RE: How to Talk to Mother About Shaving Legs
As far as the previous poster who is eleven.....it is NEVER good to tell your mom a lie...you will wind up losing so much trust...we know more than you think...and that's much worse than not being able to shave your legs.
If that is what you did....please tell her you are sorry!
I rec'd an email from someone, but she is no longer registered to reply back...I was not referring to you...sorry, but on active topics when this first was posted there was another 11 year old who was tempted to lie. Sorry for the confusion, but I guess they never posted her feedback.
Posted on 02/28/2009 | Report Spam or Abuse
RE: How to Talk to Mother About Shaving Legs
I don't know how old you are and that's good to keep things in general...I know I was in 5th grade when I started shaving... I know it bothered me too. "All the girls in my sunday school class wear pantyhose", I was open and honest with my mom on how I felt.
I will tell you this.....once you start....you have to keep it up and it's not a glamorous thing! :)
My younger daughter looked young for her age and I just told her when she was in 5th grade that she too could shave, but that she should wait until 6th and she did....none of her friends gave her a hard time and it worked out great for her.
That being said....don't always try to fit in the crowd, but if it really bothers you...sit down with your mom and be honest and respect her final decision.
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Farhana- I'm so sorry that your mom said no! Did you ask her about if you could use something like Nair or Veet? Maybe she's just concerned about you using a razor.
When I asked about shaving, I had to ask my dad, because I was at his house for 2 months and it was gonna be summer so i needed to ask before I went off to camp (I didn't want to be the ONLY girl at sleep over camp WITHOUT a razor).
So I said to my dad, 'hey, dad do you think you could take me to the store to get something for camp?' he said, 'well, what do you need?' so I told him, 'I was thinking I could get some shaving things' but of course, he was totally clueless. so he chuckled and said, 'what do you need those for?'
Fortunately, my sister who is a year younger than me came into the room (after hearing the convo) and put her legs on his lap and said, 'dad, she wants to shave her legs and so do I!' he looked kind of shocked but agreed to take us (and now we each get a $25 a month allowance from him for "girl things" like shaving stuff, pads, tampons, bras). That was when i was 12 by the way, and my sister was 11
Posted on 10/14/2008 | Report Spam or Abuse
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Just wanted to say that I'm 14 and in 9th grade. I started shaving in 7th grade when I was like 12. I DO have an older sister, but I didn't have to ask her, because I am a twin. She and I switch off asking our mom things like this. The way we decide is to do rock, paper, scissors, shoot, and whoever looses has to ask.
I asked our mom about bras in 5th grade (which she was fine with), and then Rosie (my twin) had to ask about shaving. Our mom said yes, and she just gave us money to go get it ourselves. I guess she used to this though, because we have an older sister and she grew up having 3 younger sisters who came to her about this stuff.
I think that in a couple of months I'm gonna ask my little (11 years old) sister if she wants to shave bwcause the hair on her legs is really dark, and I feel bad for her!
Posted on 10/11/2008 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I'm 11, and my legs are REALLY hairy. I asked my mom today if I can shave and she says no. Since tomorrow is my first day of middle school, and I'm gonna have to wear shorts. I'm going to try again later. Wish me good luck. =]
Posted on 08/25/2008 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I am going to go ask my mum now, I am so scared but I think I will bring it up whilst at the super market. I hope you is waiting for me to ask! I have been sneaking around using my sisters for ages though, think shes notices but she hasn't mentioned anything!
Here it goes....
Posted on 07/18/2008 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I feel the same, I just don't know what to do, it took me ages to tell my mam I had started my period, but I knew I had to tell her. I felt myself cringe when I did! She was fine with it, but I'm really shy and I just can't bring myself to ask my mam about shaving my legs! I keep thinking right, I'm going to ask her but then when I see her I just can't! I know it sounds stupid but I can't help it and I am really embarrassed in p.e. cause I feel as if everyone is staring at my legs and I have dark hair as well (I'm 13 by the way) xx please help :(
Posted on 06/24/2008 | Report Spam or Abuse
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By Catherine (Guest Post)
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Hey!
- I am 13 years old (7th grade), and I just started shaving when I was 12 years old! (last april) MY GOD it was so hard to ask my mom about shaving my legs, at the beggining of the year I finally worked up the nerve to ask her about a bra, and she said of course.
What I did to ask about shaving: it was a weekend, and me and my mom were in the living room sitting on the couch, and I just leaned over and put my head on her shoulders and asked what magazine she was reading, and then I sorta just said "mom, I think i should shave my legs, because i kind of feel uncomftorable sometimes, since i will be wearing shorts all summer."
That is what I said, and it worked! I hope this helps! I know EXACTLY what you are going through, but now I can talk to my mom about anything puberty related.
Posted on 05/18/2008 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I have the same problem. I'm 12 in 7th grade and really scared. My sister started in 7th grade but it's still scary and very embarrassing.
Posted on 05/06/2008 | Report Spam or Abuse
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well i just googled how to ask your mom, if u can shave your legs and i am looking at everyones response and now i am gunna go ask her wish me luck ;]
Posted on 03/03/2008 | Report Spam or Abuse
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P.S. After you ask your mom. The electric razer can be used in your bedroom. That way your not taking up bathroom time, which she and others will appreciate very much.
Posted on 01/27/2008 | Report Spam or Abuse
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Hi there, Maybe starting for the first times, a good electric razer would be best. They have them for duel purpose, legs and underarms . much safer, keep away from water though.
Posted on 01/27/2008 | Report Spam or Abuse
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Just ask your mother and be honest. She will understand my daughter was the same way and ended up trying it on her own and it was a bloody mess in the bath tub. She put too much pressure on the razor and cut her legs, just ask your mother to show you. She will.
Posted on 12/03/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I am 12 and have no older sisters (or any siblings for that matter). How do I ask my mom. People always say ask her like you asked her to wear a bra. Well she asked me about that so, HELP!
Posted on 11/17/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I had this problem when I was in 5th grade, im in 8th now. I was with my older sister at the grocery store and she asked me if i wanted to, I said yes. But Just ask your mom and say its really been bugging you and you feel like its time. But how old are you? Dont be in a rush to grow up and do that because i did it young and once you do it you really cant stop.
Posted on 10/29/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I had this problem when I was in 5th grade, im in 8th now. I was with my older sister at the grocery store and she asked me if i wanted to, I said yes. But Just ask your mom and say its really been bugging you and you feel like its time. But how old are you? Dont be in a rush to grow up and do that because i did it young and once you do it you really cant stop.
Posted on 10/29/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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same situation 35 years ago!! I paid my little brother & his friends to 'taunt' me & call me doggy legs or something, then I pretended to cry & ran to mommy. She said "go ahead, but once you do, you'll never be able to stop".... BOY, I wish I'd listened instead of being in such a hurry to grow up!
Just know that it changes your LIFE because from then on, you'll pretty much be a SLAVE to the razor!
Posted on 10/25/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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the next time you both are in walmart shopping and she goes to the section for shampoo etc. find that area where the shavers are and start the topic of conversation there by saying"is this the type I would use to shave my legs because I would really like to start doing so mom" I'm sure she'll remember her time in her life and feel its your time too. Sometimes the moms get so busy they just simply do not think of all these things or changes you are going through. And you'll have to bring it up so she can remember when she went through the same thing at your age. After its said & done you'll see it was just a grain of sand & not a mountain to climb in the asking her about it.
Posted on 10/19/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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By kimmylynn2u2 (Guest Post)
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Whitney,
Just be honest us moms were kids too and remember we went through the same things with our moms too tell her your legs make you feel uncomfortable and you would like to have nice smooth ones I bet your mom hasn't even given thought to it as we all wanna keep our girls lil! Honesty is best! Good luck it will probably be so easy you will wonder why you fretted at all.
Posted on 10/19/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I had this problem. Seriously it is so much easier to get up the courage and ask her directly. I'm sure she did it when she was young, ask her how old she was! My mum wouldn't let me at first so be prepared to keep trying. Good luck!
Posted on 10/15/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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Best thing to do is to put it into a letter. If you write the letter on your computer, then you can get it in decent shape before you print it and leave it out for her (in a place where nobody else will get it). If you handwrite it she's more likely to say yes, but you can still use the computer for figuring out what to say.
If I wrote it, it would say:
Mom, I'm shy, I'm nervous about asking, but I would like to shave my legs. They obviously need it, it seems to me. Please help me get going with taking care of myself in this way, since I will need supplies for this, like something to shave with. Thank you for your time. Sincerely, ...
Posted on 10/09/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I would say: Mom, I need to talk to you when you have a chance about something that has been bothering me. Then let her know just how important it is to you and why. You might not want to say, because all my friends are doing it, just stick to why it is important to you and that you have researched the best and safest ways to do it.
Or, your could start by asking her how old she was when she started shaving her legs.
Good luck!
Mary Lou
Posted on 10/08/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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If none of these suggestions appeal to you, then when your mom is sitting down put your leg up on her lap and ask "ya think it's time"....? You probably won't have a problem asking her when you could go out on a date, so this shouldn't be either. If this is a problem, put shavers on her grocery list and then I am sure she will come to you!
Posted on 10/08/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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IMHO, the mother should be taking the lead on shaving. It should form part of guidance on growing up, like using deodrants, wearing stockings and bra's, etc. OK, I was a teenager more than 40, yes FORTY!! years ago, but the basic situation is the same. So many young girls have posted about their need to shave and their fears/hesitation in asking their mothers about it. So, all you mothers out there, reach out to your daughters and they will appreciate you for it.
Posted on 10/07/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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Ask your mom how old she was when she started shavng her legs. This will lead into the subject of letting her know you are interested in starting and ask for her opinion. Moms love it when their daughters ask them for advice. If she is concerned about the razor (there's a lot out there that are much safer than in my time) and is difficult to cut yourself even in the learning process. Good luck!
Posted on 10/07/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I know how you feel, I am 30 and still waiting waiting for my 12 year old daughter to ask me if she can shave. Of course I'm going to say yes because her puberty is out of this world she is always talking about BOYS BOYS BOYS, and how their looking at her legs and picking on her but I know she is just afraid to ask. I STARTED shaving at the age 12 and she needs to ask me.
Posted on 10/07/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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The most terrifying part is asking. But I agree with the other posters- A lot of moms wait for their daughters to bring it up out of fear of embarassing them. Honestly, would you want your mom to mention it to you? When I asked my mom about shaving, she took me right out and we bought an assortment of razors and creams and I spent the evening figuring out which I preferred. (I was nervous about using a razor at first) And don't be surprised if she pouts a little. It can be sentimental when a daughter grows up. :)
Posted on 10/06/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I'm with the other ladies, your mom probably remembers and will be be understanding so just ask. If your mom objects to the razor, ask if you can use the lotion. Most moms are ok with the lotions.
Posted on 10/06/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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I know exactly how you feel! I am 71 and had the same trouble working up nerve to ask my mama. When I finally did she said I might want to do the underarms too. She was waiting for me to bring it up for fear of hurting my feelings.
Posted on 10/06/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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By Julia - Nineveh, Indiana (Guest Post)
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Unless this is a cultural or religious issue, I would simply ask mom to have a chat. Explain to her how you are feeling and that you wish to do something about it. Maybe you are not ready to shave with a razor however there are products out there like Nair hair remover which is a lotion you smooth on your legs and leave on for 4 minutes and wipe the hair away that you can be responsible enough to use. My daughter started with this method at 10 years old and was just allowed to try to use the razor at 12 years old. She is doing beautifully. Remember we were young ladies too once and I am sure your mother will understand how the appearance of your legs matters to you.
Posted on 10/06/2007 | Report Spam or Abuse
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