes!! There was no way the gifts became separated from our cards........I have a good relationship with tape, and lots of it! I hate to be this way but for future invitations I'm just about ready to start sending a nice card, congratulating the couple on their marriage.....and nothing more!! The four couples on my "list" had my address to mail me the invitation! There is no excuse for not knowing where to send a thank you! I have seriously toyed with the idea of mailing future "offenders" a packet of "Thank You" cards (anonymously) when they fail to acknowledge my gift. I guess I won't because that lowers me to their level..........but I get some pleasure from imagining their reactions! :>) Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by busymomof4 (26) | (05/18/2007) Profile | Blog! | Contact People are to lazy, I am planning a couple s shower for this weekend and not one person rsvp to me I sent out 20 invites. I will just wait and see. I am planning on at least 30 people for food. If they don't show I will have food to eat for a week..I am a person that always sends back a rsvp. I also always write thanks you's too.. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post By Sadie (Guest Post) (05/18/2007) I would definitely call them. Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by michawnpita (416) | (05/18/2007) Profile | Contact I too find it awful rude. But I also have been guilty of NOT RSVP'ing myself. But I've tried to be much better for several reasons. #1 It's hard to plan #2 It's embarassing to have someone call and say "I didn't see your RSVP, are you coming?" #3 It's hard for the kids (if it's a party for them) not knowing who is coming. I had a surprise party for my son this last weekend, I invited 50 in total, only 5 RSVP'd! So with their family, it came to about 37 or so people (about 15 total RSVP's) that I didn't know were coming or not. Some I talked to in passing, some never replied, some I e-mailed. UGH! It was frustrating! But, God had the people that needed to be there, there so... STILL NO EXCUSE! RSVP! P.S. DON'T EVEN GET ME STARTED ON THANK YOU NOTES FOR GIFTS AND PARTIES! Report Spam or Abuse RE: Don't people RSVP to invitations anymore? Post by Anonymous (32) | (05/18/2007) Profile | Contact It doesn't seem that people take the time to RSVP anymore. I too find it rude, especially when it's requested on an invite. I always RSVP if it's requested, either in writing, or by phone. I would do a follow up call myself, saying that the party is coming up and with food to buy and planning to do, you need to know if they are coming or not. It's possible that they simply got sidetracked and forgot about replying. Though that's not an excuse, people tend to run themselves ragged these days and neglect a lot of simple things they should take the time to do. Report Spam or Abuse