Please, please, please go to http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/index.php That link will take you to the list of bulletin boards. Click on Parenting and then you can see boards for every possible parenting situation you might be in. Just register (free), introduce yourself and ask your question. The gals there are really nice and very helpful. It's mostly women there, but men are welcome too.
If you go to this link, they have a discussion group you can join for advice. It is down the page a bit near the centre of the page: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting.aspx Just keep looking up and asking God to guide you.
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