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Losing a loved one is never easy. For those of us left behind, creating a living tribute in the form of a memorial garden offers us a place to grieve, reflect, and pay homage to our loved one's memory. Enlisting the help of friends and family in the creation and maintenance of the memorial garden will offer all involved a chance to heal. Whether you have lost a human or animal companion, here are some thoughts on creating a memorial garden to honor their memory.
A memorial garden can take the form of a single rose bush placed in a container on your patio or deck, or take the shape of complex landscaping in a corner of your backyard.
The size and shape of your memorial garden is not important and depends largely on what resources are available to you, and how big of a garden you want to maintain.
Like the size of your memorial garden, its location depends on the space you have available. If you are creating a memorial garden within existing garden space, you may think about selecting a site that offers visitors a sense of privacy, or a site that has a favorite view or held a significant meaning to your loved one.
Those lacking in garden space can still create lovely tabletop or terrace memorials with special containers and perennial flowers, herbs or houseplants. Dress up pots and planters with small tokens, figurines, and other embellishments that have significant meaning. Ultimately, what matters most is that the process of creating the memorial garden is meaningful to you and that it comes from your heart.
|Yellow:||well-being, thoughtfulness, consideration, self-control, wisdom and intelligence.|
|Green:||healing, hope, victory, rest, balance, health, peace, and serenity.|
|Orange:||Friendliness, courtesy, sociability, out-going, pride, and abundant energy.|
|Peach:||love and wisdom.|
|Red:||love, passion, energy, and vigor.|
|Scarlet:||courage and loyalty.|
|Burgundy:||success, wealth, and prosperity.|
|Pink/Rose:||love, joy, grace, happiness, affection, kindness, and being in love.|
|Blue:||truth seeking, wisdom, heaven, eternity, devotion, and loyalty ("true blue").|
|Brown:||earthly, worldly, practical.|
|Purple:||royalty, oneness with God, devotion, loving-kindness, compassion, spirituality.|
|Violet:||devotion, affection, love, gentleness, and peacefulness.|
|Acacia:||eternal, immortal love.|
|Alyssum:||grace, gentleness, artistry, delicacy.|
|Aster:||God's grace, love, blessings.|
|Baby's Breath:||sweet, gentle, innocent, harmless.|
|Chrysanthemums:||abundance, prosperity, gratitude, humility. Pun on mum'.|
|Cosmos:||joy, happiness, overflowing love.|
|Crocus:||growth, new beginnings, hope.|
|Daisy:||freshness, newness, simplicity, cheerfulness, innocence.|
|Delphinium:||inspiration, adoration, devotion, blessings.|
|Ferns:||peace, acceptance, grace, serenity, gentility, quietude.|
|Fuchsia:||harmony, healing for those who grieve, angels.|
|Geranium:||positive attitude, strength of purpose, steadfastness and cheer.|
|Gladiolas:||can be pun on "Gladness of heart".|
|Impatiens:||patience, steadfastness, loving-kindness.|
|Jasmine:||peace, goodwill, and healing.|
|Lily:||faith, new life, grace, and spiritual healing.|
|Marigold:||protection, friendliness, cheer, courage, joyful service.|
|Nasturtium:||fairies, cheerful servitude, protection.|
|Pansies:||gentle thoughts, friendly faces.|
|Peonies:||thoughts of the past, memories.|
|Petunia:||peace, harmony, serenity, uplifting of the body and soul.|
|Sunflower:||abundance, sunny disposition.|
|Tulips:||faith, hope, and charity.|
|Violets:||shyness, humility, quiet joy, tender thoughts, gentle love.|
|Zinnia:||friendship, joy, and laughter.|
|Rosemary:||remembrance and friendship.|
|Thyme:||peace or pun on "time".|
Our son died in October and we made a small sitting area with a small maple tree, rock, monkey grass, and ceramics he had in his yard that we brought home. I painted a rock with a sweet saying in his memory - my first effort using acrylic paint and got instructions off the web. I plan to paint more.
By Granny Annie
(The text says: Eddie, If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven, and bring you home again.)
My husband lost both his parents this year and we are not able to go visit their graves. So we made a Memory Garden for them.
If you have a special person or pet you want to honor or remember, here is a design that I did in my garden. I made a heart design and a tear design by digging up the grass and making a flower garden and a shrub garden to honor someone special.
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After my 30 year old son and his 29 year old wife died a week apart, I felt like I was shrouded in death. The next spring, I decided to surround myself with life. It took two years to convert my barren back yard into this garden; complete with waterfall, koi pond, pergola, patio, and deck. This garden became my serenity and helped heal my broken heart. The child is my son's daughter, who I raised. She too, found solace in our garden.
My home in Dearborn, Michigan
When a loved one passes on and the family receives plants. Think of making a "Memory Garden" with them. I lost my dad in 1980 and my sister in 1998 and nine months later my mom in 1999. Wonderful friends knew my love of gardening so we received many plants. Here are some of them.
By Great Granny Vi from Moorpark, CA