By mc4lifes from Sydney, NSW
An obvious suggestion is to wait until she seems to be in a decent mood and ask her how she feels about your ex and everything that has transpired. Don't ask yes or no questions because the answer will probably be "no". If you are able to view her Facebook/Tumblr/Twitter/Instagram pages you may find clues that will help you ask the right questions.
Don't assume that she does not have accounts on any of these. All she needs is a friend with an iPhone or laptop to setup and maintain these social networking accounts and she can keep it completely under your radar. It took some online "detective" work for me to find out that my 13 year old daughter was being viciously harassed online by some classmates. If you have Windows 7 on your home computer you can create a free Windows Live account that will let you monitor her activity without her knowledge. It's sneaky, but you have to protect them from themselves sometimes.
I am no expert, but I would say it definitely is a result of the events of a month ago. How far away did you move? Is your daughter still able to be with her friends? She needs that. How about letting her have a party and inviting her friends over? If you are in a new city, perhaps you could invite a couple of teens from the new city to the party, too. What used to interest her? Help her find some way to satisfy those interests now. Can she find a youth group to join? Does she miss her dad? Could/should she live with him some of the time? I said a prayer for her and you.
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