My year old cat Lulu is my baby and is extremely spoiled. She nurses on my ear and will only eat baby food off of my finger that I dip into her bowl to feed to her. She was so focused on me and had so much kitten energy that I mistakenly thought she would benefit from the company of another cat. I am gone 9 hours a day and Lulu is all alone.
I introduced them slowly as instructed by all these websites. I showed him to her in the carrier first and she was very curious. She kept sniffing and showed no sign of aggression. I opened the carrier door and they sniffed each other. He immediately went up to extend the olive branch. She hissed and growled at him. I set him up in the bathroom in my bedroom thinking that would be plenty of room for a 10 inch kitten. He started crying. My cat was pacing around growling (I've never seen her act this way). I moved all his belongings, toys, litter pan, and bowls into my spare bedroom and closed the door.
Lulu who always slept with me and would wake up at five every morning to nibble on my ear and fall back asleep with my ear in her mouth purring would not even come near me. She growled and hissed at me when I picked her up. She sat in front of the spare bedroom door all night. She did not eat, use the restroom, or drink until the next day.
When I got home from work I let the kitten (Egg Roll) out of the spare bedroom to walk around and familiarize himself with the place. I put Lulu in my bedroom and closed the door. She ripped up a patch of carpet in front of the bedroom door from having it shut on her. If I have one or the other confined to avoid conflict the other is crying outside the door. If I go in one room to spend time with one, the other is at the doors meowing and trying to get in.
It's only been one week and I feel like I'm not giving Egg Roll a fair shake. He is such a happy kitten and my super sweet girl that I loved is making me so mad and disappointed in her. Her entire demeanor has changed. She cannot play with me because if I try and play with her, he will bulldoze his way in front of her and she just gets mad and walks away. If I feed them at the same time each in different corners same food. He will run right up under her chin to eat her food instead of his. Lulu is not food motivated so she will just leave.
I wanted so much for a family, but my cat is being so negative that I'm distraught. How do you know when it is just not going to work? The kitten doesn't cry when she slaps him and he keeps going back for more. I know this is not playing no matter what people tell me. I feel like I messed up my Lulu. Adopting is for life so I don't want to give up on Egg Roll. Can someone please help me? I'm at my wits end. I've cried several times over this decision. I feel like I'm harming my cat.
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