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I have 4 siblings and we're trying to decide what to do for our parent's 50th anniversary. We've gone from giving them a cruise, to a trip to Japan, to a party at the local Sheraton hotel, to a measly Chinese restaurant dinner and a gift certificate. We cannot seem to agree and we all have differing budgets, not to mention having to pay for travel, hotel and car rental expenses for some of us - not in lieu of, but in addition to the celebration expenses.
I live away from my parents and it is very rare for us all to get together at one time. My Mom treasures those times more than anything else. Perhaps you should all choose a central meeting location. Rent hotel rooms or a cabin. Just spend time together as a family. State parks can be pretty reasonable with cabin rental, and a lot of them are very nice. Depending on the time of year, you may have to make reservation pretty far in advance, but it sounds like you have plenty of time.
Good luck with the planning, and enjoy the time you are communicating with your siblings!
As a mother, grandmother and great grandmother I feel the best gift you could give your parents is to have all of their children together for a long visit. I know I really look forward to seeing all of my kids together, interacting with them and watching them interact with each other. It's like having all my chicks back in the nest. I would rather spend time with my kids than go on a cruise or see Japan. Maybe have a party with family and friends then spend a week talking about how much fun it was and seeing the sights in their town.
Since your brothers live near your parents, have them casually, during a conversation, mention it's their 50th coming up. Reminisce with them about how they met, where they went on their first date, and what their plans were when they first married.
Also ask what are THEY are planning, you don't want to interfere if they have something special they want to do together.
If a trip for them is in the planning, try to find out where THEY would like to go. They might just like to spend a week, or even a weekend, at a nice hotel, somewhere where they can relax, do some sightseeing, or see a show. Or maybe they'd like to take turns spending a week with each of you, doing some sightseeing and getting reacquainted.
And definitely plan a dinner out with ALL of you present.
I guess it would depend on your family and what things they enjoy, but something we did for our parents on their 50th and they loved was to have a professional video photo album made for them. We gathered up family photos from the time they met to the current date and had them set to music to fit the photos. You could also do music to fit the time frame of the photos, but that would probably be more difficult. Since it takes a while, (lots of time gathering and sorting photos) it might be too late for something like this, but it is a thought.
For the 50th Anniversary... how about you all split the costs and give them 50 day trips to places? They don't have to be expensive or set in stone, but give them where to go and when if reservations are required? That way you are only paying for 10 things and each of you can either work together or decide on your own and compare then to make sure no one else is doing the same. A dinner would be also nice, and ask people to write a favorite memory of them, and make a book. (ex. 50 Wonderful Memories of you for 50 wonderful years). Just a thought.
I have three brothers and I am the only girl and we want to give our parents a 50th anniversary party. they go on cruises or travel whenever they want. It will be held in the barn at my house, which is very nice. my brothers can't afford a lot, so any ideas would be helpful. We are looking at about 150 people to attend
50th Anniversary is golden anniversary. For a sentimental gift how about 50 silk magnolias sprayed gold, and arranged in a lovely vase.
You could treat them to a side trip on the cruise.
What is an classy, but inexpensive gift for a 50th wedding anniversary for a cousin? Something besides a picture frame.
By Sandra from Coal Creek, CO
My opinion is that it doesn't necessarily have to say something about 50th anniversary. But if you want semething a long that line how about a Christmas tree ornament that says 50th anniversary. Go to Bronner's.com and I think you will find things like that. I know when my parents had their 50th one of the things that they received was an embroidered thing that had some kind of verse about 50 years. It was done on ecru colored cloth and the design on the picture was done in a golden-tan color and the words in black, whoever gave that to them also framed it in a purchased frame.
How much is expensive to you? For my brother's 50th anniversary I went to a dollar store and happened to find a gold gift bag, gold foil, and gold 'easter' grass. Over a period of time I got from the bank 50 of the gold dollar coins. I cut the foil and wrapped each coin in a piece. Then I alternated the grass and a few coins till it was all in the bag. To get at their gift they had to find all the coins and unwrap.
What we did for my friends parents 50th was get 50 cent pieces from the year they married to their 50th year & put them on a piece of cardboard than we put a number 50 in the middle with the gold dollars. Put it in a picture frame with glass over it. It was heavy but beautiful all the same. Only 1 of the 50 cent piece cost us a few dollars to buy because it had never been in circulation but still didn't look out of place & the gold dollars we got at the bank. If you want you could make it with pennies & dimes but since it was a very special time & we wanted to use the gold dollars & the 50 cent pieces. So hope that gives you another idea & it can mean alot because it's made from the heart. Good Luck on whatever you decide.
What did you use to put them on the cardboard and have them stay. A special glue or tape?
We need tips for our 50th wedding anniversary. Perhaps a nice getaway or bed and breakfast, but something that is really special.
By blessedlady from San Bernardino, CA
What sort of things do you like to do together? My thought, if I were to have a 50th anniversary, would be to stay at Disneyland or Disneyworld hotel for a couple of days or more and be like kids again adventuring together at the Disney park ;-) Wouldn't need to do any driving (take the monorail), lots of restaurants and a swimming pool, gift shops and be with lots of people having fun :-)
And, hey, you're not far from Disneyland so you wouldn't even have to book a flight ;-)
Where was your first honeymoon? Could you go there again?
My grandparents never had a first honeymoon; when they had their 40th anniversary, my grandfather took Nana to Niagara Falls--where she'd dreamed of going but they never had gone--for one reason or another, with day-to-day life getting in the way until then.
He wasn't the romantic type,and this really floored her. Is there someplace your hubby has always wanted to go ( that you could live with for this special anniversary?) Congratulations on your 50th--quite an accomplishment!
You don't say if money is an object, so let's just assume you don't want to spend too much. Are you still in touch with the couple who knew you when..? If so, invite them to join you for dinner. You pick up the tab. If you aren't close to them perhaps you can invite other couples who have been married for 5, 10, 20, etc. years and they can join you for dinner. It will make for interesting conversation for sure. Ask people to recall when they first met, bring photo, etc.
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I will be going to California in September for a family reunion and at the same time I would like to surprise my in laws with something special for their 50th anniversary. I am limited to what I can do as I don't have access to stores there and what I can bring. Besides photo albums, do you have any ideas that would make their anniversary a special event along with the reunion?
By Josie from Grand Junction, CO
On my parent's 40th Anniversary we children made up a photo album starting with pictures of my parents as children and we made up captions. For example we said "There once was a girl named Emily and a boy named Art". Then on the next page we showed a picture of their engagement and said "And then they met and got engaged". Then pictures of their wedding, etc. Then pictures of each child and their marriages and their children. My parents and everyone loved it. (06/15/2010)
This is what I did for my brother's 50th anniversary. In a dollar store I found tall gold gift bags, gold foil, and gold "Easter" grass. I got from the bank 50 of the gold
Sacajawea dollar coins. I wrapped each coin individually with the gold foil. Then I put the grass and wrapped coins alternating them in the gold bag. They had to go through the whole bag to find the coins, and unwrap them to spend them. It was family and a fun gift. I hope you may find some use of this suggestion. (06/17/2010)
This is a lot of fun. You can custom make a fake newspaper, featuring all they have done together over the last 50 years. I have suggested this a lot, and I always tell people if they can, get two. That way, if they want to display each side of the page, they don't have to have a large copy made.
You can put things in there like their wedding, births, civic awards, jobs, travel, and all that they are in a newspaper form.
Check it out and see if you can do this for them. They would love it! (06/17/2010)
Get family members to send you photos and frame them for table decorations, any year will do. The more the merrier.
Good luck. (06/22/2010)
My parents will soon celebrate their 50th Wedding Anniversary, any suggestions for a gift?
I'm Canadian so not sure if this may be applicable to you if you're an American.
I contacted my in-laws federal M.P. and he went to task ensuring that every government head from local to the Queen's representative (Queen herself only sends greetings if over 60 years, I believe) sent them either a letter or a signed certificate congratulating them on their 50 years of marriage.
For the most part, they were tickled pink. Of course some of the congrats were from the "wrong political party". Ha!
After 50 years together what can you buy, they have for most part everything they want/need.
Give them more attention, phone calls, and visits, that's what they'll really appreciation.
I gave my grandparents a photo album that I had everyone sign with a message by their pictures, including friends they winter with and people they attend church with, they seemed to love it as they show everyone that comes to their house. I worked on it for almost a year, but you can send out pages now and have them mail them back directly to your parents if time is short. (09/19/2008)
What about a weekend getaway? If they went on a honey moon maybe send them to wherever they honeymooned! Gift cards to favorite restaurants.
Congratulations to them for staying together! They deserve a tribute for staying committed. (09/19/2008)
By velsgal from MO
A public show of congratulations is wonderful, if they are that kind of parents. Some are not.
If they are, gather your pennies and see how much it would cost for a "then and now" photo in the paper. There are also some gift places on this site: http://www.google.com/search?hl=enandq=fake+newspapersandaq=fandoq=.
It is one where you can have a newspaper made up to display them on the front page and what was happening that day in the world, or write your own stories about your births, etc. If you can, order two so they can display one side and then the other if they choose to frame them.
Family photos are never a mistake. If you know someone who does scrapbooking, have them make a wedding album with scraps of the dress or keepsakes, etc. If someone is a poet, have them write one about your parents, and either include it in the book or have it professionally framed
If you all can't afford a trip to a nice place far off, perhaps a nice dinner cruise close, or a train ride with a dinner theatre, a tour of the local wineries, or a local event that they always wanted to attend.
And yes, time is the most important thing to give them. You have been truly blessed to have parents who loved each other that long, then tell them how much that has meant to you. That is gift enough. (09/19/2008)
If you can't think of anything else, give them fifty of the gold color one dollar coins, available from any bank. Put them is a gold decorative box. They can use them for anything like dining in a restaurant, or whatever. (09/19/2008)
For my parents we had a big party, all of us kids chipped in and we rented a local hall. My nephew took a bunch of old pictures and made a slide show of my parents from the time that they went to their high school prom together all the way through today. It had us kids, their grandkids and greatgrandkids and it was set to music. The hall that we rented had a big screen TV in it and we played the CD on it. Everyone ooed an yawed all evening. We also had pictures of them everywhere. Best of all is we kept it all a surprise until they walked in the door. This was over a year ago, I still catch my mom watching that CD and looking at all the pictures they brought home that now cover the walls of their home. (09/20/2008)
We gave our parents a pendulum wall clock with a name plate on it saying their first names and 50th Wedding Anniversary and the date. They both loved it! They have taken that clock with them, moving to 3 different states, now.