Hi everyone! I'm in 6th grade (year 7) and I have a problem. It might sound stupid, but it means a lot to me.
My mum forces me to have lessons with tutors outside of school. I'm really busy (with clubs, homework, etc.) and I barely have any free time! I get good marks on tests and in class, follow the rules and so on. I don't need the lessons, I'm not struggling in school but it's not too easy. The lessons are extremely boring, not helpful, and I'm getting really sidetracked from school worrying about them!
I know people are probably going to say,you should be grateful, not everyone gets this opportunity andyour parents have your best interests at heart, but seriously! I understand that, but I don't want my parents to waste money on something that just brings me down. I've tried everything, but HOW do I convince my parents to let me drop the lessons?!
Thank you in advance. I appreciate your answers.
I sort of get what your mom is thinking and worry about. She just wants to give you the best opportunities in life and especially with school. She might want this because when she was your age she had a hard time in school and really needed extra help that her parents could not afford.
On the other hand, there are times when a parent does not understand the stress they are putting their kids through with a lot of other activities they don't have any time to be a kid.
I feel that you really need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your mom and tell her what you have just told us here. Explain to her that you would like to stop the extra tutoring lesson right now. Tell her that they aren't making it easy for you and you are getting distracted in school. Explain to her that if you start to fall behind or need some extra help that it will be the perfect time to pick this back up. Let her know how stressed you are currently about going to these lessons and how it is not helping you with school but instead distracting you. I think you should have a good talk with your mom and tell her the truth about what is happening. Tell her if your grades start to fall behind or you start to have some issues with the school you will go right back to the tutor to help you out.
It seems like you have your plate full without the stress this is causing you.
Hopefully, a good conversation between you and your mother will resolve this issue and you can return to just going to school and enjoying yourself.
Be sure to choose the right time to have this conversation so everything will be relaxed with no interruptions.
Did you have to miss any school time during this COVID-19? If so, this may be one of the reasons your mother believes a tutor is necessary.
Try to be calm and listen to your mother during your conversation so she can explain why she feels this tutor is necessary for you at this time.
Explain how you feel and promise her that if your grades fall below a certain level that you will agree to finding another tutor but ask if that happens perhaps you could be included in choosing the tutor.
I feel sure your mother only has your best interests in this decision and it is very refreshing that you seem to understand this.
Hopefully, a good discussion about all of this will resolve the matter as this seems to have placed a lot of stress in your life and that is not a good thing for you or anyone for that matter.
Is there anyway you can allow your mother to read this posting? Or could you print out anything that you think might help when you have your discussion?
Everyone wishes the best outcome for you and your mother.
I would have a conversations with your mom and tell her your honest feelings and thoughts (especially feeling overwhelmed). You could let her know if you were struggling or it shows on your grades you would absolutely ask for help. But right now you are doing great, you get good grades not to mention the homework you already have as well as extra circular activities you participate in. You should not have to stress in middle school. I hope all goes well!
This is hard , you have a parent that wants what is best and a child that wants what is best. This is where communication comes in. This is often over looked. Have a one on one talk with Mom, maybe there can be a compromise and agreement for you both. Also keep in mind that what ever the time length for hire for the Tutor has to be reasonable . This would be a job lost for this person, whom may or not depend on this job to make ends meet. A well thought out notice if your Mom decides to end. Good Luck!