Sympathy Gift Ideas

A close friend (she's 40) just lost her father to cancer. She is receiving condolences of plants, flowers and food. I want to do something for her or give her something unique. Does anyone have any ideas as to what to do for her, or what to give her?

Marnita from Cumming, GA

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Maybe a blank journal with a gift certificate to have lunch or dinner with you when she is ready to talk or just wants to get out. That is what i would like , just to know someone cares .

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When my husband died my daughter's girlfriend gave us copies of photos she had taken over the years that included my husband. We enjoyed sharing memories and they made a nice addition to our collections.

Love & Prayers,


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I would suggest your time and an ear. When I lost my father 9 years ago, I would have loved to have had a friend to just listen and let me talk about and remember him and grieve without any shame. Talking about the loved one is the first step in the healing process. Maybe you could find some time together alone and you could just begin by asking about her father. I'll bet the rest just follows from there. She will really appreciate it later. Good luck!

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There are some wonderful poems and books available from ; one is called The Dash, and another is Remember Me. At my friend's father's and sister's funeral they read the poem The Dash, it is really lovely.

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Marnita, What about a keepsake. You could find the obit in the local newspaper and have it laminated. You can cut it into a bookmark for her to place in a book that her dad like to read or perhaps the family Bible. You might also gather from another family menber a few of her dad's things, small items that she might like to keep and make a shadow box with those items in it. I did this for my brother when our grandparents died. I had quilt pieces that my grandma made and my grandfather's pipe and a can of Prince Albert along with his matches that he loves so dearly. We both cried but it made a great reminder that the little things mean so much!

You are a good friend!


P.S. I used to live in Cumming Ga. between 1978-1980, it's a nice place to live.

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Call her at a time you know she is likely to be free and ask her if you may come over then and take her to get a light meal, dessert or even a shampoo and blow dry. Be there with her, let her talk and help her get out of the house and back into "society". Sometimes inertia is hard to overcome and one winds up just sitting and stewing. Doing something concrete that actually, physically makes her feel good will do her wonders as it lets her know you really DO care and are willing to put yourself out a little for her. It doesn't have to be expensive.

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A friend of mine compiled a list of things to do when a friend or loved one has a death in the family. She had just lost her mom and wrote this up a week after the funeral. She was in her 40s and had children of all ages at home. I printed it out and keep it on hand now so I have more of an idea of what I can do.

You didn't say how long ago your friend lost her father. This is a long list, but maybe you can find something useful.

My condolences and you are a great friend to think of her. :)



Make phone calls

Stay and visit

Run kitchen at meal times

See if the supply on paper products is low - kleenex, TP, paper plates, etc.

Take clothes to cleaners


Stay and visit

Run kitchen at meal times

Pick up clothes from cleaners

Breakfast food

Offer to help pick out flowers

Change bedding for out of town overnight guests

Wash cars

Bring pictures and anecdotes to share

Food for noon and supper meals

Take children out on errands such as shopping for funeral clothing or haircuts


Stay and visit


Stay overnight

Take food to funeral home lounge


Organize dinner

Donate dinner items (food or table decorations) and volunteer to serve if needed

Stay overnight


Buy stamps for thank you notes


Phone or visit

Make a lunch or supper date

Take them out to coffee


Act as a taxi, those who are crying cannot drive, children have events, parents need groceries

Babysit younger children at the house or take them home with you

Entertain tweens and teenagers

Tend to duties such as pets, yards, dishes, etc.

Get children from school

Be a tag along

Give money

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If your friend has a garden, a small statue or fountain provides a lasting memorial.

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You guys are awesome!!! Thanks for all the great ideas. Marnita

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This isn't really a gift as much as a service in the name of love.

Bring every thing you'll need to clean the bathroom. This was suggested when I belonged to a Grief Support Group. It's a great idea.

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How about a Journal that you circulate among friends and family

they can record their favorite memory of the loved one

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Can you crochet or knit? If so, a prayer shawl would make a wonderful gift. I have crocheted the prayer shawl from and it's easy and beautiful.

Sherry in Georgia

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The poems from Linda Ellis are wonderful, i am going to order and see about putting a copy of the "Remember Me" by my Mom's grave site

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I would suggest a food basket. Like soups, you could buy a big bowl and put soup packets in it, along with maybe a good snuggle blanket. Or coffee, something that you think she would enjoy. You could add a book of poems or the pictures that was already suggested. Make a small photo album and add that!!

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What abt planting a tree in his memory?

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I gave my friend money for the specific purpose of buying a nice picture frame for a special picture of her father. She chose to frame her parent's wedding picture, as her mom had died when she was only 2 years old and her father remarried. She was raised mostly by grandparents. She told me many times how much she treasured the gift and the idea.

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The gift of MourningStones is a wonderfully unique sympathy gift. It is on the web. Just type the name and add "dot" com

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i think the best idea is planting a tree. everytime she sees the tree it will remind her of her father and the tree will live a long time

(not that any of the other ideas suggested were bad)

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A small keepsake to hang in a kitchen window is a nice gesture of remembrance. ... ?PageAction=VIEWCATS&Category=53

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the creation of a Memory Garden can bring such comfort because of it's magical properties. It is also a place of peace and reflection.

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Does anyone have directions on making a Keepsake Shadowbox having a flower bouquet inside made from ribbons from funeral flowers and each ribbon is made into a tiny rosebud. Then a name plaque was put at the bottom of it with the person's name, birthday and day of death. These are beautiful, but I can't find directions for making them.

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When someone you know loses a loved one, the grief process goes on for quite some time. Remember their loved one's birthday by sending them a card. Send small gifts on special ocassions, like Mother's Day, Father's Day, Christmas, Easter, etc. Just simply giving them a candle in a container to burn for their loved one at Christmas, means a great deal. It means alot to know that their loved one has not been forgotten. Most people have alot of support immediately after the death, but suffer alone in the months that follow. And, please, don't try not to talk about the deceased person. Their name is like music to the ears of those left behind. They need to talk about them to be able to move on. Basically, just think of the hurting families and not yourself or your discomfort in dealing with death. It can make all the diference in the world to someone who's grieving.

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I know of a company online called "dulaya memories in art" They do beautiful framed art that has words of comfort printed on the matting. It is lovely and can be a lasting keepsake. Go to

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I got these at home grief support cds, I liked it the best because I still have it because it's not perishable, gave me a break from grieveing, relieved stress, it was just comforting. I think it came from this site, I can't find a picture of it on there thou.

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I think a Personalized Memorial Ornament is a great, and relatively inexpensive sympathy gift idea. It can be placed on a stand and displayed throughout the year. Then, at Christmastime, it can be placed on the tree keeping the loved one c ... Memorial-Christmas-Ornaments.htmlose during the holidays.

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I think the most thoughtful thing a person can do for someone who has lost a loved one is to stay in constant contact with the person. So many times after the funeral and everyone has gone we are left alone still greiving while others are going on with their lives. Sending a thinking of you card, a phone call or email, a lunch invite, or just asking them if they would like to go for a long walk would be so helpful to them and thoughtful of you.

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