My Daughter Missed Mass on Holy Thursday?

As you know, this week is holy week. Does anyone know if my daughter should go to confession if she missed mass on Holy Thursday? I told her it would be longer than usual (as Holy Thursday masses are an hour longer) and she had refused to go. She claimed the reason was "I'm tired" which is not a good reason to miss mass.


My husband is a strong Catholic and yelled at my daughter, but my daughter still refused to go! Is this a mortal sin? What type of punishment should I do? We also just went to confession for Lent, should she go again?

Please help me out, I am so confused!

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April 20, 20191 found this helpful

I think if SHE feels guilty she should go. Some Catholics are more devout than others, even in the same family.

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April 21, 20190 found this helpful

I will tell her that thank you lots

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April 21, 20190 found this helpful

Each church is different. I would suggest asking your priest, or, if she is younger, her youth leader.

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April 21, 20190 found this helpful

I was born and raised a Roman Catholic, even attended Catholic school. I still practice my religion. I was never taught that Holy Thursday or Good Friday were mandatory days for Mass, and I still have never heard of this.


I have no idea where your husband is getting this notion.

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April 21, 20190 found this helpful

Religion, religious beliefs, and how one livings the customs and observances is very personal. If you daughter feels she committed a sin and needs to be absolved of it, then she can choose to confess missing a mass. If she feels it is not a sin, then she can choose not to confess. Now that is my feeling, the church's may differ.

I pray and hope you do not take offense that this, but I hope your husband thinks yelling is a sin and confesses that. Talking this out (quietly and with respect to all) would have been much more palatable (but I am speaking from my point of view and how sad I would have been to be yelled at in this situation).


You don't say how old your daughter is--so I am guessing she is trying to assert her independence and own thinking age (maybe a teen or young adult).

Maybe the family would do well with a brief family discussion with your priest on how to handle differences in ritual observances so things can be aired in a non threatening situation. If your daughter can share her feelings and your husband can share his feelings, everyone may feel heard and come to some agreeable comprise for future situations like this.

I wish your family peace and joy today and always!! Blessings to all!!

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April 21, 20190 found this helpful

No. Missing mass on Holy Thursday is not a sin.

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April 22, 20190 found this helpful

Holy Thursday is one of the three holiest days for the Catholic church, however, it is not a holy day of obligation, so her going to church is not mandatory.

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