My teenage daughter shaved her sideburns and then she went further on the side of her face. I flipped out when I noticed that she did that. I kissed her cheek the other day and she had stubble! Oh my gosh! Help! What do I do with her? I've always told my girls ever to shave any part of their body other than their underarms and legs, but being a teen that thinks mom doesn't know anything.
This probably isn't helpful, but...
Let her do it? By opposing her, you're just giving her something to fight against. If you accept that this is a time in her life that she will be experimenting with her body, then she'll probably get over it.
Besides which, hair will grow back. I would talk to her soon about permanent things, like tattoos and piercings, though. You might want to talk about the health risks of tattoos (there's a potential of getting HIV plus not liking it later) and piercings (nerve damage, muscle damage, and also HIV).
By Kathy K.
Does your daughter have excessive facial hair? Like a faint mustache or beard? If so, she should be checked out by a reproductive endocrinologist. There are several disorders out there that cause excessive testosterone in women. One of them, which I have, is called Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. It can be treated.
Hope this helps! (07/13/2005)
Shaving unfortunately causes thick rough hair to grow back, however I have found from personal experience that waxing or using a depilatory cream which removes the hair from the root allows for faint normal hair to grow back, tell her to stop shaving she'll get a five o'clock shadow of sorts, the creams are fantastic I personally prefer Sally Hansen's facial hair removing cream. All the best! (07/15/2005)
By Anonymous Friend
I have sideburns and very little body hair. Your daughter should leave it alone until the facial hair begins to show and then just use Jolen facial hair bleach. No stubble, and it blends with the peach fuzz!
Hormones? Lasers? Depilatories? Wax? Wow. Haven't any of you been to a salon since you were too young to go without your mom?
I have been professionally cutting hair for 20 years. For the past 10 years or so, I've routinely shaved in front of the ears on girls' and women's cuts. It's just a routine part of some haircuts.
There's nothing to it, just like getting the fuzz and stray hairs taken off the nape.
Contrary to the popular wife's tale, this does not make the hair grow coarser, thicker, nor darker. It is just when the hair is cut very short, it stands up with a blunt end without the weight of the rest of the hair once held it flat.
I would be more concerned about your daughter cutting her own hair. Might I suggest taking her a salon for a professional haircut? The look she is trying to achieve is most likely part of an overall style that requires professional skill to create, especially one that requires shaping the hair in front of the ears into "sideburns". It's an art to do so with a feminine result.
I have clients with this kind of cut who come in once or twice a week between haircuts to get their napes and in front of their ears cleaned up. I do this as courtesy as do most stylists for regular clients.
Again, it's a part of maintaining that kind of cut.
Your daughter is taking an interest in her appearance, and did something on her own about it, which may not have worked out the way she liked. You should try to help her with what she sees as a problem. Read the above suggestions. See an MD to check about hormones issues and medication possibilities. Or go to the beauty supply store together to shop for a remedy. I taught myself everything I knew about "beauty" from magazines like Seventeen, maybe a subscription? (05/25/2007)
By pam munro
I waxed mine off today. I've always waxed my eyebrows and upper lip, so I decided to wax that little bit under your lower lip and some of my chin. 4 weeks on and it was growing back faint and slow so I decided to do my sideburns. It feels so good. You can get a cream from the doctor for slowing down facial hair and ultimately stopped it, it's called VANIQA.
I think waxing is the best way to go. I started waxing my legs when I was 13 and I'm 19 now and my legs now have bald spots and little hair, same with underarms. (11/03/2007)
I used to hate my side burns. I have really dark hair and you can really notice them. I used to get bullied at school over my really dark and thick side burns and people used to call me a boy in school for having them, so I shaved them off and the people in school still called me a man and picked on me because
I shaved them off. But then I tried waxing them and my side burns still grew back really dark and black, but then one day I just thought to my self what is so bad about having side burns and being a girl, nothing.
Now I don't shave my side burns. If you feel embarrassed just hid them when your out by having your hair down. and you should be confident in what ever way you look. If you were born to have thick and dark side burns, then don't worry about it. If you don't worry about it, I'm sure other people won't. If people have a problem with them and don't like them, it is their problem.
Live life great even with dark thick sideburns :p
By Stacey =D
I have dark hair/sideburns and I just use cosmetic scissors. I've been doing it since my early teens, it looks great and doesn't grow back prickly, nor do I have issues with my skin. Since most people have small thin hairs all over their body and face waxing often draws attention to those because there is no hair, but cutting it off with scissors makes it look naturally bare or similar to the overall appearance of the face. (12/26/2008)
My daughter is 16 with hair on her face and chest and neck. I took her for a laser consult and had a test area done on her body and more hair grew back. We have been going to an electrolysist once a week and her face looks pretty good, what a change and its permanent! As new hairs crop up we will just continue to have them removed. I highly recommend that route. (04/30/2009)
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