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My husband is turning 30 and we are new in our city. We don't have too many friends here. How can I make his day special?
By Smitha from Los Angeles
If weather permits, have a picnic at a river, beach or park. Have food that he LOVES, no matter what! Take some of his favorite music with you, a pretty blanket to sit upon, and enjoy. Call the Chamber of Commerce in your area to find 'off the main road' types of parks or places.
Do either of you have facebook accounts? You could message all his friends and have them send him birthday cards.
If you have enough time, you could ask his/your friends & family to send photos and stories and make him a scrapbook.
Why not do some research about L.A. and type up "30 Fun Facts about L.A." You would both learn more about your new city. Include some history about the city and fun places to go see. Maybe include in the card that you will go exploring and visit 30 great places in L.A. That way his birthday will last for months. You can go to funky, local restaurants, cool art galleries, parks, tourists sites, museums, etc... You'll have fun together and make many memories and laughs! Have fun!
Do thirty little things to surprise him or make him happy. Starting with a good morning kiss , breakfast, messages written and tucked into a pocket you know he'll use, pick him up for lunch and do a picnic or restaurant that's at a new location. You get the picture. It could last all day (and into the night! lol) Have fun. Do things he likes to do. Skype with old friends back home.
When my then-husband turned 40, I secretly made a big sign (4 feet by 3 feet) "Honk and wave. I'm 40 today!" and taped it to the back of his van. He drove all over the town that day with people honking and waving and grinning. He had no idea until he got home and walked around the back the of the van and saw the sign.
My boyfriend's 30th birthday is in January. He is the most genuine, sweetest person, always ready to help out anyone. He deserves a great party and at times has hinted he wants a party with all his friends and family (100+). I need help in how to achieve all this with a small budget.
My house will not accommodate everyone one so I am considering renting the local Legion Hall, but how can I make it extra special? Any thoughts or ideas will greatly help. He is into cars, not a sports guy, and just likes having a good time. Thanks
Jessica from New Jersey
If he is such a sweet guy then his friends ought to be willing to help out. You rent the hall and ask for everyone else to bring the food, whether it be a full scale meal or just finger foods. If you can get 50 people to bring enough to feed 100 that would take care of food then call on others to help with the decorating.
You can always ask friends and family to pitch in. Try setting a menu and asking for volunteers to help with food, refreshments, and decorations. Don't be afraid to ask for help.
See what his close friends think would make the evening special. As long as he is surrounded by the people he loves it will be great. Good Luck! Susan Dallas, TX
Three keys to a great party: a) food, b) music - happy and danceable, c) a mix of people who can talk and are reasonably sociable. The shy ones should be in the minority.
Here in Salem OR, we have a shop called Craft World. There, you can get a card that says what everything was the year he was born...price of food, gas, fashions, tv, politics, fads...etc. It's fun to look back. Also, you can gather shots of him growing up, have it scanned to a cd and play it on the computer, as a slideshow. If you want, narrate each photo, or have others do some like his friends, family.
How can you celebrate a 30th birthday when you are away from family and friends. Flying is too expensive right now. How can you make it a big bang with just you and a spouse?
I am looking for fun ideas. I feel it will end up being too "anniversary" like, if its just the two of us. Please help.
By Sara from Bay Area, CA
Invite a few friends, have a cake & some iced tea, if you want to serve more ask each 1 to bring a covered dish,be sure to tell them the starting time & ending time, call your family before the crowd comes in. I wish you a happy birthday & 100 more happy years, good luck.
We've always enjoyed going somewhere or doing something that we've put off. How about the aquarium, a museum, the zoo, a movie, a park, a hot air ballon ride, a restaurant, adopting a pet, finding the perfect pair of jeans, even painting a room. A birthday doesn't mean you have to have a party with relatives. As you grow and mature, relatives move or have other responsibilities; life is constantly changing.
Find ways to embrace those changes since you have no control over them. If you are set to have cake, take it to work with you to share with coworkers or invite neighbors over for dessert. I'd not mention your birthday ahead of time though, or they'd think the invite was a just you expecting gifts rather than you offering the hand of friendship. What is your perfect day? Maybe just sleeping in, soaking in the tub, getting a massage or your hair done, relaxing and reading a good book. No matter how simple, make it about you and enjoy it.
We never made a big deal of my birthday once I started having children. Now that it's just hubby and me, we keep it really low-key. I don't call family, they all know it's my birthday, so they usually take turns calling me. Even when my sister called early enough to wake me on a recent birthday when I'd meant to sleep in, it started my day with a smile!
I think you should do whatever you like on your birthday - be a little selfish for a change! You only have one birthday a year, thank goodness!
My boyfriend is turning 30 in December. I'm having trouble figuring out party ideas. He's really into video games and zombies. If I have a zombie party at a hall can I invite his family members? I also want to try and keep the cost low, but am beginning to feel like this is impossible for Long Island.
Any help you can give would be greatly appreciated!
I think you should only invite the family members that have fun. Then have a small get togther so that the family doesn't feel left out. To keep it on a low make him think y'all are going out to eat.
I am having a 30th birthday party for my daughter. She owns 2 dance studios and loves purple. I am trying to find nice eco friendly seeded invites. Any ideas for invites and decorations?
There is a wedding website that has Plantable Card Favors. You may be able to reword them into birthday invites. I wasn't sure what you ment by eco-frendly seeded invites. Go to www.theknot.com and search Plantable Card Favors or go to http://weddings .aspx?MsdVisit=1
My husband is turning 30 in a few months and I would like to throw him a party. He is into guns and computers, any creative ideas?
Well, when my husband turned 30, I secretly booked a trip for only 2 us. Unbelievablely, He was so supprised at me and we had a happy moment there. You may try it or other ways, such as a meaningful gift
I need suggestions for celebrating my wife's 30th birthday. We live in a new city with no one to watch our kids (4yrs and 6 mos) so they will have to be included in the activities. Her birthday is June 18. Thanks!
By D. from Ottawa, ON
On her birthday, give her a card w/the following itinerary: load up the kids and the birthday girl on Saturday, the 19th, take Mom to a local spa for a manicure/pedicure while you and the kids hit the nearest playground. Then pick her up and go to a kid-friendly restaurant for lunch. Then, with the kids "played out" and fed - off to a nap for them and some "adult time" for you and your girl!
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My wife is turning 30 this February and I would love to plan a party for her. She is a mother of two, works as a RN and enjoys life and me, most of the time.
What would be the ultimate surprise that I could include all of our friends? Some things I've thought of are: house party at our place or a close friends, dinner and a night out on the town, Disney World for the weekend (we live close and go often), or maybe a cruise for the two of us and let the kids stay with family.
I'm losing my mind! Help!
By Daddy Dave, biatch! from North FL
Ask one of her co workers to pass the question around a couple of the nurses. Maybe just having the kids at family and the two of you just staying home. My request? Just me myself and I alone for respite time for 24 hours. No phone, no demands, no nothing. Those days made me feel much better about what I could do the next day. Remember, all these reminders of the impending birthday make women ask themselves what have I accomplished and what more do I want to do. Much more than a surprise and a birthday cakes with all the candles. (10/16/2010)
By T&T Grandma
Please whatever you decide to do do not add to her work load. By having a party at your house it would add stress to her during and after. The worry during and the clean up after. I vote for a mini-vacation. Take the kids to the sitter and take her somewhere where she can't work. No laundry, no cooking, etc., etc. Time with you is always best. (10/20/2010)
This might be a fun treat for her: Take her to a restaurant to eat, and then to a motel, just her and you. I'm sure she would love to be able to spend time with just you, and she wouldn't have anything to clean up afterward. (10/23/2010)
My son will be turning 30 in March. He lives in Chicago with his girlfriend and is a chef. They will be visiting us in Florida for his birthday. I want to do something really special at home with family. Any suggestions?
By Kathi from Palm Beach Gardens, FL
My boyfriend is turning 30 in September. I have no idea what to do. He isn't really into parties so that makes it even harder. It would just be a few friends and family. Nothing too big. Budget is an issue, too. Any suggestions?
Aryn from Diamond Bar, CA
Why don't you throw a slumber party for your husband?
For my 35th birthday, my friends threw me a slumber party (totally co-ed). The friend who had the biggest place (he owned a house) hosted the party. They crowned me with tiara, gave me a baton to use as a scepter, and donned an me with an oversized bathrobe. We had a potluck dinner and birthday cake, then watched movies and played games all night long. We all camped out in the living room. The next day we had a nice home cooked brunch. It was tons of fun and I'll always cherish the memory. (07/26/2007)
I think for your boyfriend you should invite close friends and family over, and throw him a BBQ. You could cook hamburgers and hotdogs and then just hang out outside. If it's not too cold you could have a bonfire at night. (08/01/2007)
We decided to have a dodge ball tournament and played poker, and listened to music and had a BBQ. It was fun to all get together and get involved in some intense gaming. (09/26/2007)
My husband is turning 30 this year. His best friend owns a lot of land so we're going to have a big field party. Everyone is bringing their camp gear. I'm going to hire a band and roast a pig. Looking forward to it. We'll do a bonfire if it's not too hot outside that night. (03/25/2008)
My friends took me on a 4 day 3 night cruise. It was about $250 a person and if you get enough people they throw in the fare for the birthday guest free. Very memorable. (05/08/2008)
I just threw a surprise 30th birthday for my husband. It was a bike-riding scavenger hunt in our neighborhood and everyone had a great time. People brought back-packs and digital cameras for the scavenger hunt. I supplied beer and water so people could load up their backpacks for the hunt. There were about 27 items on the list and some of the items were related to "30" or my husband. Really fun and different. Each team had their own team mascot, which was a blow-up animal. Every photo had to include the team mascot. The pictures turned out really funny. (05/29/2008)
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Just in response to your 30th birthday confusion, here is an idea that is lower budget and personal.
Call a local bus company and create a tour of places around you that are important in the birthday person's life. Creating a personal tour, will bring back memories for all family and close friends to share in. A bus can usually be rented for under $150.00 depending on the distance. You can stop at his first school, where you both first met.
Get every one to suggest a location to add to the bus tour and the reason behind it in the invitation with their response. At every stop get up and explain why to all this is important. End the party at a location where appetizers and cake can be served.
Hope this helps.
LL in Ontario
My boyfriend's 30th birthday is this week, so I wanted to do something that would involve all of his closest friends and family. I rented a bunkhouse (a large, one room cabin) at the Illinois River. They offer horse shoes, volleyball, and a swimming pool, plus the river to float or canoe down.
There are several spots along the river where you can stop for a picnic, and they allow beer on the river, so it will be a fun, relaxing booze fest with those closest to us. The actual cost of the cabin was a bit expensive, but it is worth it to have everyone together for a memorable birthday. Plus, with me paying for the cabin, more people can afford to come along. But the alternative route is to have everyone pay their own share, which was still affordable, around $50 a person for the whole weekend. (08/11/2008)
Make dinner. He doesn't like parties and it's only going to be a small gathering. (12/12/2008)
My husband turns 30 in September and I have found a "safe" theme. A James Bond theme party. It's cheap because everyone just turns up in a black tie, and you can customize it to fit whichever film.
I'm doing a 007 party for him at a local golf club, and the decorations are black and silver. The food is simple finger food (easily bought from Walmart, and only takes a couple of hours to prepare at home) and will have about 60 people attending.
If you want to go smaller, do a 007 theme, but as Casino Royale have a poker night. You only need to gamble pennies for the night. Also, it means the ladies get to dress up as one of the sexy, sassy, Bond girls.
It's a cheap night that will appeal to his boyish side. Enjoy. (01/15/2009)
By Tracey, United Kingdom
I recently did pub crawl in a fun, bar-filled neighborhood in my town for the 30th birthday of a friend. We rented one of those tacky, revamped school buses that are painted with a theme. We had a keg and shots on the bus and then stopped at some of the local notorious bars. It was one of the most fun parties I have ever been to. (01/19/2009)
My husband is turning 30th in July and we are having a party for everyone to attend, then the guys are going camping that evening. (02/09/2009)
In 2008 I gave my BF a 30th Casino night party. We rented roulette wheel, craps table, and a poker table it was so much fun. People want us to have casino night parties all the time now. The decor was mostly bought at partycheap.com and orientaltrading.com. Rental of all 3 tables was about $200 and it came with play chips. (02/16/2009)
I am taking my husband to NYC for the weekend. It just worked out that the weekend of his birthday the Yankees are playing the Indians (his team). We will drive and meet a couple on our way, and his friends from MD and NM will be coming in for the weekend. Total cost $150.00 for tickets (4) and we found great rentals in the city for all of us, a 3 bedroom, 3 bath for about $300.00 a night. I will pay for that $750.00 not bad for a birthday he will always remember. But you could always split the cost with a few of your closest friends and family. (02/25/2009)
My husband is turning 30 on 3-11-09 and he is making a big deal about how old he will be. So, for his party is kind of a Halloween decor party if you will. The decorations are black and grey (streamers and balloons) along with tombstones (the Halloween decor ones from the Dollar store). I also saved a semi life sized skeleton that I will be dressing in Kevin's clothes with a birthday boy hat and pin. The skeleton will be propped up in a chair next to the tomb stone cake I will be making. It will say, "Today we lay to rest the youth of Kevin."
I asked everyone to dress in black and I have a sign in book similar to the ones you would see at a wake, so guest can write a favorite memory of Kevin before he turned into an "old" man and how to work through those mid life crises. It is a cook out; I have a cousin doing the BBQ so Kevin won't have to. There will be a keg and it is in the evening to help with the whole idea of a spooky grave yard for the burial of Kevin's youth. For lighting I have tiki lanterns.
Altogether I have spent around $100 in decor about $150 in food and then the keg. So I didn't really spend all that much. It really depends on the amount of food you want to have and how much you want to spend on beer, liquor, etc. I hope this gives you some ideas. (02/28/2009)
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