By angiepooh88 from north east, MD
We have seven indoor cats (four female/three male) & one dog - all are spayed/neutered. All the cats get along with the dog, but in different ways - some really buddy up with our dog & others just don't care. Some we had pre-dog, some after. Has your dog been around cats before? You need to know if your dog will be ok with a cat - my dog loves cats, but some dogs may be 'cat-aggressive' (not to be confused with 'I just really really want to play..') - many dogs are just indifferent (ours was when we initially adopted her). If you don't know if your dog is cat-friendly, let the organization you want to adopt from know & they should be able to help you find out. If your dog is cat-friendly, when you find a cat you like, take your dog to meet them. Rescues & shelters tend to know the personalities of their animals & should be able to help you find a good fit. For 30+ years we've had a one dog/ multiple cat house & haven't had any major problems. Good luck!
I agree that male cats mark their territory and it stinks. They sometimes do this even after they are neutered.
I think it's more important that you find a cat that will get along with your dog. Has your dog had interaction with cats before? Talk to a vet or dog trainer about what problems you might encounter. Think about getting a cat that's been exposed to dogs in the house she/he was born in. Some pairs get along. You will probably get better info from more informed people, but these things I know. Good luck.
If it will be an indoor cat I would get a female because Males spray their nasty cat goo on everything.
If it will be an outdoor cat I would go either way.
My neighbour found a cat and 4 kittens in her back yard. The babies are about 4 weeks old and so cute. Anyway, we are going to send them all to the shelter so they get the best care and protection. I am going to take one of the kittens when they are weaned. My question is, which sex of cat would be better? I am looking for a cat that is tolerant of kids (mine are 7 and 10), loving, quiet and playful. It will remain indoors also. Thanks for any opinions.
Terry from Chilli, OH (08/18/2005)
By Paula W.
Most important is to teach the children as soon as you get the kitten, how to touch a cat, and how to read a cat's signals; ears laid back, violently swaying tail, all signs that kitty does not want to play right now. Also, monitor kids with pets; our cats are more willing to tolerate our childrens' "loving" when they are allowed to leave when tired of the game.
I currently have 3 males and 1 female. The 7 year old can only routinely carry the female around; she can occasionally pick up 2 of the males, although 1 nips at her frequently. The baby is only "daddy's" cat; not even I can pick him up. When he wants his loving, he comes to us. No holding allowed.
They do have personalities. Help your cat bond to the child(ren) by having kids take part in feeding ritual. Nothing says I love you like fresh food and water. Desexing is not an option in our household, just do it. Good luck with your new pet, whichever you choose. (08/19/2005)
I have had both male and female cats. I usually have indoor female and outdoor male cats. Currently I have one of each inside. I have found that the female is much more tolerate of guests and children. And the male only loves mommy. He will watch guests, but not approach them.
The two males are louder, play harder, and demand more attention and affection. The female is laid back, she is much more cautious and doesn't knock everything down off my shelves and tables like the males do, she is very careful of what she does and where she steps. She is less vocal than the males. The female will hold a grudge against my husband if she "gets in trouble" for doing something "bad" like eating my plants. And all he does is pick her up and tell her "No, bad cat, don't eat the plants" and put her somewhere else in the room. But, oh how she will not sit or even look at him for days afterward. It is actually quite comical.
The males seem to forget being in trouble within seconds of it happening, they are already off on a new adventure. I have to feed my female apart from her brothers, as they will push her out of the way and eat their food and hers, and she will not try to get in front of them when they do it. They all love to cuddle and play with their toys, the boys will playfight each other, while the female gets her pretend flower and carries it around in her mouth and tosses it in the air and plays with it by herself.
If you want a cat who is always around, follows you everywhere and is totally all over guests, then a male is a good choice though they can be a little more work. If you want to have a cat that is calm, (as long as she is fixed) and independent, a female is a good choice though they are a bit moody. But I love all of mine equally, as it does have a lot to do with individual personality more so than sex, I think. (09/09/2005)
By Crazy cat lady
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