My nephew was taught to use a regular toilet, not a potty chair. As he grew older, he was having trouble moving his bowels. His mother, thought nothing of it, and assumed he would eventually grow out of it as kids sometimes do. In fact, her younger twins were fine "going potty" on their own chairs without having any issues.
He would sit and sit without any bowel activity. Once he did relieve himself, the movement was hard and not normal in size. His diet was fine, he ate plenty of vegetables, fruit, and high fiber. His mother was getting frustrated thinking he was "holding back" and causing his own discomfort. Also, the toilet he used was often becoming clogged. They had a plumber come and he could not find anything wrong with the toilet.
When he was six, she finally talked to the pediatrician hoping for some advice about curing his emotional problem with moving his bowels. She was surprised at what she was told.
As a child learns to potty train, their feet should have leverage, they should not hang. There are special muscles that "push out" bowel movements. Pushing down on your feet help develop these muscles.
Since my nephew never used these muscles because his feet would hang, they never developed properly. This made it physically difficult for him. His mother was so upset that all this time she felt it was him, never knowing it was a physical problem.
She was given exercises for him to do so he could develop the muscles. After a few months, he is getting better. She was told that a child should use a stool for their feet if they do not use a potty chair. This way they have leverage when they "go".
I have never heard of this but I have known many other children who have had this trouble and wonder if that was their problem. I hope this helps anyone who is in process of potty training their children.
Source: My niece
By mkymlp from NE PA
By Brianna S. from Dutch Harbor, AK
Mine went something like "We do the potty dance, we do the potty dance, we kick one foot up, then the other foot up, then we turn around, and WHOOO!" (and on Whooo, we jump up with our hands up in the air!) You do this with your little one while holding both of their hands (like in ring around the rosy). and I'll guarantee you, They'll feel SOOO special that they have their very OWN dance that they'll continue to want to use the potty again and again! (We made up a different dance for #2) The potty dance takes less than one minute of your time, but BOY-OH-BOY it sure does motivate them!
My 2 1/2 year old won't go poop on the potty. She goes pee and has had no accidents. She will not poop in her pull ups either. She holds it in for days and days. I don't know what to do anymore. Can someone please help?
By weeple_2 from Ontario, Canada
I had a friend who went through this. Her daughter would hold it for days, then when she finally went, it was painful and she would hold it again....a terrible cycle. Add fiber. Break up little pieces of mini wheats and sprinkle wheat germ and other fiber into yogurt, etc. She will really need to go and it will be much easier. Follow up with a prize that means something special to her. Repeat. You will have success.
My daughter is 21 months old and I have started to potty train her. I started when she was 19 months, because she was always taking off her diaper or wanting to sit on the potty. Since I have started she has peed in her potty 4-5 times and has pooped in it many times. And sometimes she comes up to me saying mommy I have to go potty.
Even though she does these things she doesn't tell me she has to go pee until she has already gone, and sometimes she cries that she doesn't want to get on her potty. I don't want to feel like I'm forcing her, but I also don't want to wait too long since she is showing signs that she is ready. What do I do?
By NyLah's_Mommy from Springfield, IL
My oldest daughter, now nearing 30, was a very prissy little lady. I potty broke her at a VERY young age. I did it by having a lady who sewed cute little girls panties make some for her. Bright colors, lots of lace. My daughter loved them and didn't want to dirty them. Plus when she sat on the potty we played games, like Patty cake, and when she did go in the pot we made a big deal out of it. :-) Now, as for getting my son to potty, LOL, that is a whole different story.
I have a problem; my youngest child is 2 and will be starting preschool next year, but still uses her nappy. I have been told I have to potty train her before she can start. How do I do it? I have tried and she always goes everywhere else but in the toilet. Please help.
By mc4lifes from Sydney, NSW
What I do is ask them if they have to go potty, (unless they already went) if they say no they still probably do. So I bring them to the bathroom and close the door with myself inside and the 2 year old and tell her she can't go unless she goes potty. It might take a while but be patient. She might also cry a lot just ignore it.
How do I get my 3 1/2 old son to want to potty train? He just started talking now. My other son is almost two. Should I train him at the same time?
With 13 grandchildren, I can offer what I think works best. Kids love to imitate & "compete", especially with siblings - train them at the same time. Let the older one watch the younger one & vice-versa.