My Daughter Likes an Older Boy

RE: My Daughter Likes an Older Boy Post By (Guest Post) (04/16/2008) At least he isn't 20. I say let her talk to him and things like that. There is no harm in that. Report Spam or Abuse RE: My Daughter Likes an Older Boy Post By Alisa (Guest Post) (08/01/2007) I think that if your daughter really likes this boy, you should meet him. If they seem happy together, and he seems like a nice boy. Then what the heck (:_* Report Spam or Abuse RE: My Daughter Likes an Older Boy Post by Debbie52 (939) | (12/30/2006) Profile | Contact I think a 13 yr old is too young to date. I do remember "liking" boys at that age tho but my father didn't let me date till I was 16 and then it had to be a double-date! This boy actually doesn't sound like the kind of boy your daughter would be interested in since you say she has strong moral values. I personally wouldn't want to encourage the relationship but to give the young boy the benefit of the doubt, would want to know why he's been in serious trouble and put back 2 grades. I don't know if others would agree, but I'd want to see what type of email correspondance they are having. Report Spam or Abuse RE: My Daughter Likes an Older Boy Post By Paula Jo Carr, Mebane NC USA (Guest Post) (12/29/2006) Let her have him over to your house (where you can observe him) to eat, clean up after eating and then go watch a video (one they choose) in your living room. You can observe from a distance then. Trust your daughter and remember she is a product of you and what your values are that you have already taught her. She knows your expectations and I am sure will not let you down. Report Spam or Abuse RE: My Daughter Likes an Older Boy Post by Imay (2) | (12/29/2006) Contact Thank you all for your very constructive feedback. My daughter and I are close (not like "I want to be her friend") and we do communicate well. I would hate to lose that because I got bent out of shape over her communicating so much with the boy. She does have other friends, both male and female that she talks with often. I will keep an eye on things, and hopefully I won't allow my motherly fears to smother our relationship. Thank you. Report Spam or Abuse RE: My Daughter Likes an Older Boy Post by kimmcg (192) | (12/29/2006) Contact I would let her know you are concerned about it, but let her make her own decisions. Boys at 15 are sometimes still very immature. Girls however are more mature at 13 so they may be at the same maturity level. I remember when I was a teen (now the mom of a 14 & 10 yr old) I remember my father telling me I couldn't do this or that, and it was just more of a reason for me to find a way to sneak around and do it. I now have more communication with my kids and trust them until they prove to me that I shouldn't. My 14 yr old son and I talk so much more than I would have ever talked to my dad. Let them be friends, talk on the phone & computer, even hang out, but I wouldn't encourage "dating" at 13. Report Spam or Abuse RE: My Daughter Likes an Older Boy Post By Doggy (Guest Post) (12/29/2006) At 13 & 15, the more the kids are kept apart, the more "Romeo & Juliette-esque" they're likely to become. A long relationship at that age is 2 weeks. Most of the fun at that age, is holding hands in the hall at school, and being the center of attention for a while. There's a huge difference between the sexes at 13. If she's mature, a 13 year old boy is likely to seem like a child to her. Can you find out why this boy seems troubled? Trouble at home, or just the "wrong" kind of boy? I'd encourage her to bring him over. He will either exhibit phoniness, embarrass her, or rise to the occasion. In any event, you'll know a lot more about him after you've met him. 13 is too young to date, but some tend to couple up anyway. If he's looking for a "good time", he'll have to look elsewhere. If all they can do is hang out at your house, they'll soon tire of each other. (seconded by my 28 year old son lol) Report Spam or Abuse RE: My Daughter Likes an Older Boy Post by CarlaJS (79) | (12/29/2006) Profile | Contact Do you know the #1 reason most teen-agers cite as to why they don't do something like drink, smoke or have sex? It's "Because my parents would kill me and be so disappointed" - that is the most powerful thing you can remember. Continue to talk to your daugther and let her know how much you love her and trust her judgement. Remind her that boys are not like girls and sometimes their physical attraction over-take their good sense. I will never forget the first time a guy said to me "but if you love me, you will..." - I thought "OH MY GOSH...boys actually will say that! I thought my mother was making that up" - then just stay in touch with her. The quickest way to shut down communication with your daughter is to behave like you don't trust her. If you lower the bar for your expectations - she will meet it. Report Spam or Abuse