RE: Young Girl's Hair Styles
When my daughter was young I worked 6 days a week and didn't have the time when I was at home to mess with her hair. She always had it short and was told that once she was old enough to fix it herself she could have it long. Well, she's 30 now, does some modeling and guess what! She wears it short. Also, this is sad to say but I've read that most people who kidnap little girls pick the ones with long hair since it's easy to grab onto. You may just be keeping her safe.
Posted on 09/19/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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My mother could never stand the pain of letting me grow my hair long when I was a child. It was always short, either a coconut cut, yep that's what it looked like a coconut, or a mid ear bob with a very very short fringe and clippered neck. It wasn't until I was 20 that I grew my hair long!
Posted on 09/10/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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We never cut my daughters hair (except for trim ups) from the time she was born until Kindergarten where she got head lice & we HAD to cut it because it was so long & thick that we kept missing lice eggs & she'd have another outbreak. Her hair is blond, straight as a pin & super thick, so thick that even with today's style (just below the ear) it still takes 2 body perm packages to do a home perm on her. She is also very tender-headed. I am very tender-headed too, have ultra fine hair that tangles even with just shaking my head after brushing, but at 50 I still wear my hair long. Nearly all of my life, as has my daughter (even with short hair), it has become routine to use a conditioner on our hair after washing.
Then, before we brush it out, we use a spray on detangler that we get at Dollar General, use a wide-tooth comb to comb out the tangles, finish it with a spikey-type brush & hope for the best. After it is dry & between washings & we brush our hair, if there is a tangle we use the same spray on detangler - spray just a bit on the tangle & work it out with the wide-tooth comb. Since turning 5 & deciding she was too big for me to wash her hair for her, my daughter has since taken care of her own hair - she's now 33 & has 3 children who, unfortunately have inherited her hair & scalp. The 2 girls choose to wear their hair long. The 5 year old has been doing her own hair since she was 4 - both girls do the same thing their mother & I have done nearly all our lives.
Perhaps your children have very tender scalps & don't like to brush it because of the tangles & pulling. However, they shouldn't go without brushing their hair at least twice a day! Yes, it IS up to the parents to teach their children good grooming habits, otherwise, it will get worse as they get older. It's not right that your wife gives you 'those looks' because you want the children to be presentable in public. Isn't she embarrassed when they go out looking like lost little orphans? I would be! Raising 5 children was really, really tough at times money wise. There were a lot of things we couldn't afford to get - but our children were always clean & well-groomed when we went out in public. You need to make it an absolute rule that hair gets brushed before leaving the house! And don't back down!
Also, your daughter should make up her own mind about whether to wear long or short hair. My mother kept my hair in a boyish style & refused to let me grow it long - too much trouble, she said. Because I was too much of a tomboy, was another excuse. I hated it & yearned for long hair. Since I married I haven't cut it except for trim ups or long cut styles. My hair is so fine & burns horribly during perms (I have a 3.75 minute set time before it starts to burn) I haven't had a perm for years but put my hair up in long styles most of the time, French twists, etc. - & it tangles less & most are easy to do. Yes, it's a hassle to keep my hair this long - but it's my choice...
Posted on 09/08/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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Once your daughter is "old enough" to style/groom her hair she will decide for herself what works best. If she does not want her hair brushed etc. Why put your poor wife through the agony and fuss of long hair? Are you willing to take over your daughter's hair care?
Posted on 09/04/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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My daughter has had long hair twice now and she's 11. Right now it's long but not extremely so. We just got a couple inches trimmed before the start of school and her bangs cut. She has had a cute little turned under "bob" sort of hair cut too and that looked most adorable on her. Short hair is easier to take care of as Amanda's hair gets very tangled and she's not good about keeping it brushed. I usually see to it that her hair is brushed well before she leaves the house. I think it's a reflection on me if she goes out with her hair looking a fright.
Even tho she's old enough to take care of it. She doesn't like me to get the tangles out and complains and I can imagine it does hurt. She likes me to do hairstyles other than it just hanging down. The first time we let it grow out, she was about 4. My husband wanted to see her with long hair. Then when she started Kindergarten we got it cut again because it was just too much of an ordeal each morning to get it brushed. Now she wants it long herself and that does seem to be the style for girls her age but I've also thought it'd be cute shorter again and definitely would be easier.
Posted on 08/28/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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No, I had a pixie cut all my childhood and my mother was a hairdresser. LOL
Posted on 08/28/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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Thank you all for your answers. I am humbled. You all must know my wife. I am staying out of the long hair debate. Again thanks.
Now, lets try this one. I have a boy age 10, girl age 8. My wife never asks the kids to comb there hair before leaving the house, or ever for that matter. Their hair is combed once after they bath and wash hair about every 3-4 days.
Before they leave for school , I ask them to comb there hair before leaving. I often get a nasty look from my wife, as if this in inappropriate.
Isn't it the job of the parents to teach our children how to groom themselves? Or do we just wait and let them figure it out when they start to care about there image.
Posted on 08/27/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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Your question is really a mixed bag. From what I can tell, your daughter doesn't want long hair, YOU want her to have long hair. She doesn't want it brushed or doesn't want to keep it out of her eyes or....she's really not ready for anything other than a hair cut that allows her to just be. Give her a few years and let her make that decision when she can care for her choice by herself.
Posted on 08/27/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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Having had both long and short hair, I can speak only for myself, but here is my opinion: Short hair can be great in the summer, easy to manage, great not to have that hair, even in a pony tail, on the neck. Imagine wearing a fur wrap around your neck on the hottest day of the year, ugh. Wash and go in a very short time. Look at other girls her age, are their hair lengths short, how about the actresses or singers she admires, are their styles short. Girls that age often want to emulate someone they admire, hair, dress, mannerisms.
Now for long hair. It is a true commitment. If she already does not like her hair brushed, imagine a few snarls in her hair, or if (heaven forbid) she gets gum in it. Also, very long hair (I could almost sit on my hair at one time) takes a long time to wash, and make sure you get all the soap out, then you have to creme rinse it, making sure you get all that out. Brushing it out can take 15 to 20 min, then putting it in a plait to keep it in some kind of order while sleeping.
Taking it out of the plait, brushing it again before getting dressed (and styling it, too) that in itself if she likes really styled hair can take an hour. In the summer, it is a downer, I don't know about others, but I shed my hair like a Persian cat. Hair everywhere. On clothes, furniture, in the shower drain, Thick long hair on the neck is torture in the summer (think of that wrap on your neck w/o much relief). However in winter, if you put your hair over your shirt but under your scarf, you can keep a bit warmer outside. Long hair is a real commitment.
Enjoy your little girl and her short hair. All too soon she is going to start experimenting with different styles in hair, clothing, make up and some boy is gonna steal her heart. She'll let you know when (or if) she wants to grow her hair.
One more thing: A little girl often feels like a big girl and boosts her self esteem when her parents not only make her own decision on her own style, but support her on those decisions, even if you'd like her to try something else.
Posted on 08/26/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I think long hair is way over-rated.
Posted on 08/26/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I'm almost 70 and never had hair longer than touching my shoulders because of fine and hard to manage hair. I have always liked short hair and have had many short, feminine styles. Also, since high school I have colored and taken care of professional styling on my own. Long hair does not equal feminity. Don't fight your wife unless you are prepared to do your daughter's hair! Let your daughter make her own decision about length when she is able to take care of her hair.
Posted on 08/26/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I was a tomboy and never had long hair until my senior year in high school. My mom even took me to the barber shop with my brothers in the summer time. I think a lot has to do with how much the mother wants to fuss with the daughter's hair. I kept my daughter's hair short because I didn't have a clue what to do with it beside a pony tail.
Posted on 08/26/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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My parents kept my hair short until I turned fourteen when I demanded to be allowed to grow it long with the condition I promised to take good care of it ;-) Keep in mind I am now 55 so it hasn't been out of the norm for several decades ;-)
Chill out and stop making it an issue and when your daughter wants it long you'll know ;-) Before then it's your ego battle of wills with your wife and that's silly! It's obvious to me that if your daughter doesn't even want her hair brushed or wear a barrette that she could give a rats behind about having it long and doesn't care if it's short!
Posted on 08/26/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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Remember: It's her hair. If she already hates having it brushed and doesn't like "doing" her hair with barrettes and things Do not push for long hair. Long hair on a kid is a pain the the wahzoo anyway. When, and if she's ready for longer hair, she'll let you know. Until then, Dad, stay out of it.
Posted on 08/26/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I agree. Don't push for a hair length other than what she has already. You, as her father, have a very important role in validating your daughter as an emerging young woman. Enjoy her as she is and compliment her on all the maturity you see coming from her in whatever forms it presents itself. She needs you to support her and not come off as being critical which she will interpret as negative and rejecting.
Posted on 08/26/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I don't think it's odd that she had not had long hair ever. However, if the issue is keeping it our of her eyes (always an issue with my girls), she can always have it cut in layers.
Posted on 08/26/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I absolutely agree with Trenea and I think I have a little knowledge, having raised 5.
Posted on 08/26/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I don't know that I'd call it odd. Many parents keep their kids in short hair because it is so much easier to handle. Your daughter is getting to the age where she will start paying attention to the way other girls her age look and she may decide on her own that she wants to grow it out. I certainly wouldn't make a push for it one way or the other. Girls are so sensitive about the way they look around that age--she'll have enough body images to worry about. If she's happy with her hair, I'd just leave the issue alone.
Posted on 08/22/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
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