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Fitting In When You Move To A New Town


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When I moved to the small town I currently live in (population under 3000), I had extreme difficulty finding businesses and organizations. Not only was the town small, but they were also clicky and tight. I was an outsider, and just didn't fit in.

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I also lived on a farm in the country, so didn't have a neighbor next door or across the street close by, nor were there kids in the neighborhood for mine to play with.

The town did not have a welcome wagon, but the city hall told me the chamber could give me information. So, I headed to the Chamber. The Chamber told me they would be happy to give me info and a town packet if I "joined". Needless to say, I didn't join.

Since my children were involved in scouts, I called the scouting headquarters to get the names of some scout troops in our area. Turns out, there were scout troops for older girls, and for younger girls, but none for my girls' ages.

My children had also been involved in 4H. So, I headed to the county extension office. Here is where I hit my jackpot. They set us up with 4H information, a county and city map, a phone directory and names, addresses and phone numbers of community people who ran businesses out of their homes. They were not in the directory; such as a woman who did custom sewing and mending, a lady who made soap, a mechanic and a farrier. I quickly learned that anytime I had a question, the county extension office could direct me where to go with a simple phone call.

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Our 4H group however, didn't turn out to be a good fit for us. The meetings were all scheduled on Sundays, during the time we normally attend church. So, with another family, we started another 4H group and quickly had 40+ kids and their parents involved. Again, this proved to be a jackpot. I have met wonderful people this way, found a great home school co-op through this group, a book club, community choir, and other women who share some of my interests.

I also have met friends by shopping a little differently. This town only has 1 grocery store, and it is a chain (wow, no WalMart!). So, when possible, I shop from private persons who are selling items that I would normally buy, such as produce. Taking the local paper has been very informative. Here I find info to holiday parades, craft shows, children's events and more. I found out in the paper that a near neighbor cut hay, as we were looking for someone to cut our hay. I also found here a local retired tractor mechanic who fixed our tractor.

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A few friends I found by wearing t shirts. Sounds odd, but one lady approached me because I was wearing a 4H shirt. She and her child are now a member of our club. Another time I was wearing a Republican shirt, and a lady approached me and asked if I was local. I told her I was, and she replied she hadn't seen me at any of the meetings, and handed me her card with a website on it.

Later I looked that up and found out that the Republican women in my county have a breakfast once a month, with a speaker, as a way to get to know each other. Needless to say, the speaker rarely is a politician. In fact, this month's speaker is showing us simple Christmas crafts to make.

It has taken me 5 years, but I can finally say I now know some of our town's people, and finally fit in.

By mom-from-missouri from NW Missouri

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November 23, 20110 found this helpful

Mom from MO, I know what you mean about small towns. That is why I have never liked them so well. They are very cliquey and you have to live in them a long time before you are "accepted". You had some good points about getting acquainted. I was a 4-Her and loved it in my teen years. It was the only time I could get social since I was raised on a farm.

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There is only one thing different about us...I would not be caught dead wearing Republican tshirt LOL. Hope you have a sense of humor.

 
November 23, 20110 found this helpful

I've been hearing this also more and more lately about how hard it is to fit into small towns, how some are so cliquey and distrustful of outsiders. (They say sometimes it's because the citizens have been "burned" in one way or another by outsiders, therefore the reluctance to trust again.) But it is hard for the outsider; so thanks for the tips, good ideas.

 

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November 23, 20110 found this helpful

You know, it's really a sad commentary on the way some people act. Especially adults! You would perhaps expect cliques from kids, but from grown adults? How shameful. I live in a somewhat small town, but I'm older and it seems the young ones have taken over because of their kids. But most everyone is friendly, at least on my morning walks I've met some really nice, friendly people.

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That brings to mind something else. This Saturday is supposed to be "buy local" Saturday. While that is a nice sentiment and a great idea, if the customer service is lousy which it is a lot of times, I won't shop local.

I had a large construction project that I needed done to my house 2 years ago and I tried desperately to have the local contractors bid on it. You think I could get them to respond? They wouldn't even return my phone calls? And I'm supposed to support their business? I don't think so.

Anyway, I'm glad you finally found your "niche" and now fit in. I hope you don't fit in to the point that you snub other newbies like you were snubbed. I just don't get it.

 
November 27, 20110 found this helpful

Sounds to me like that town is lucky to have you. Good luck to you and your family.

 

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