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Solutions for Toddler Temper Tantrums

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There are ways to deal with the dreaded toddle temper tantrums. This is a guide about solutions for toddler temper tantrums.
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April 13, 20090 found this helpful

When it comes to restraining a child, there are good restraints and there are bad restraints. Obviously, tying a child to a chair is a bad restraint, but when a child is riding in a car, a car seat is a good restraint. The method you are about to learn involves a good and harmless restraint. Good because it will put an end to tantrums, which is not only good for you, but for the child. The restraint in this method usually only lasts for less than 15 seconds and you will probably only have to do it once or twice, then the tantrums will stop. Here is the method:

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You must be consistent with this and do it as soon as you see a tantrum begin. No matter where you are, get on your knees on the floor, then place the child on your lap with his back facing you.

Wrap one of your arms around your child's arms, wrap your other arm around his legs. Be gentle, the intention is not to hurt the child, but simply to keep him from flailing his arms and legs.

Next, put your mouth next to the child's ear and speak in a soft voice. The child will have to pipe down some in order to hear you. Say something like, "When we throw our arms and legs around, we can hurt ourselves and other people, so I am going to hold you here until you are still because I don't want anyone to get hurt." The child will most likely be still and silent before you finish the statement.

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Then let the child go. If the tantrum starts again, do the same thing all over again. Do this each time a tantrum begins.

After you do this once or twice, all you should have to do is start walking towards the child when a tantrum is about to begin, and the child will stop the tantrum himself. At that point you will know that the battle against tantrums has been won.

By Amuck from Fairview Heights, IL

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December 22, 20100 found this helpful

I am a parent that does not believe that spanking should be used as a punishment unless absolutely pushed to the limit. I spanked my daughter one time ever. My father has over 30 years of experience working with kids and his suggestion, when my daughter was 3 and throwing a monster of a tantrum (it was her first one), he said to put her in my bed, hug her, holding her arms in and put one leg over her legs to keep her from flailing. I did it and it took about 15 minutes of her screaming, trying to get away, crying, sweating and such and then she stopped and fell asleep. I left her there to nap and when she woke up, we talked about it. It never happened again. I now have a 5 year old step-daughter and just tried the same thing today. No talking while it is happening, because they have to figure out on their own that you are the adult and they are the child and the child is not in control. I hope it worked. Seems severe but it is not spanking and she is not getting hurt.

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By 0 found this helpful
July 1, 2008

I have a 3 year old that has huge temper tantrums! How can I stop this?

C from Jacksonville, FL

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July 1, 20080 found this helpful

Ahis makes me think of the Andy Griffith episode where Opie threw his fit in the floor of the court house, and Andy ask him what he was doing and Opie stopped to say having a fit thinking it would get his dad's attention even more but Andy just said, "oh, well don't get your britches dirty", so funny. My 4 yr old grandson who I watch each day has now started testing me in the same way and I ignore him. As long as I know he is safe, he sees he is not getting attention and stops. I even say to him at times "let me know when your over your hissy fit". He thinks that's funny and forgets about it and we go on with other things as normal. Just be patient and this to will pass. and next month it will be a whole new thing of something else they try. lol

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July 2, 20080 found this helpful

One man I know instantly cured his nephew's temper tantrums in a highly amusing way. When the child threw a fit, this big man threw himself down on the floor, and did exactly what the child was doing--kicking, screaming, the whole bit.

It scared the kid so much, that his mom reported that he never threw another tantrum, LOL!

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July 3, 20080 found this helpful

I'm a preschool teacher and a mom of a preschool age son too, so I've seen LOTS of tantrums over the years! :) Here are a few tips that I hope will help! Sometimes children have a hard time with transitioning. Say, for example, they're playing but you need to run to the store. Instead of just scooping them up and away from what they're doing (which could cause a tantrum), what I do with my son is give him forewarning. I'll say, "Okay, you can play for a few more minutes, but after that, we have to go to the store". That way, he knows what to expect.

Also, before you go into a store or other public place, let them know what kind of behavior you expect from them. For example, "We're going to be using inside voices and walking feet while we're in the store". I know that kind of language seems silly, but terms like "walking feet" and "inside (or quiet) voices" are easy for kids to understand and clear cut.

If a tantrum does happen, at home or in public, try to remain calm. I know--easier said than done! But the child needs to know that you're the one in control. Calmly tell them that their behavior is not okay, tell them what the consequence will be if they don't stop, then FOLLOW THROUGH. If you don't, they'll know that they can throw a tantrum and get away with it with no consequences.

My son recently was playing in his room and I heard yelling. I went in and he was throwing a toy car across the room. I asked what was going on, and he was angry because it wasn't working the way he wanted it to. I told him, firmly but calmly, "I know you're angry, but you do not throw your toys. If you do that again, you'll have to put the cars away and can't play with them". That was enough to make him stop, but in other instances, I have had to follow through on what I'd said, and now he knows I'm serious. Children at this age are testing their independence.

Maybe give them a few choices once in a while: "Would you like juice or milk?" "Do you want to wear the blue shirt or the yellow one?". That way, they feel like they have some sort of control too. Wow--what a long suggestion! I hope that some of it helps though!

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July 3, 20080 found this helpful

I was so embarrassed, but I threw a tantrum at a grocery store in the frozen food aisle years ago. One of our children starting throwing tantrums after her little brother was born. With four under the age of 6, it was easier to give her what she wanted when it first began. Two weeks went by, and I put my foot down and ignored her fits at home and she quit. But, she was smart and figured out that in public, she could get away with it.

So, after being told by a family member that if I threw a fit, she would stop, I tired it. Of course, it was a Saturday and the grocery store was packed. She wanted ice cream and I said, "No". She started crying and stomping her feet. So I threw myself down on the floor and went to town. I screamed, wailed, kicked my feet and arms, begged, and made a complete fool out of myself. She quickly stopped and ask me to stop. I didn't. I just kept on throwing a fit. She was embarrassed with everyone looking and she walked off. She walked to the end of the aisle and around the corner.

Another mother mouthed, "I got her" and followed her. I got up and tried to compose myself. Two people laughed at me. One said she had a fit thrower once, too. When I went to the end of the aisle and turned, she was waiting. I acted like nothing had happened. I thanked the lady that had followed her. She just smiled. My face was red for a long time, but my daughter never threw a fit again. It works, but it is embarrassing. I promise you will do much more embarrassing things before she is grown!

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July 3, 20080 found this helpful

First of all don't reward him just for stopping. We pitched fits and didn't get rewards. I work in the elementary school here. He throws a fit, don't talk to him let him be. You know ignore him. As long as you are paying attention to him he has you. The kids that are rewarded for just doing what they should do anyway, are going down a wrong road or the parents are.

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July 3, 20080 found this helpful

I was raising a little girl through the terrible twos-which lasted through the threes. When she was two she would fall out on the floor and have a tantrum; I would look at her with one eyebrow raised and say 'when you are done I will be over here', then go sit and read or watch TV. She would be done in a matter of seconds once she realized it didn't push my buttons. Because I would walk away and not look back, even though it was only across the room, she never tried it in public, perhaps because she didn't want to see me walk away there! Her mom did respond to her tantrums when she had her, so she had them all the time when she visited her. Kids are SMART.

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July 4, 20080 found this helpful

Watch tv's "the nanny". She has it down to a science that often works well beyond when she leaves. : )

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July 6, 20080 found this helpful

The program that I watch is called " Supernanny". Jo, the nanny, is so good with kids. There are lots of great tips that you can glean, and it is good to see that other people have problems too, so it cheers you up! Jo uses a naughty chair, and explains what is expected. There is more to it than that -- the essential thing is not to participate in the hissy fit.

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August 22, 20080 found this helpful

OMG! I am so happy I found this site. I have been trying to get advise on how to handle my 3yr olds tantrums and thought I was alone in this. What makes my problem worse is that grandma gives in to her tantrums, grandpa too only he just makes it worse by making fun of her and my sister seems to think it's something I've done. Try explaining to them it's a phase and to not react to it. Impossible. I am going to print these suggestions and mail them to each of them. Maybe they'll finally get it and I can get my daughter under control. Finally!

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February 20, 20090 found this helpful

I like the idea of ignoring the tantrum. However, what do you do if the child is crying so hard that he throws up? It wouldn't feel right to ignore him while he's covered in puke (even though I'd like to keep ignoring it).

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February 4, 2013

I'm 22 and have a 16 month old son. He gets very angry and has started kicking doors and biting himself hard enough to leave marks. I've tried to stop him and explain to him that what he is doing is wrong. I feel like I'm hitting my head of a brick wall. Any ideas?

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February 6, 20131 found this helpful

It could be that your child is just willful and needs strict discipline (I had one of those!) But...it could also be that your child is crying out for help because he has issues and cant explain them to you (I still have one of those!). Why dont you take him to your doctor for an assessment? He is still very young and may actually grow out of it, like my eldest did. But my youngest still has issues which I didn't comprehend for a long time, because I thought he was just naughty but it wasn't...it was a cry for help. Your doctor is your best bet.

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February 6, 20131 found this helpful

Try changing his diet. My son was similar with temper tantrums and fits of rage and when I took him off of food dyes - yellow, blue, red dyes and sugar, he was a new kid. Put him on a whole food diet with unprocessed foods - meat, veggies and fruit, and you will see a huge difference. Check out any other food allergies he might have like wheat or dairy. I know it sounds like lots of work, but you will reap the benefits throughout his life with less trouble ahead in school, as a teen and with good health, etc. A lot of children change dramatically when put on a diet of unprocessed foods and avoiding allergens. No chemicals, artificial ingredients or sweetners, etc.

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February 6, 20130 found this helpful

Try not to talk about this in front of him to others. He may sense that you are upset and will continue on. Try to divert his attention onto other interests when you sense that he is building up to this.

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February 6, 20130 found this helpful

He is too young to understand what you are trying to explain, he sounds like he is very stressed. Try to remember he is really still a baby and is impulsive and not patient. Look at your house and make sure it is child proof so you don't have to say no very much. Be upbeat and positive about requesting him to do things like come eat or nap etc. Keep things calm and the routine the same every day. Children thrive on routines. If he continues to do the biting, take him to his pediatrician. He may have a physical issue, plus the pediatrician can give you pointers.

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February 7, 20131 found this helpful

First thing you need to do is go talk with his doctor. Tell him everything then between him and you you all can watch for any other signs. Biting himself that hard is not a good sign. I have been in daycare for over 23 years and I have raised 2 kids. So I would go as soon as possible and talk with the doctor. Better to be safe than sorry .

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June 13, 20161 found this helpful

Completely agree with everything said here, no synthetics, no colors, no annatto also. My three year old wonderful boy was a head banger until he was one and a half. I didn't know y my child was doing this! But after reading on synthetic foods and all colors we cut it all out! Make ur food or know what is in it. you really want to feed your precious little one remnants of petroleum, and foods of things that are just synthetics!?

Make your own pizzas. triple baking soda in recipes instead of using aluminium baking powder

Yes it's more difficult to make sure he doesn't eat MMS and snickers, no he is not deprived of sweets and childhood. I make brownies with flour, cocoa, eggs, brown sugar

that don't need red blue and yellow color to make them brown!!!!

Your child will thank you for the food you give him and be happier for it!

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